Ever gotten mad at OTHER people's weight loss?

NO!. Why would other people's success bother me? They aren't responsible for my actions, nobody is except me. I sometimes find it inspiring.

Yes, I have and it's tough to stop the jealousy. I have been struggling with my weight my whole life and a really good friend of mine and I started walking together a few years back, one night she started bragging about how she already lost five pounds and we had only walked five times and she said that she was still eating the same. I felt like the biggest loser (not a weight loser) but a loser loser on earth. I just went to bed crying, why couldn't I do that? But I realized later (years later), her metabolism rocks and mine does not. That's why she could do that, not me. I have a different body than she does, my body requires different things and even though it was tough to come to terms with that because I really want her metabolism, once I realized this, the jealousy eased up a tad. Don't feel bad about any progress you make and don't compare yourself to others...they have a different body not a better body.

This probably sounds crazy. But have you ever gotten upset when other people lose weight while you're in the process of doing it? My friend/co worker has bad habits and I've convinced her to lose weight, but she weighs less than I do now anyway, plus she's taller so she will look better than I will when she loses weight because she carries it better. She's busty. I'm all butt and tummy. I'm in no way going to discourage her or anything, just makes me envious because she's going to look better than I will sooner than I will.

I've never ever been affected by anyone to the extent of exuding anger (and frustration) when it's about the body ~ fitness wise. I've experienced both sides of the spectrum from my one and only critic for example. At my largest (for the 1st time in my life ~ lasted for about 3 years), she'd label me "Billboard Sign Post." And she's a size 16W. At my current smallest size (under 120 lb and around size 0 to 4 depending on the brand and country) ~ The labels are "Skinny," "Skeleton," and "Eating Disorder," meanwhile I have a healthy appetite (and am far from looking emaciated just as I was never a Sign Post for my fat distribution didn't make me look odd and at my largest ~ I still wore my regular size 12s only with a tighter fit) , eating more than she does, comparatively to how she restricts ~ hence how large she is I suspect as a result of her dishonest eating and the failure to lose weight. She'd always minded my figure, so when I got huge ~ she was in party mode for the recurring onslaughts. My point to you is ~ you can not allow somebody else's progress or digression or maintenance to determine and affect your drive, your cycle, your pattern, your plan and your goals ~ your ultimate goal.

This is a journey that has to be executed with a conscious sense of self ~ to be all about you NEVER what is ideally-suited for someone else or how they're doing with their programme.

Think about it. The potential of where and how far you can direct your body by design (eating plan + workout routines + lifestyle discipline ) is custom ~ all about you ~ for you ~ to accommodate you!!!

Being angry about someone else's body's performance/result is detrimental to you <~ cortisol bad fat's BFF <~ self-sabotage.

You've done very well for yourself for having effectively managed your fat weight reduction journey to where you are today which isn't all too easy a feat at 5 ft 4. It would be more beneficial if your direction is focussed on (i) Your Measurements, (ii) Your Body Fat Percentage, (iii) Your state of health (Your energy levels & how you manage your energy ~ accumulated, stored and spent energy), (v) Determine and own your sense(s) of self-motivation removed from the binds of discouragement for being magnetised to risk subsequent implosions for resorting to placing yourself in a position from having to compare yourself to anyone else.

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Thanks everyone. I need to figure out how to not let other's appearances affect me..

I practiced yoga for years, and a good, old-school teacher will usually spend some time in class talking about this issue. Everyone has a different body, with different levels of flexibility and strength. Worrying about someone else's ability to touch her toes does not get you any closer to touching yours--in fact, if you get competitive in yoga, you are much more likely to get injured. The same applies to other things in life. Worrying about other people's appearance is a waste of emotional energy, and I don't even think it burns calories

This probably sounds crazy. But have you ever gotten upset when other people lose weight while you're in the process of doing it? My friend/co worker has bad habits and I've convinced her to lose weight, but she weighs less than I do now anyway, plus she's taller so she will look better than I will when she loses weight because she carries it better. She's busty. I'm all butt and tummy. I'm in no way going to discourage her or anything, just makes me envious because she's going to look better than I will sooner than I will.

No. why should I get mad?

I LOVE seeing posts from my friends who are looking to lose weight and have worked hard to do so..I find it incredibly inspiring rather than something that would make me mad.

I'm not mad, but more of I'm really flabbergasted by my husband's weight loss. I've been working hard and eating well for almost two years now, and while I've seen some results, they've been very slow in coming. On the other hand, my husband has lost 60 pounds in 6 months. In this time he hasn't worked out, hasn't changed his eating habits, or anything. All he did was get a job, and the weight has just fallen off.

Another thought: it helps to focus on goals that aren't about appearance. If you start lifting heavy weights, for example, you build up strength very fast, and it comes with extra confidence. Eventually, you see a skinny person and think to yourself, "hmm, I wonder if I could bench press HER..."

I am training with her for a 5k and she kept saying out it's gonna suck and stuff. I think I'll focus on getting my time down?

Yes! If you start tracking your progress now, you can aim to set a personal record at the race--that would be a great "non-scale victory" for you.

No- I just think "they look so good, I can't wait until I look that good" and I know how Hot I was before I packed on the lbs. Except I am much more confident now so I know it's going to be good. I get excited because them losing is evidence that what I am doing will work eventually!

I used to think that way all the time. "God, I hate her because shes so pretty." "Why was I born this way?". I soon came to realize that if I got skinnier to get others jealous instead of the other way around, I would never be happy even if i lost the weight and got thin. Losing weight and being healthy should only be for YOU and no one else. Of course there are days you might feel self conscious, but that's only temporary if you look at the bigger picture.