why do guys hate being picked-up?

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I don't think male culture of the past few decades has allowed for this type of encounter as a general rule.

The "rules" are changing.

Surprise! Women can be strong, women can be aggressive, women are not dainty things, etc, etc, etc.

Not sure the average man who grew up in the 20th century knows how to deal with that.

My sister is on par with my own level of strength (She is a NCAA division I athlete, thus she is ridiculously strong for a woman, considering her size), faster, and a lot smarter than me.

In the Bahamas, where I originate from, 'Sweethearting' is apart of the post-colonial male dominated cheating culture. There is a sense that a man, is not a REAL HE-MAN unless he has multiple women (wife, mistresses, etc)

But there, women are generally regarded as supposed to be frilly, dainty, almost reluctant creatures in the ways of carnal knowledge. It's complete bunk, but that's what the men I recall from my youth there espoused.

Now that's changing in some parts of the world... nothing wrong with that, but men, from the past century are probably just unprepared for it.

You have to ASK this question? I would think it would be obvious to everyone. A girl physically picking up a guy, makes him feel like a wuss! Now if a hot chick picks him up in a bar, that's a whole different scenario!

You have to ASK this question? I would think it would be obvious to everyone. A girl physically picking up a guy, makes him feel like a wuss! Now if a hot chick picks him up in a bar, that's a whole different scenario!

Why did you feel the need to pick up your husband?? That seems very bizarre to me. Just go around surprise picking people up. Attention grab? ADD? If someone, even my BF surprise picked me up I'd freak out. Doesn't seem like something people would enjoy, as it's not very comfortable to have someone haul you over their shoulder.

I've got control issues and don't like people physically picking me up even as a woman. Maybe that's why guys hate it. IDK....

I also only don't like creepy guys trying to pick me up...period. I'm not afraid to tell them to get the hell away either if creepy....is that an ungracious turndown??? If so, then I don't want to be gracious until they aren't creepy.

I also like being in control, probably why I liked asking men out rather than waiting. I like to think I wasn't creepy about it... simply ask them point blank (after finding out if they were seeing someone or not)

I also don't like being picked up (literally) but that has to do with a guy picking me up, running away with me while I'm laughing and then sexually assaulting me when he got me away from the group.

^^^^^we must know the same guy.

Being picked up literally immediately flashes pictures of us both crashing into the ground. Hard. The average man can't hoist 180+lbs up and walk with it, much less the average woman. The fact that you can isn't something that's going to register.

As far as figuratively...doesn't bother me in the least. Unless I'm not interested, at which point I become very uncomfortable. As a man I've been taught to try to accomodate women, to respect them, and absolutely to consider their feelings well before my own.

Makes for a bit of awkwardness for sure.

Its called testosterone. All goes back to the caveman we haven't evolved

Pull my hair and drag me back to your cave please and thank you.

It's an instinctive response - - being off of the ground means I can't use any leverage or control my spatial orientation, my mass, or my inertia, which means that I can't control my body. That makes me want to physically injure the person in a brutal way, until I'm back in control of my body. If it's someone I care about picking me up, I don't like being put in the position of wanting to seriously hurt them, so I would ask that they refrain.

He gets it.

Its called testosterone. All goes back to the caveman we haven't evolved

Pull my hair and drag me back to your cave please and thank you.

If you insist...

It's an instinctive response - - being off of the ground means I can't use any leverage or control my spatial orientation, my mass, or my inertia, which means that I can't control my body. That makes me want to physically injure the person in a brutal way, until I'm back in control of my body. If it's someone I care about picking me up, I don't like being put in the position of wanting to seriously hurt them, so I would ask that they refrain.

He gets it.

Its called testosterone. All goes back to the caveman we haven't evolved

Pull my hair and drag me back to your cave please and thank you.

If you insist...

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