FAT, exhausted, and sad...

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  • LosingitinWY
    LosingitinWY Posts: 29 Member
    My initial goal is 40lbs by Oct with a total goal of 65lbs. I have felt what you described. I've gotten over some aspects of it through the years. Even at a lower weight, I felt like I just didn't "fit in" the picture of my family. They're all tall and thin, I'm short and round :) My husband (19+yrs married) has NEVER done anything to make me feel bad about myself. The feelings come from within me. At one point, probably 15yrs ago, I had said something about being fat and/or ugly for the gazillionith time and he stopped cold and said, "you keep saying that, are you trying to convince me that is who you are? Because I don't see it. Please quit talking about the woman I love like that." Since then, I've had ups and downs with weight; but have worked hard on not self-bashing. (I am a Christian and my faith played a lot into it as well.) I was at a great place about a year ago with regards to weight and looking and feeling great. The past 10months have been hard on me (I quit smoking, moved 3 times...husband military....and lost a very dear loved one) and I've stacked on 50lbs. Up until this week Monday, I have beat myself up again because I WAS WHERE I WANTED TO BE and BLEW IT!!! Self-bashing is hard to overcome but is SOO counter-productive!! (A situation perceived as true will be true in its consequences) One day at a time! Sometimes 1 hour at a time :) Listen, truly listen, to compliments people give you and then go in front of a mirror and look yourself square in the eyes and repeat those compliments to yourself. Believe them! Embrace them! You're better today than you were yesterday and tomorrow is just around the corner!!



    i can NOT stay motivated!!! years of feeling this way, never feeling pretty, not prom, not my wedding day, NEVER! i have such a beautiful family, so many blessings and things to be thankful for and want to live for but my lack of motivation always kicks my fat butt! has anyone felt this way before starting a weight loss journey that worked? when had you finally had enough!!? i need help, motivation, and even with what to eat, or what diet to go on... some people say "dont call it a diet, you'll give up!" well.... what is it then? my husband and i are going on a mini vacation in august, i'd LOVE to finally feel confident enough to wear something i feel cute in and not feel like i'm embarrasing him with my weight (he denies that i do, but whatever!) i'm not looking for a pity party, i'm looking for real help, real motivation, maybe a group to keep me in check? trying to do this alone has just got me depressed and mad at myself!

    my first goal is to lose 40 lbs*
    over all goal is 80
  • 4mydogs
    4mydogs Posts: 66 Member
    One must replace temporary motivation with a relatively permanent habit.

    I totally agree motivation ebbs and flows, habits stick around and get you through those days you are having a tough time. I also look at food and escercise seperately, I need to move my body each day no matter what I eat period!! That has helped me stay on track food wise, when I move each day I tend to respect my body more by not outting bad foods into it. I just take each day as it comes and have lost my all or nothing mentality.

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