Losing weight is lucky??

It's hard to lose a friend over something like that potentially but in all honesty she is obviously not ready for her own journey. Luck has nothing to do with it! It all comes down to hard work and better choices - somedays we do it and some days we don't, but the more good choices we make and the harder we work the farther we come.

I have EARNED every pound I have lost and deserved every pound I have gained back all of my own volition - no luck involved.

Keep working hard and doing what you need to for you!

Hopefully your friend will come around. Her choice.

Congratulations to you for the excellent work you have done and your success. You're an inspiration! I'm just starting the journey and I plan (not hope) on being successful like you.:flowerforyou:

YOU DONT FEEL BAD ABOUT ANYTHING YOU HAVE DONE!!! I am so proud of you and you should be too!!! I feel like she will be back ( Envy is a pretty hard thing to swallow) It is hard when you feel like you have been left behind and that is probably how she is feeling, but she needs to be supportive and be there for you and relaize that you are still trying to stay healthy and being there for her. ( She needs to be a true friend and be proud of what you have accomplished ) she should be happy that you are willing to keep a healthy lifestyle. And also be her partner......... I just wish I lived close to my best friend, she has lost alot of weight and I am the one dragging behind, but I am the one with the gym membership where she is walking up and down a dirt road with a neighbor. But I am happy for her. Hugs to you

It sounds to me like she's afraid you're judging her for her lack of desire to lose weight, and she's afraid you're going to judge even more - perhaps even ditch her as a friend - when you get closer to your goals.

It sounds like she's very insecure about her own weight, and she's afraid of how your loss is going to affect your friendship with her, so she's taking a defensive "fine, if I can't sabotage her, I'll ditch her first" stance. It's important to realize, though, that she may not even realize that that's what she's doing.

Decide if you still want her friendship, and if you do, make sure you're not coming across judgmentally. Beyond that, all you can do is be supportive if she ever swallows her pride and comes to ask you how to lose weight.

No luck involved at all!!! Some of us are lucky to have a great metabolism or lucky to have good gene pool for chloestorol, blood pressure, etc... but no one is luck to lose weight! You work damn hard for every ounce you have lost and I'm sure all of us can say we are proud of you and you are a real inspiration!! Sounds to me like she is upset she is not ready to commit herself to a journey of her own. What size you want to be has nothing to do with her. If she doesn't come around, it's no loss of yours! Surround yourself with those that support and care for you. My best friend wants to lose 30 lbs. (She just had a baby) But she is one of my biggest cheerleaders. She has not started her journey yet. She said she needs the motivation still. Therefore she tells me to work out for her.. push myself extra hard and that will hopefully be her inspiration to get on her journey. And I know it will be. Don't feel as though you did anything wrong. I think she really wishes she had your will power and drive. And hopefully one day she will get her own!

It sounds to me like she's afraid you're judging her for her lack of desire to lose weight, and she's afraid you're going to judge even more - perhaps even ditch her as a friend - when you get closer to your goals.

It sounds like she's very insecure about her own weight, and she's afraid of how your loss is going to affect your friendship with her, so she's taking a defensive "fine, if I can't sabotage her, I'll ditch her first" stance. It's important to realize, though, that she may not even realize that that's what she's doing.

Decide if you still want her friendship, and if you do, make sure you're not coming across judgmentally. Beyond that, all you can do is be supportive if she ever swallows her pride and comes to ask you how to lose weight.

I like this answer. Very inciteful.

I'd bet you a dollar to a donut that you already know you did nothing wrong by being honest with your friend. And my guess is you're also well aware that "luck" and "hard work" are NOT interchangeable concepts when it comes to weight loss. Unfortunately this world is filled with people who just aren't that secure with things. It happens. Sometimes people are insecure with how large they are, but sometimes people become insecure with how large they USED to be. And they forget that their road is theirs and theirs only. I don't know about you, but I've known people who've taken the "Harden The F*** Up" approach toward everybody after they had their own taste of success. And it's really annoying when people who used to be the target of judgement become the judges themselves. My guess? You're not one of those people who go from being judged to being the judge. But my next guess is that your friend doesn't give you that credit.

What would be nice for your friend to realize is that sometimes when people improve their bodies, they don't necessarily destroy their sense of acceptance of others. I started walking when I was 250. Walking was all I could do. My goal was to fitness walk till the day I died. As I lost weight and got healthier and stronger, I walked farther and farther. Eventually I even started jogging. The next thing I knew, I was healthy enough to do races. Since then I've done multiple half marathons, full marathons, and triathlons (including 1 ironman). But I still remember those early days. And the truth is, it was harder to be active THEN than it is NOW. Now, a 3 hour bike ride is a snap. Then, a 20 minute stationary bike ride wiped me out for the rest of the day. This is a concept I never let myself forget.

A few years ago I conned 2 friends into joining me for their very first half marathon. We walked it. Every 3rd Saturday for a full year we'd get together and walk a little farther than the last time we met. By the month before the HM, we were walking 13 miles. We CRUSHED it on race day. It's one of my greatest race day memories. My friends still call me "Coach Joe" for kicks and giggles. I keep asking the fine folks at a local running store if I can sign up as a coach for their half marathon walking program. Some day soon they'll have a coaching vacancy and BLAM it's mine.

I hope your friend realizes that just because you have ambitions that go beyond hers, that doesn't mean you'll become just another judge. And I hope she does it soon, so you two can patch things up ASAP and get back to your walks.

What would I do with that? Leave it lie. With a friend like that, who needs an enemy.