why do guys hate being picked-up?
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Because I'm 6'2" of a solid 268lbs and I WILL throw your back out. I'm going to need that back to remain good for "extracurricular activities."0
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i thought it was funny as hell lol i don't mind being picked up its the showing off that would bug me. for example if she wants to pick me up carry me some where just to have a laugh i don't mind. the showing off would be picking me up all the time to every person she meets that would bug me. girl power all the way
Glad you got a laugh!
yeah I did pick-up my husband once to show off to friends, but I asked him nicely first and we did the cross the threshhold lift... we were newly wed
I'm kinda sad that I lost strength over the last decade, to much time behind a desk. Trying to get back to lifting heavy.0 -
I'd be pretty impressed at a woman that could pick me up and throw me over her shoulder. Seriously impressed. . . It's never happened so I can't say how I'd react ... but I can't picture hating it.
Maybe you should starting asking random women to pick u up? say its for an experiment...0 -
I've got control issues and don't like people physically picking me up even as a woman. Maybe that's why guys hate it. IDK....
This. I don't like people even standing too close to me, let alone trying to pick me up. Plus, there's the whole "omg, am I gonna strain them because I'm too big?" thing. I don't even sit in people's laps due to that.
I imagine some of that might be the same for men.0 -
I can barely pick up my SO, actually I am just guessing by his weight I could lift him from the ground but since he is 6" taller than me and 50lbs heavier.... it would be awkward.
Besides I don't want to lift and get bulky!
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Well, since I gained the weight, no one has tried to pick me up. The weight also helped for creating a greater personal space around me.I've got control issues and don't like people physically picking me up even as a woman. Maybe that's why guys hate it. IDK....
This. I don't like people even standing too close to me, let alone trying to pick me up. Plus, there's the whole "omg, am I gonna strain them because I'm too big?" thing. I don't even sit in people's laps due to that.
I imagine some of that might be the same for men.
kinda concerned about what will happen when I lose the weight...
what about the other meaning of pick up? Have you ever picked a guy up?0 -
The "other meaning" is what I assumed this would be about
I think men enjoy being picked up (on a dating level) by girls, as long as they are interested in the girl. :drinker:0 -
I know that I've had to pick up some of my chick friends (and they all weren't skinny) and throw them over my shoulder and carry them places because they were just being defiant, and I know they hated every second of it...0
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I think men enjoy being picked up (on a dating level) by girls, as long as they are interested in the girl. :drinker:
Even if we're not interested. It's an ego boosting event that never-to-rarely happens in a man's lifetime.0 -
I think men enjoy being picked up (on a dating level) by girls, as long as they are interested in the girl. :drinker:
I know I would like it. Take some of the guess work and fear of rejection from me for once.0 -
I think men enjoy being picked up (on a dating level) by girls, as long as they are interested in the girl. :drinker:
Even if we're not interested. It's an ego boosting event that never-to-rarely happens in a man's lifetime.
so if you're not interested, how do you turn her down? One guy told me he had to repaint his apartment (maybe equivalent to a woman's "I have to wash my hair all day saturday"?0 -
so I read your response and thought "man I wish I was a lesbian".... u know how weird first thoughts are...I know that I've had to pick up some of my chick friends (and they all weren't skinny) and throw them over my shoulder and carry them places because they were just being defiant, and I know they hated every second of it...
but hey, if I was I coulda dated that Olympic hockey player who was hot for me...0 -
I think men enjoy being picked up (on a dating level) by girls, as long as they are interested in the girl. :drinker:
Even if we're not interested. It's an ego boosting event that never-to-rarely happens in a man's lifetime.
so if you're not interested, how do you turn her down? One guy told me he had to repaint his apartment (maybe equivalent to a woman's "I have to wash my hair all day saturday"?
"I'm very flattered, but I'm a taken man."
In my case, it's true. If I were still single, I'd probably go with "I'm flattered, but you're not my type."
In any event, it's not something that really ever happens to men below the 95th percentile, so it's not something I've put much thought into.0 -
I had two bigger brothers growing up who liked to fight, one of which is 6'7" 300+ lbs, so I had to learn how to hold my own; I'm not exactly a weakling. That, and I'm fairly tall, so I just learned to be the 'babysitter' for my friends.
so I read your response and thought "man I wish I was a lesbian".... u know how weird first thoughts are...I know that I've had to pick up some of my chick friends (and they all weren't skinny) and throw them over my shoulder and carry them places because they were just being defiant, and I know they hated every second of it...
but hey, if I was I coulda dated that Olympian hockey player who was hot for me...
Nowadays, if I run into people that I went to high school with and they find out I have a kid, they're shocked because they all thought I was a lesbian. Not sure why, but I find it hilarious.0 -
I think men enjoy being picked up (on a dating level) by girls, as long as they are interested in the girl. :drinker:
Even if we're not interested. It's an ego boosting event that never-to-rarely happens in a man's lifetime.
so if you're not interested, how do you turn her down? One guy told me he had to repaint his apartment (maybe equivalent to a woman's "I have to wash my hair all day saturday"?
"I'm very flattered, but I'm a taken man."
In my case, it's true. If I were still single, I'd probably go with "I'm flattered, but you're not my type."
In any event, it's not something that really ever happens to men below the 95th percentile, so it's not something I've put much thought into.
that's just sad. I think every guy should be asked out at least once or twice in his life...:flowerforyou:0 -
I had two bigger brothers growing up who liked to fight, one of which is 6'7" 300+ lbs, so I had to learn how to hold my own; I'm not exactly a weakling. That, and I'm fairly tall, so I just learned to be the 'babysitter' for my friends.
so I read your response and thought "man I wish I was a lesbian".... u know how weird first thoughts are...I know that I've had to pick up some of my chick friends (and they all weren't skinny) and throw them over my shoulder and carry them places because they were just being defiant, and I know they hated every second of it...
but hey, if I was I coulda dated that Olympian hockey player who was hot for me...
Nowadays, if I run into people that I went to high school with and they find out I have a kid, they're shocked because they all thought I was a lesbian. Not sure why, but I find it hilarious.
same thing happens to me... shock and awe when I introduce the husband...
I think I spent too much time hanging out with my brothers, bad influence when you're supposed to be learning how to be a girl!0 -
that's just sad. I think every guy should be asked out at least once or twice in his life...:flowerforyou:
It's not really "sad". It's just reality. Whether it's evolutionary/genetic sociology or the persistence of Victorian gender roles, it simply is.0 -
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lol because when a girl can pick up a male it makes them feel inferior... they like to be strong and the masculine role.. but hey im proud of you! good job! 0
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it may be reality right now, but I believe change is possible. I have to believe social mores can change because so much of what is the 'norm' right now depresses me. I'm speaking of wider issues than just women asking men out.that's just sad. I think every guy should be asked out at least once or twice in his life...:flowerforyou:
It's not really "sad". It's just reality. Whether it's evolutionary/genetic sociology or the persistence of Victorian gender roles, it simply is.0 -
I'm only picked up by fuglies, so, that's why.
Oh, I guess in girl terms they're called creeps. Now, if they were hot, it would be fine by me. Yeah, double standard but it goes both ways.
It's not like less attractive women are congenitally blind, stupid or have ****ty taste. What the woman looks like would have absolutely no bearing on the effect of the approach on the ego. I'd be flattered just the same. The only difference would be your response to it.0 -
wow, u must be a super nice guy, cause the fuglies actually think they have a chance!I'm only picked up by fuglies, so, that's why.
Oh, I guess in girl terms they're called creeps. Now, if they were hot, it would be fine by me. Yeah, double standard but it goes both ways.0 -
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Come sit by me and flirt away. I'm sure your husband won't mind
ooo... so tempted to flirt, but my husband is watching...
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fair comment.
wow, u must be a super nice guy, cause the fuglies actually think they have a chance!I'm only picked up by fuglies, so, that's why.
Oh, I guess in girl terms they're called creeps. Now, if they were hot, it would be fine by me. Yeah, double standard but it goes both ways.
Thx. I was responding to a remark about creeps. I hate hate the term. We're only creepy if you don't enjoy the advance, otherwise, if you enjoy it, it's awesome. It's just a stupid term. A creep is just someone you don't want hitting on you. That's all.
I actually have a lot of sympathy for men asking women out... You're vulnerable in that moment.
In college I hung out with an attractive woman who tried to see how many guys she could turn down in a night... course she had to pretend interest first.0 -
it may be reality right now, but I believe change is possible. I have to believe social mores can change because so much of what is the 'norm' right now depresses me. I'm speaking of wider issues than just women asking men out.
Maybe. There is mounting evidence that gender roles are not merely social constructs, but may be evolutionarily-guided proclivities that society simply codified into institutions.
In any event, if you're actually asking men out, you're doing the Lord's work.0 -
so sweet an offerrr....
Come sit by me and flirt away. I'm sure your husband won't mind
ooo... so tempted to flirt, but my husband is watching...
a comedian (can't remember name) once said "aren't women beautiful? if I was a woman, I'd be a lesbian. Seriously, all women should be lesbians."0 -
mmmm...it may be reality right now, but I believe change is possible. I have to believe social mores can change because so much of what is the 'norm' right now depresses me. I'm speaking of wider issues than just women asking men out.
Maybe. There is mounting evidence that gender roles are not merely social constructs, but may be evolutionarily-guided proclivities that society simply codified into institutions.
In any event, if you're actually asking men out, you're doing the Lord's work.
I once read about a fascinating tribe in Papua New Guinea where the men and women lived in separate villages a distance from each other. There was a formal courting ritual when men were allowed into the women's village. young boys stayed with the women until age of 5 or 6. What struck me was the description of the women standing on a hilltop overlooking the men's village and taunting the men prior to the ritual...
Even if gender roles are not just social constructs there are a variety of ways the proclivities can be codified into institutions...
As for the Lord's work, I'm an atheist so I'm going to pretend that is a reference to the Victorian practices you mentioned before.
Sorry, it's late and I'm off to bed. thanks everyone for making my sunday evening enjoyable...0 -
Who are these men? I would LOVE to be picked up. I feel sad knowing that no woman in my adult life have picked me up
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You've never met a friend of mine then, but from my experience most of the guys did not enjoy her behavior. :laugh: I guess there is a difference between being hit on and having a girl throw herself at you though, right?I think men enjoy being picked up (on a dating level) by girls, as long as they are interested in the girl. :drinker:
Even if we're not interested. It's an ego boosting event that never-to-rarely happens in a man's lifetime.0
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