Rewarding great workout with FOOD. Anyone else?

I have had a bad habit for a while and basically I am rewarding myself with food after a great workout. Today was a perfect example where I burned over 1200 Calories playing tennis which put me in the green as far as left over calories. I went to Soup Plantation with my family and had over 2000 calories for the meal which still put me under my calorie goal for the day but wish I could stop this habit. I did have a fair share of water which should have made me feel full but no go. Anyone else have this same habit and can you share any light on this ongoing dilemma?
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  • pcastagner
    pcastagner Posts: 1,606 Member
    Instead of fighting this tendency, I switched to leangains style intermittent fasting and harnessed it.

    If I work out at home I might even put some meat in the oven to roast while I do the workout. It's even better than motivational music.


    You'll get some people claiming that since you aren't a dog you shouldn't reward yourself with food, but this is a foolish way to see life. Reward based reinforcement works with any animal that can learn behavior, and creates good feelings and habits.
  • BohemianCoast
    BohemianCoast Posts: 349 Member
    I do this, but I don't eat 2000 at a meal unless it's Christmas dinner. Some of these US restaurant meals are just bonkers I think.

    But a very standard thing for me is to go and play a couple of hours of badminton with my family (burns 800) and then go get meatballs at IKEA which is just round the corner (eats 850, but it's my largest meal of the day). Or go for a long run (burns 1000+) but stop in the middle for a chocolate croissant and cappuccino (500). I love the way that serious workouts soak up calories for foods I couldn't normally justify.
  • Warchortle
    Warchortle Posts: 2,197 Member
    it's not a reward.. it's just what normal living things do after expending energy.
  • Garlicmash
    Garlicmash Posts: 208
    if it's going to be food make it a healthy meal not crap.
    did the food thing years back and found myself putting the weight back on.. it's a trap you need to get out of you're mind.
  • pcastagner
    pcastagner Posts: 1,606 Member
    it's not a reward.. it's just what normal living things do after expending energy.


    Interesting. So to be a reward, any given things has to not happen under any other circumstances? Examples please?



    Healthy is what exactly? Crap is what? If it fits in your calorie totals, eat it. You have the rest of your life when you eat at maintenance level to worry about these things.


    When I had lost the first 30 or so, I wound up having the kinkiest, hottest, most mind blowing sex filled short term relationship with a wonderful girl. Taking care of myself is now forever associated with mind blowing sex and feeling desirable. I don't have to think about it, I just "automatically" strive for discipline in my eating and exercise now.


    Rewards are awesome!
  • katy_trail
    katy_trail Posts: 1,992 Member
    it's not a reward.. it's just what normal living things do after expending energy.


    Interesting. So to be a reward, any given things has to not happen under any other circumstances? Examples please?



    Healthy is what exactly? Crap is what? If it fits in your calorie totals, eat it. You have the rest of your life when you eat at maintenance level to worry about these things.


    When I had lost the first 30 or so, I wound up having the kinkiest, hottest, most mind blowing sex filled short term relationship with a wonderful girl. Taking care of myself is now forever associated with mind blowing sex and feeling desirable. I don't have to think about it, I just "automatically" strive for discipline in my eating and exercise now.


    Rewards are awesome!

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  • neandermagnon
    neandermagnon Posts: 7,436 Member
    it's not a reward.. it's just what normal living things do after expending energy.

    this

    a) I eat after I workout, because my body needs the fuel. Working out is not a punishment, eating is not a sin. Your body needs fuel. After a long trip by car, I put fuel in my car's tank. After a workout, your body needs carbohydrate, and if you worked your muscles hard, they need protein to start the repair and rebuilding process.

    b) from an evolutionary point of view, the main purpose of exercise is to acquire food. The human body has evolved to expect food after a workout. Eating and not working out is like you're failing at hunting and gathering... lots of people experience increased hunger later in the day if they don't eat a good post-workout meal, and this is probably the evolutionary explanation as to why.

    c) exercise isn't punishment, food is neither a sin or a reward. You're right, you don't "reward" yourself with food, but that doesn't mean eating after a workout is a moral failing (in fact it's better if you drop the whole idea of food having any moral value at all)..... Exercise is strengthening your body, eating properly is giving your body the nutrients it requires in order for it to strengthen itself. After exercise is a very important time to eat.

    d) your post-workout meal should contain protein and carbohydrate. Some say don't eat fat post-workout, I say it doesn't really matter so long as you're on target for your calories by the end of the day. I've had days where I do a really heavy workout then eat nearly half my daily calories in one meal. I don't get hungry again for a very long time after that, and only need small meals, i.e. it's easy to stay within my calories doing this. So eat your post-workout meal.
  • pcastagner
    pcastagner Posts: 1,606 Member
    it's not a reward.. it's just what normal living things do after expending energy.

    this

    a) I eat after I workout, because my body needs the fuel. Working out is not a punishment, eating is not a sin. Your body needs fuel. After a long trip by car, I put fuel in my car's tank. After a workout, your body needs carbohydrate, and if you worked your muscles hard, they need protein to start the repair and rebuilding process.

    b) from an evolutionary point of view, the main purpose of exercise is to acquire food. The human body has evolved to expect food after a workout. Eating and not working out is like you're failing at hunting and gathering... lots of people experience increased hunger later in the day if they don't eat a good post-workout meal, and this is probably the evolutionary explanation as to why.

    c) exercise isn't punishment, food is neither a sin or a reward. You're right, you don't "reward" yourself with food, but that doesn't mean eating after a workout is a moral failing (in fact it's better if you drop the whole idea of food having any moral value at all)..... Exercise is strengthening your body, eating properly is giving your body the nutrients it requires in order for it to strengthen itself. After exercise is a very important time to eat.

    d) your post-workout meal should contain protein and carbohydrate. Some say don't eat fat post-workout, I say it doesn't really matter so long as you're on target for your calories by the end of the day. I've had days where I do a really heavy workout then eat nearly half my daily calories in one meal. I don't get hungry again for a very long time after that, and only need small meals, i.e. it's easy to stay within my calories doing this. So eat your post-workout meal.


    Ok now we are getting into theory of learning. Are you saying that one should give a child rewards after punishments? That makes no sense to me.


    Rewards increase frequency of associated behaviors.
    Punishments decrease frequency of associated behavior.


    Punishments are basically useless for learning new behaviors. In dogs, dolphins, and in people. But for reinforcing behaviors, rewards kick *kitten*. This is an extremely constructive way to use food and the associated burst of dopamine. Which, by the way, is the neurotransmitter also associated with motivation.


    So many ways we can support food as a reward for accomplishing desired behavior. Not really that many arguments against it, except false equivalence.
  • neandermagnon
    neandermagnon Posts: 7,436 Member

    Ok now we are getting into theory of learning. Are you saying that one should give a child rewards after punishments? That makes no sense to me.

    I'm not talking about children, or learning. I'm talking about the importance of eating a good post-workout meal.

    Eating is a biological necessity, to feed the body. Like you put fuel into a car's engine.

    Rewards increase frequency of associated behaviors.
    Punishments decrease frequency of associated behavior.

    Punishments are basically useless for learning new behaviors. In dogs, dolphins, and in people.

    I'm not talking about punishments either. I don't know how you're reading all this into my post. I didn't say anything about punishments, other than the fact that exercise is not a punishment.

    I'm not talking about learning or trying to modify anyone's behaviour, not human, dolphin, chimp or whatever. I'm talking about why people need to eat after exercise.

    Please stop reading stuff into my posts that isn't there.
  • katy_trail
    katy_trail Posts: 1,992 Member
    it's not a reward.. it's just what normal living things do after expending energy.

    this

    a) I eat after I workout, because my body needs the fuel. Working out is not a punishment, eating is not a sin. Your body needs fuel. After a long trip by car, I put fuel in my car's tank. After a workout, your body needs carbohydrate, and if you worked your muscles hard, they need protein to start the repair and rebuilding process.

    b) from an evolutionary point of view, the main purpose of exercise is to acquire food. The human body has evolved to expect food after a workout. Eating and not working out is like you're failing at hunting and gathering... lots of people experience increased hunger later in the day if they don't eat a good post-workout meal, and this is probably the evolutionary explanation as to why.

    c) exercise isn't punishment, food is neither a sin or a reward. You're right, you don't "reward" yourself with food, but that doesn't mean eating after a workout is a moral failing (in fact it's better if you drop the whole idea of food having any moral value at all)..... Exercise is strengthening your body, eating properly is giving your body the nutrients it requires in order for it to strengthen itself. After exercise is a very important time to eat.

    d) your post-workout meal should contain protein and carbohydrate. Some say don't eat fat post-workout, I say it doesn't really matter so long as you're on target for your calories by the end of the day. I've had days where I do a really heavy workout then eat nearly half my daily calories in one meal. I don't get hungry again for a very long time after that, and only need small meals, i.e. it's easy to stay within my calories doing this. So eat your post-workout meal.

    I :heart: all your posts
  • pcastagner
    pcastagner Posts: 1,606 Member

    Ok now we are getting into theory of learning. Are you saying that one should give a child rewards after punishments? That makes no sense to me.

    I'm not talking about children, or learning. I'm talking about the importance of eating a good post-workout meal.

    Eating is a biological necessity, to feed the body. Like you put fuel into a car's engine.

    Rewards increase frequency of associated behaviors.
    Punishments decrease frequency of associated behavior.

    Punishments are basically useless for learning new behaviors. In dogs, dolphins, and in people.

    I'm not talking about punishments either. I don't know how you're reading all this into my post. I didn't say anything about punishments, other than the fact that exercise is not a punishment.

    I'm not talking about learning or trying to modify anyone's behaviour, not human, dolphin, chimp or whatever. I'm talking about why people need to eat after exercise.

    Please stop reading stuff into my posts that isn't there.


    You said "exercise is not a punishment". You seem imply that one does not need reward after exercise because it isn't a punishment. I asked if that is what you are saying because I don't understand the gist of your post. It's a technique called paraphrasing and it's meant to boil down your point to something I can understand, which you can then agree with or disagree with. If you say it's not what you meant, I'm not going to force it on you. People can speak for themselves. I thought it inefficient to wait for your response, because of the nature of Internet forums, and the off chance that someone else understood your post the same way.


    If you're not talking about learning, what are you talking about, or more importantly, to which life form are you referring? We are constantly learning whether we choose to do so using critical thinking and a plan, or whether we leave it to chance.


    Of course food is fuel, but this doesn't mean it can't also be a reward.


    Btw, when we speak if punishment and reward, we necessarily are speaking of learning. You'll have to forgive me for assuming your response was on the same topic as the OP.
  • LissaK1981
    LissaK1981 Posts: 219 Member
    Lol, now I don't feel so bad about my little 200 cal fro-yo m&m banana sundae :wink:
  • neandermagnon
    neandermagnon Posts: 7,436 Member

    Ok now we are getting into theory of learning. Are you saying that one should give a child rewards after punishments? That makes no sense to me.

    I'm not talking about children, or learning. I'm talking about the importance of eating a good post-workout meal.

    Eating is a biological necessity, to feed the body. Like you put fuel into a car's engine.

    Rewards increase frequency of associated behaviors.
    Punishments decrease frequency of associated behavior.

    Punishments are basically useless for learning new behaviors. In dogs, dolphins, and in people.

    I'm not talking about punishments either. I don't know how you're reading all this into my post. I didn't say anything about punishments, other than the fact that exercise is not a punishment.

    I'm not talking about learning or trying to modify anyone's behaviour, not human, dolphin, chimp or whatever. I'm talking about why people need to eat after exercise.

    Please stop reading stuff into my posts that isn't there.


    You said "exercise is not a punishment". You seem imply that one does not need reward after exercise because it isn't a punishment.

    That is not what I was implying at all. My whole entire post was on why it's important to eat after exercise, and why the whole concept of reward and punishment has nothing to do with it. You eat after exercise for the same reason why you fill up your car's fuel tank after a long road trip.

    You don't exercise to punish yourself. You exercise because it's necessary for good health, and to strengthen your body.

    I asked if that is what you are saying because I don't understand the gist of your post. It's a technique called paraphrasing and it's meant to boil down your point to something I can understand, which you can then agree with or disagree with. If you say it's not what you meant, I'm not going to force it on you. People can speak for themselves.

    Okay, I'll paraphrase it.

