Discouraged - 65lbs and no one has noticed...

I had been steadily losing weight my first year of uni, and nobody said a word. When I came back for the second year, after summer break, *everyone* was commenting on how much weight I'd lost. During summer, I had been losing weight at the same rate, but people weren't seeing me every week, like they were before. I think your partner will definitely notice the difference, but it might be a little while before anyone else really notices. If you're seeing someone regularly, you don't clock the changes as much.

Do YOU notice a difference? That's what matters. It's hard for people who see you on a daily basis to notice changes that have taken place slowly over time. I'm sure since your SO hasn't seen you in a while, the change will be very apparent to him.

I'm sure people have noticed. They probably just don't comment on it. I learned this because when I lost 15 lbs, no one at work said anything. But a few weeks later I found my badge from when I'd first started and showed my boss and said, "my goodness, look at the change!" and then she said she'd noticed I'd lost weight. It's just the way some people are. I'm sure your SO will notice. He's seen nothing but men for the past 6 months, you're going to look like a (thinner) angel!

I'm sure people have noticed. They probably just don't comment on it. I learned this because when I lost 15 lbs, no one at work said anything. But a few weeks later I found my badge from when I'd first started and showed my boss and said, "my goodness, look at the change!" and then she said she'd noticed I'd lost weight. It's just the way some people are. I'm sure your SO will notice. He's seen nothing but men for the past 6 months, you're going to look like a (thinner) angel!

Also, my brother noticed and he didn't say anything to me. Instead he said something to my dad and I didn't find out until weeks later.

Don't fret lady. Be happy with your accomplishment!

I've noticed people loose weight before and I am ALWAYS scared to say anything about it. If I say you look good now, I am inferring that you didn't look good previously. You can bet people notice.


There was a post previously (listed above) .. and I completely agree. Sometimes folks just feel awkward. Congratulations to you on your tremendous life style change. ! You should be super proud--and I bet the other half will not only recognize your weight loss--but, your new confidence !

As many have said, people have undoubtedly noticed but bringing up weight, even if it's a positive like noticing weight loss, can be a touchy subject - if they say you've lost weight and look great, will you take that as they thought you were heavier before and didn't look great.

I don't know what your starting weight was, but my experience was that people started mentioning that I've lost weight after dropping around 15% of my body weight.

I'm sure your significant other will notice. Great job!

I'm sure he will notice. Dress in something flattering, have your hair and nails done, and be sure to look as good as you feel. As others have mentioned, you're probably not getting a lot of comments because people aren't sure what to say or it's just not as noticable because they see you all the time and it becomes a gradual change. Have a great time with your husband's return!!

First of all CONGRATULATIONS! That is a huge accomplishment. Some people forget to buy new clothes when they lose weight so people don't tend to notice unless you're walking and lose your pants. Don't buy too much right now. You could go to Goodwill and snag a few things. But definitely find something that makes you feel good in. Also, I lost 40 lbs after my baby once and I noticed I lost some friends because they didn't feel comfortable with me at my new weight. I did make some good new friends in the gym however. I think so many people are so worried about themselves they don't pay attention to things or people around them. It's sad the way things are now. The people that matter will congratulate you and keep you motivated. Keep it up!

Try not to get discouraged. I work in an environment that predominantly male and what one of them told me was he didn't know how to compliment me on my weight loss without it sounding like he was hitting on me (and I'm VERY married)........

One of my male co-workers (who is also a friend) said the same thing. I told him it is polite to humorously said "Something looks different about you.... did you get a haircut?" So we can then say, "No actually I've lost some weight, thanks for noticing" :laugh:

Don't worry, YOU know the success you're having. You're working towards this goal for you. People probably notice that you're looking good but they can't quite put their finger on what about you is different. Keep up the good work...We are all cheering you on!

Kudo's!!!!!:flowerforyou: