Abs or no abs?? A man's opinion....

From a lesbians opinion I like midly defined abs. Madonna style freaks me the hell out but a healthy 'chisel' i guess you could call it looks really good and shows you look after yrself. Eg: j lo

I would say having the outline of Abs on the sides, but not a full 6 pack, would be my preference, but a flat stomach is also quite sexy.

I have never come across a woman with flat stomach and thought "damn, I wish she had some abs." If you are in a position to be contemplating both, then you are already better off than most.

Thanks guys - and Lady.
I was just wondering if busting my bootie to get defined abs would be worth it or if I would scare off men.
Pretty much a mixed opinion.

I think you should do what you want and what makes you feel attractive. If someone like you then they should like you for who you want to be. In my opinion, cut abs are great but not everyone has the ability to have them. As long as you look healthy, that's what matters.

If I see ripped abs on a woman, it makes me think she can kick my *kitten*. Flat stomach is a huge preference for me as opposed to the six pack on a woman. I like ladies, not body builders if you know what I mean. Just my opinion.

I know you said man's but let me explain. I think on most women, defined abs, such as Jennifer Aniston or J. Lo where you can see they've got a flat belly and definition is sexy. When you get into the ab category such as women bodybuilders, it gets scary. Like one poster said, like they could kick your *kitten*. I think a lot of guys don't like that. What's the point of dating a woman if she doesn't at least look a little feminine?

My bf has told me he doesn't like "cut" women ... of course he says the general shpeal about how he loves me the way I am, yada yada but as my belly gets flatter, he's not complaining either.

I am like the majority of guys on here, flat bellys are lovely. You kinda expect some softness if you decide to spread some kisses around her bellybutton. Nothing wrong with cut abs, but they could make some guys self conscious about their own abs instead of appreciating her hardwork and dedication.

So can I ask a question guys? Piggy backing of the first question. Now i'm sort of scared. I have a flat/ semi-toned tummy. However, it's not very strong...I don't have a lot of core strangth. So i need to do more ab work to get stronger but not i'm afraid that i will get into the maddona style and that scares me. What's your take on it?

So can I ask a question guys? Piggy backing of the first question. Now i'm sort of scared. I have a flat/ semi-toned tummy. However, it's not very strong...I don't have a lot of core strangth. So i need to do more ab work to get stronger but not i'm afraid that i will get into the maddona style and that scares me. What's your take on it?

If a woman was attractive to me, whether they had defined abs would really not be a factor in it. Like, "Wow she is hot... ummm, hang on a minute... eeeekkkkkkk, oh God no.. she has abs!!!!" just wouldn't happen.

Not sure how other guys feel, but I'm pretty sure that the more I've got into working out, the more I am attracted to athletic/muscular physiques on women. Maybe something to do with a shared obsession and an appreciation for someone who has achieved awesome results, but... I think there is something sexy about women who are into pushing weights and have a strong physique. Sure it doesn't define a person, but talking pure aesthetics and sex appeal it does it for me personally, definitely more so than say reed-thin or whatever some media images might push.

I have always been under the impression that your abs will show when they are near a certain bodyfat percentage. I have read this several times although I cant remember a reference to give right now, but common sense would say the closer to teen digit bodyfat you get , the more your abs will show. I found this to be true in my case as I was at around 21% in January of this year and climbed down to 15% in April which gave me my abs back. Now that they are back , it motivates me even more to keep them before they go hide again!
For the piggyback question, work your core- strengthen your abs and lower back,as the two are synonymous. If your abs appear, great job, keep up the good work!

It's largely Dependant on Genetics. Some will show abs at 12 to 14 percent where others will have to get down to 9 or 8 percent (for guys. For women I would assume it's somewhere in the 15 to 19 percent range). It depends on your muscle build, age, weight, and genetics, but the size of that muscle is largely determined by genetics.

I have never come across a woman with flat stomach and thought "damn, I wish she had some abs." If you are in a position to be contemplating both, then you are already better off than most.

Could've not said it better..