Discouraged - 65lbs and no one has noticed...
WanderingMe
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Title says it all. I dont know if people are just being polite and not saying anything about my weight, or if its because I started so heavy...it discourages me though. My other half is coming home shortly from deployment, I've lost 50 while he's been gone, and I so desperately want him to notice.
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I am sure he will notice. Sometimes when you see someone everyday the gradual changes aren't as striking as when you see it all at once. Be sure to to cherish the moment! As someone who has redeployed before, I would say that it might take 15 minutes or so for him to really notice your weight. He may be overwhelmed with the emotions of just seeing you again, plus all the hubub at the ceremony and stuff. Don't be too disappointed if he doesn't mention it in the first thirty seconds! Take advantage of the occasion to get a new outfit, haircut, nails, etc. You will feel beautiful and GLOW. That's sexy!0
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Wow well done!!! What an acheivement! Hey your other half will definitely notice! Are you wearing baggy clothes or are you quite a private person around others? Maybe they haven't said anything as they are not sure if you are trying to lose weight or losing it out of worry of your other half being away? I don't know what the reasons are but you have done great Lady! don't ever be discouraged by other people, its inside us that counts and you have done brilliantly and your health will really repay you, you must have found things easier to do with that great loss? Keep going and wear a big smile too :-)0
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Often people who spend a great deal of time around us don't notice it as much, simply because the change is gradual for them, and they become accustomed to it.
But people who haven't seen you in a while, who have an "old picture" in their heads ... will definitely notice.
That's what I found with my weight loss.
And if you've lost 50 pounds while your other half was deployed - dang right he'll notice!
... and a big congratulations! on your achievement ... be proud regardless of whether you think people notice or not.0 -
He will notice! Congrats on your weight loss. I find that people don't tell you if they don't see you actively doing something or talking about it a lot. If you talk about how you are leaving work to go to the gym, people will feel comfortable with saying it. , oh wow I notice a difference. At my last job, I talked about it constantly and ppl would compliment me, etc. At my new job, I don't talk about my weight at all, so people don't tell me, but I see them glance at my baggier clothes. But I have stopped looking outside, bc sometimes ppl compliment when you have gained. Which is why I only go based on the scale or how my clothes fit. Just keep your eyes on the prize and don't be discouraged0
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Well done on your amazing loss. It is a great achievment and you should be so proud.
Your other half will notice (after the initial shock of seeing you!). keep up the brilliant work.0 -
Thank you all so much for the encouraging words0
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He will notice! That is an amazing achievement0
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He loves you not your shape. (It's us who don't love ourselves that creates the problem)0
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Oh he will notice! though i found a similar thing. I lost 50 and no one said much then lost another 30 and tons of people said something.0
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65 pounds lost is great! He sure will notice. The main thing is that you know you did it!!!!!! That is the main prize right there... keep it up and keep living healthy!0
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Try not to get discouraged. I work in an environment that predominantly male and what one of them told me was he didn't know how to compliment me on my weight loss without it sounding like he was hitting on me (and I'm VERY married).
First and foremost, YOU know you've lost the weight, and NO ONE can take that away from you. More people started noticing my weight loss when I made a spur of the moment trip to a local resale shop and started getting clothing that actually fit me. That's when people really started noticing what I had lost.
Have a great reunion with your husband.0 -
I've noticed people loose weight before and I am ALWAYS scared to say anything about it. If I say you look good now, I am inferring that you didn't look good previously. You can bet people notice.0
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Sometimes people feel funny about commenting on someone's weight loss. They don't want to mention it in case it is because of illness, or in case they get a reaction like "So you thought I was fat before?".
Don't be discouraged. Remember that you are getting healthier and be proud of yourself for sticking with it. I'm proud of you, and I don't even know you!0 -
One thing I noted is people wouldn't say anything until I went out and bought new clothes. When I went to 3x from 4x people would make comments then 2x then xl then finally large.0
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Girl, he is GOING to notice.
Dress up, flaunt it, show him how amazing you've been doing both physically and mentally while he's been gone.0 -
that is an awesome job! I am sure he will notice.. It is coming to warmer weather and if you buy I pair of pants and shirt that fit it will be alot more noticeable. I found when I shed layers people noticed more.
I am a bit afraid to shed my layers lol because I tend to hide behind them so I dont get attention. Keep up your hard work!0 -
I'm down 35 lbs and my Mom can't figure out what's going on... she told me that I look shorter... My husband notices a huge difference... I think you should be ok but try not to be too demanding of him to notice right away.. I'm sure he's going to be SO excited and his mind will be going in 100 different directions... but once things calm down I think he'll notice.
