Why are people not happy for you when you lose weight??

Maybe they're having difficulty with their own weight loss and it feels like it's being rubbed in their face when somebody else has (or seems to be having) an easier time of it?

They are haters. And they are lazy.

Pure envy. I can't tell you how many times people just shrug off the fact that I've lost 20 pounds and offer me some dessert. Do they not even understand the concept? I feel like some people are just out to sabotage me...:indifferent:

I think it is guilt and jealousy. I feel bad when I see people eating better than I do and when they lose weight I wish it was me (it is now and I am happy about that), but that never stopped me from saying something nice and positive. But, I am probably a special snowflake

Most people are caught up in their own little world and don't notice much around them. It's icing on the cake (is that a bad metaphor?) if someone notices let alone compliments us on our progress. Fortunately you don't need their compliments to be happy with your improved health / fitness. You know what it took to get there and not everyone has it in them to persevere. Maybe they are jealous, more likely they are disappointed in themselves for not having achieved their goals.

I know I feel better about myself both physically (I can walk with less pain) and mentally (I am not so sluggish) long before anyone says anything about my weight loss. It took 20 pounds for my workmates to notice. Admittedly that was a big boost to my ego but I'm not stressing over the fact that people don't care near as much about my health as I do.

You can't make others happy with themselves.

Way to go Judy!! Woo hoo!!!! You will inspire them even if they say nothing.

Maybe they are happy for you but they don't know how to say it? I really suck with making positive comments and sometimes it doesn't even cross my mind until i think about something later and thought "oh i should have said that or this" but the moments past.

Your ticker looks like you are working really hard so keep it up.. You will get loads of support and compliments on here

I find most people are happy and congratulate me on my weight loss. A few are concerned that it is is a sign of ill health. Some think it makes one look older. Basically, not everyone believes it is good to lose weight, for reasons for their own and based on their own experience. Best to believe in yourself and rely less on what others think.

because you are succeeding in something that they want to but don't have the drive to do so!

its jealousy and envy!

certain action of some show their true colours...and while it can be hurtful use that to push you to do more, to be better...

people suck in general...get used to it!

Because most people want to be where you are, but they don't want to have to do what you did and it makes them bitter. CONGRATS on the weight loss

Most people are so caught up in whats going on in their life that they don't care/notice whats going on with others.

Obviously my female twin at half my age is alive and well.

I feel you on this question. I actually got dumped a few weeks after beginning to lose weight and he's now beginning to try and come back around now that I'm down almost 40lbs. Screw him, he can sulk in guilt/shame and eat his feelings while I sit here and take the high road! Don't let anyone bring you down!

I have a friend who was a total hottie when she got married. Then she had two kids and ended up weighing over 300 pounds. Her husband stayed the same weight the whole time. She tried everything to loose weight and couldn't, he kept sabotaging her, "let's go to dinner, let's get a pizza, let's have drinks...." Finally, she had gastro bypass and went down to 105 lbs. She looks awesome! She had lots of energy, she got a promotion at work, then a new job, then a divorce. He couldn't handle it. He needed to be the big fish. Go figure. Some people are just not happy with themselves. What is the saying, "misery loves company". But when you've decided to not be miserable anymore, you need to find some new company. Keep up the good work, and don't let anyone bring you down to their level. With or without your current friends, YOU deserve to be happy and healthy.

Some people are more self centered than others, and cannot get over their own negativity if someone is achieving their goals quicker than them. There are many reasons why people act the way they do, though. Could be guilt, could be resentment, some people just don't keep many people in their radar. Whatever the reason, just keep staying positive to yourself and to them if you care about them. :flowerforyou:

Agreed with this.

Also, my best friend and I are both on a weight loss/developing a healthy lifestyle journey and we both go through our really good times and both go through our struggles, but even if one of us is struggling, we share and celebrate the other one's scale and non-scale victories with them. She's at fifty pounds lost and I am so proud of her. I hope you can find some support like that Not everyone is negative and jealous! And if your real life friends aren't supportive, you know MFP-ers will celebrate your successes with you!