Boyfriends body is PERFECT.

You should assimilate your boyfriends body. His meat sack can then be YOUR meat sack!

Took me a while to realize this... but guys don't date the person they think you're going to become, they are dating the person that you are. I always had this mentality of oh he's just sticking around because he thinks I'll get better, hotter, fitter, etc. Um, no, most guys don't have that much patience in relationships. If you improve, great but he likes you the way you are right now or else he wouldn't stick around.

Improve for you. Get healthy and be active for yourself, that's when the results stick the longest.

I feel much the same way. My boyfriend is super fit and athletic and takes amazing care of himself, and I am endeavouring to do it too. I want people to look at us together and think how great we look together.

in for pictures of the boyfriend. don't be shy OP. We need pictures to better analyze the problem.

And pics of you.....Generally there is only a 2 level step up/down allowed. Chances are one of you is a 4 and the other a 6. Without pics it's impossible to tell. In each others eyes you are probably both 10s.

What kind of steps? Do they have to be floored positive integer steps that are contiguous? Or could they be of some other sort? What if instead we transitioned from one step to another using a dirac delta impulse? In that instance, a 1 could easily jump to a 10 in an infinitesimal period of time ergo a 1 could most definitely hookup with a 10.

I feel this way....except about my husband.

Then about a few weeks into my diet, he decides his slim body isnt' good enough he decides to start an eating plan and has been drilling new holes in his belt 3 so far I think. Between that sound and the clippers, I think I'm gonna go crazy.

in for pictures of the boyfriend. don't be shy OP. We need pictures to better analyze the problem.

And pics of you.....Generally there is only a 2 level step up/down allowed. Chances are one of you is a 4 and the other a 6. Without pics it's impossible to tell. In each others eyes you are probably both 10s.

What kind of steps? Do they have to be floored positive integer steps that are contiguous? Or could they be of some other sort? What if instead we transitioned from one step to another using a dirac delta impulse? In that instance, a 1 could easily jump to a 10 in an infinitesimal period of time ergo a 1 could most definitely hookup with a 10.

math and stuff

The guy I'm sort of but not really seeing has a wonderful body too. He does weights, doesn't skip leg day, and runs. He's super insecure but to me he looks like a freaking model. He likes me and I have 50lbs to lose, he says that I'[m fine just the way I am, but he likes the fact I want to get better. As long as he likes you for you, strive to get better for yourself, because it all comes down to one thing. Being happy.

My partner is tiny! 125-130 lbs, at 5'8"? (BMI of 19.5 compared to my 27.5) When I first met him, I wasn't initially attracted to him because of that. But I got over it really quickly, haha, and he was attracted to me before we'd even been introduced. Sometimes I get shy about my body or he gets shy about his, but mostly:

1. We're both pretty confident people
2. I think he's attractive
3. He thinks I'm attractive

I don't know why we grow up and think our sizes must match our partner's. Real life plays out in lots of ways.

Sorry, I'm not participating in your self-hatred fest.

Hm...but by commenting, I guess I really am....OH NOES IT'S A PARADOX! Time must now collapse in upon itself. It's been nice knowing you all.

We are not dating, I've said enough times...

ah, totally feel your pain. I'm 5'7, boyfriend is 6'2 and he weighs maybe 5 pounds more than me... we have the same jeans size apparently.

But then again I have boobs, *kitten*, and sexy. And he has lanky (which I secretly like)... so it works I guess?

Just be confident in yourself, embrace him playing with your tummy fat and just remember he loves you for you! He often randomly pulls at me and plays with my stomach fat because he finds it so interesting and sexy.. I don't know, men are confusing

As with some other people who have replied, I am in your boat. My boyfriend is around 180 and I'm 283. Talk about a difficult thing to swallow. And I understand that it's difficult to deal with - it's something that is causing issues with us because my self esteem is affected by it. But what everyone is saying is true - he is with you because he wants to be and he probably thinks you are as perfect as you think he is.

I am very unhealthy because of my weight and he and I both know it. But he always told me that he loved me and thought I was sexy just as I was and that he just wanted me to lose the weight because he knew how much it would mean to me. The problem with this for me is I know I need to change for my health and from my point of view his response does nothing to help motivate me. So, I tried something that maybe you might find helpful - I let him know that I would not be upset and that I wanted to know his complete honest opinion of what he would change about me if he could. After a while of reassurance that this was something I needed, he finally indicated "maybe a bit here" with a gentle touch to the stomach. Maybe that horrifies some people, but to me, it was something I needed and wanted to hear. So, if you can't accept that he finds you sexy just the way you are, try asking straight out what he would change. It may take some encouragement and maybe there really is nothing. But most partners want the other one to be healthy. It has nothing to do with sexual appeal, because everyone finds different things sexy. But there are many clear definitions of what is healthy.

The guy I'm sort of but not really seeing has a wonderful body too.

That does not sound like a good situation. You don't ever want to be sort of, but not really seeing a guy. Drop the loser. Go meet a guy that will see you, without all the complications.

disagree... if you're young, go have fun. I've been dating on and off for a couple of years after getting out of a long term relationships. I learnt a lot about what kind of guy I want and what I deserve as a person, as well as how independent I am.

And what I need physically and emotionally, most importantly.

We all have different things that motivate us. I'm sure many people, whether they'll admit it or not, have wanted to get in shape to impress certain other people in their life. You really need to try to make it about YOU though. Figure out what goals you want to reach that would make you happy. You say that your body is so terrible in comparison to your man's...has he complained about it? He probably loves you just the way you are. Not to say that getting healthier and in shape isn't a great idea. But don't worry so much about how you look in comparison to others, try to set a goal for yourself and reach it.

That does not sound like a good situation. You don't ever want to be sort of, but not really seeing a guy. Drop the loser. Go meet a guy that will see you, without all the complications.

Maybe she's the one wants to only "sort of" see him... and maybe he should drop her! Wouldn't wanna assume...