ETA: People tend to notice more when I get smaller clothes.0 -
I'm sure people have noticed, but I find that people generally won't notice unless you get new clothes. Or they could be worried that you're not eating because you're worried about your husband, and dont' want to mention anything incase you get upset?0
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I am sure he will notice. Sometimes when you see someone everyday the gradual changes aren't as striking as when you see it all at once. Be sure to to cherish the moment! As someone who has redeployed before, I would say that it might take 15 minutes or so for him to really notice your weight. He may be overwhelmed with the emotions of just seeing you again, plus all the hubub at the ceremony and stuff. Don't be too disappointed if he doesn't mention it in the first thirty seconds! Take advantage of the occasion to get a new outfit, haircut, nails, etc. You will feel beautiful and GLOW. That's sexy!
Love everything about this! And I agree put some effort into it for yourself and for him! Flaunt that weight loss and your beauty!0 -
He may be leary of saying anything. I know my hubby never says anything in regards to my weight. Bad, good, or indifferent. He just will not touch on an area that can be touchy. But I bet he has noticed.0
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Oh, he'll definitely notice. I've lost 70 and only the people that know keep mentioning it as I go down. But a few people that I haven't seen since I started last year have never said a word. Possibly people are uncomfortable with making comments. But also I've found a few people who can't really make "NICE" comments anyway, regardless of the circumstance.
Forget about them and just enjoy your hard work and results and keep up the good work. No matter what, it's really just for you in the end - the most important person. :happy:0 -
65 is alot, you are doing great, remember others shouldnt be allow to validate you... This is for you and I am sure your hubby will notice.... Do you have before pics and now? you can do it!!!!!0
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Great Work... :flowerforyou: He will notice, with: Who are you what did you do with my wife...? If he doesn't, he sure as heck will wish he had... :laugh: :bigsmile: best of luck0
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I am sure he will notice. Sometimes when you see someone everyday the gradual changes aren't as striking as when you see it all at once. Be sure to to cherish the moment! As someone who has redeployed before, I would say that it might take 15 minutes or so for him to really notice your weight. He may be overwhelmed with the emotions of just seeing you again, plus all the hubub at the ceremony and stuff. Don't be too disappointed if he doesn't mention it in the first thirty seconds! Take advantage of the occasion to get a new outfit, haircut, nails, etc. You will feel beautiful and GLOW. That's sexy!
Love everything about this! And I agree put some effort into it for yourself and for him! Flaunt that weight loss and your beauty!
That's right! people may not notice for a variety of reasons;
- maybe you haven't changed the way you dress (i.e wearing baggy stuff or your old clothes which don't flaunt your new shape)
- maybe you have people who like others have mentioned are not sure how best to put the compliment across
- jealousy
Regardless, get your hair done, get your nails in check and get yourself a pretty lil something to wear be it to meet him or for later....and just be happy with him...and be proud of all your hard work!0 -
Congrats on your weight loss! That is an awesome accomplishment.
I can guarantee you that people have noticed!! Some people you work with might feel like it is inappropriate to comment on your body. Others just not feel like you are close enough friends from them to say something personal to you.
When I lost a lot of weight (around 70 lbs, very few people said anything. I later learned some had been afraid they would offend me by making comments about my body. Another friend mentioned that she didn't know the right way to compliment me without making me feel self-conscious, i.e., she thought that if she said something about my weight that I would feel like my weight was the most important thing to her and my other friends (which it, of course, is not). One other funny thing is that my friends eventually told me that our mutual friends commented to them on it, and these mutual friends thought it was really awesome that I was losing weight and were really proud of me.
So don't get too down on yourself. Many times people notice, and silently pat you on the back or cheer for you because they don't want to do or say anything that might rain on the parade you deserve to be having.0 -
It also depends on how big you were to begin with and how big you are now. I bet when you get close to your goal or at your goal people will notice.0
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A lot of people don't comment because they are not sure how to. I've lost 35lb's. It is very noticeable but I've just spent the weekend with my mother in law, brother in law and sister in law and none of them have said a word and they don't see me very often. They are quite reserved so I just put it down to that. I don't talk about it so they may not want to say anything in case I wasn't trying to and saying it would indicate that they thought I was fat before.
At the end of the day I know what I'm doing is working and I'm doing it for me so who cares what other people say. Don't worry about anybody else. You know how great your achievement is.
Though I will say well done on losing 65lb's!!0 -
You notice the first 10.
People notice the second 10.
People who haven't you aren't aren't around will notice the other 10.
If he doesn't bring out a pair of the old pants and show what you've been working on since he's been gone. For all of us out there trying we appreciate it because it's so hard.0 -
He will notice. That is an awesome accomplishment, and you have done fantastic.
I have had some people tell me that they didn't know if they should say anything or not, because it may not be polite, I was kind of flattered by this kind of comment. I guess they thought it might have hurt my feelings or something.0 -
Please don't get discouraged. Remember why you changed your lifestyle - sure you want people to notice, but more than that, you want to feel better and be healthier. And look at the amazing job you are doing!
Keep up the great work!0
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