    1. drop the whole "reward and punishment" mentality. It leads to a negative relationship with food and exercise.

    2. instead adopt the mentality of a) exercise is to strengthen the body, and b) food is to fuel the body, i.e. provide it with the nutrients it needs to strengthen itself.
    If you're not talking about learning, what are you talking about, or more importantly, to which life form are you referring? We are constantly learning whether we choose to do so using critical thinking and a plan, or whether we leave it to chance.

    I'm talking about humans. I made a vague reference to human ancestors. If you want me to be specific, Homo erectus is probably the best one to think about when asking the question "why does the Homo sapiens body work in this way?" But mostly I was talking about Homo sapiens

    I was talking about basic human biology, as in why the body has a *physiological* need for food, and that food is necessary for survival and for keeping the body healthy. Eating after a workout is part of this, it's not a "reward" for "being good"...
    Of course food is fuel, but this doesn't mean it can't also be a reward.

    I look at it from a purely biological point of view to begin with, i.e. what does the body need to be healthy. the answer is 1. exercise, 2. proper nutrition. there is no way anyone should be viewing either of these in a moral light.... exercise is not punishment, it's something you need to do for good health. proper nutrition is not a reward, it's something you need for good health.

    You can't call something that's necessary for basic survival and health a "reward" - it's implying that it can/should be withheld if you are "bad".... proper nutrition is not optional. It's necessary. Exercise is also very important for health... but when people think of it as punishment, they don't want to do it.

    Additionally, a lot of people are stuck in a very negative mindset when it comes to food... they view healthy eating and exercise plans as a "punishment" for "being fat" (really that's a sin and a moral failing?? not just an unfortunate consequence of poor nutrition and lack of exercise, that needs to be addressed with better nutrition and exercise?).... they see food as a "reward" that can be withheld if they are "bad" ..... and they get in a cycle of excessive restriction (punishment/withholding of rewards) and then bingeing, and then feeling very guilty like they did something "bad" and need to "punish" themselves for it, with more restriction, more withholding of the "reward" of eating..... bingeing is usually a straight forward physiological reaction to eating too little (there are some exceptions, e.g. binge eating disorder, but this isn't a moral failing or "being bad" either it's a mental illness).... punishing a binge by exercising more and being even more restrictive with food, makes it worse, not better. But as long as this "reward/punishment" mentality is there, the person can't see that their body is simply reacting as it's evolved to do in cases where there's a food shortage... by increasing food-seeking behaviour. They often self-diagnose themselves as having a psychological problem, when their behaviour is totally normal for the circumstances. They punish themselves for doing what their body evolved to do. If a Homo erectus was in a food shortage, they would spend all day obsessing about food, and they would binge like crazy when they got their hands on some. The difference is only that Homo sapiens is irrational enough to attempt self-imposed excessive food restriction when surrounded by food.

    Not everyone is in this mentality, but IMO it needs to be nipped in the bud, so when someone is depriving themselves of the nutrition their body needs because they don't deserve a "reward" - then they really, truly need to drop the whole reward/punishment mentality.

    For people who are not stuck in a negative mentality, I don't see what's wrong with thinking of food as a reward, if they also understand it's not really a reward, it's a necessity... but IMO they need to be careful of others who may be in a more negative mindset like I've described above.

    Btw, when we speak if punishment and reward, we necessarily are speaking of learning.

    If you want to define reward and punishment the way experimental psychologists do, that's true. I'm using the layman's terms. If you want to get technical, it's better to move away from needing extrinsic motivation to eat healthy and exercise, and develop a mentality whereby you don't need the extrinsic motivation, because you have a strong intrinsic motivation due to your new, much healthier attitudes towards exercise and eating. You move away from "punishing" yourself with exercise and healthy food, and "rewarding" yourself with treats.... to the exercise itself and the healthy food itself being rewards in themselves, not punishments. Seriously, if you have to constantly "punish" yourself to achieve something, how long are you going to stick at it, or even if you have the willpower to stick at it, how miserable are you going to be in the process? And then what about when you don't do so well, you have to "punish" yourself constantly, or withhold "rewards" constantly....
  • hi.iv'e just started the 30 days shred with jillian michaels.all i want is water.lol.could you tell me how to find out how many calories are burnt on each exercise.?i can only find walking,running and hula hoop.i'm new to this so any advice would be grateful.
  • kingscrown
    kingscrown Posts: 615 Member
    I don't know that it's such a bad thing. Maybe one shouldn't call it a reward. When you work out that much your body needs more fuel. Should you eat it all back? Not if you're trying to lose weight. Should you eat someone of it back my trainer says yes.
  • kingscrown
    kingscrown Posts: 615 Member
    As for finding out how many calories you burn during exercise I treated myself to a Heart Rate Monitor. I wear the HRM every time I exercise. Mine tells me how many calories I burn and use it as I guild to when I can leave the gym. I have a 500 calories minimum. No 500 no leavy the gym.
  • JessHealthKick
    JessHealthKick Posts: 800 Member
    I always eat after working out. Losing 1200 with tennis? How many hours were you playing for ? I hate to sound like a cow, but if you are going by MFP you will be grossly overestimating most likely.

    I reward myself by spending more cash on amazing treats I love. Dark chocolate, favourite fruits like strawberries, mangosteins (they are the best, have some if you haven't before) and having some small pork cutlet thingies (about 60cals each so I have two sometimes).

    You need to live, and that's fine, but if you're only working out once a week then absolutely bingeing then I can't say it is the best idea. Better to binge on a workout day than another day, but it is certainly going to be setting you back. I am not trying to be mean, but honest.

    At to those who say 'calories are calories' *slaps* there are more to foods than just calories. I would love to eat 1600-2000 calories of black chocolate some days, but it isn't that simple. You body isn't a maths book, it's a growing and living organism that will support your life so treat it with some respect, give it what it needs to function well. I'm hoping to beat my late nanna's 98 years so I need to start young!
  • JessHealthKick
    JessHealthKick Posts: 800 Member
    I don't know that it's such a bad thing. Maybe one shouldn't call it a reward. When you work out that much your body needs more fuel. Should you eat it all back? Not if you're trying to lose weight. Should you eat someone of it back my trainer says yes.

    If you're using MFP and have setting to lose say 0.5 - 1lb a week, then you should as the deficit is already calculated. That being said, I don't always eat all of mine back back I do my best to eat at least half back :)
  • pcastagner
    pcastagner Posts: 1,606 Member

    Ok now we are getting into theory of learning. Are you saying that one should give a child rewards after punishments? That makes no sense to me.

    I'm not talking about children, or learning. I'm talking about the importance of eating a good post-workout meal.

    Eating is a biological necessity, to feed the body. Like you put fuel into a car's engine.

    Rewards increase frequency of associated behaviors.
    Punishments decrease frequency of associated behavior.

    Punishments are basically useless for learning new behaviors. In dogs, dolphins, and in people.

    I'm not talking about punishments either. I don't know how you're reading all this into my post. I didn't say anything about punishments, other than the fact that exercise is not a punishment.

    I'm not talking about learning or trying to modify anyone's behaviour, not human, dolphin, chimp or whatever. I'm talking about why people need to eat after exercise.

    Please stop reading stuff into my posts that isn't there.


    You said "exercise is not a punishment". You seem imply that one does not need reward after exercise because it isn't a punishment.

    That is not what I was implying at all. My whole entire post was on why it's important to eat after exercise, and why the whole concept of reward and punishment has nothing to do with it. You eat after exercise for the same reason why you fill up your car's fuel tank after a long road trip.

    You don't exercise to punish yourself. You exercise because it's necessary for good health, and to strengthen your body.

    I asked if that is what you are saying because I don't understand the gist of your post. It's a technique called paraphrasing and it's meant to boil down your point to something I can understand, which you can then agree with or disagree with. If you say it's not what you meant, I'm not going to force it on you. People can speak for themselves.

    Okay, I'll paraphrase it.

    1. drop the whole "reward and punishment" mentality. It leads to a negative relationship with food and exercise.

    2. instead adopt the mentality of a) exercise is to strengthen the body, and b) food is to fuel the body, i.e. provide it with the nutrients it needs to strengthen itself.
    If you're not talking about learning, what are you talking about, or more importantly, to which life form are you referring? We are constantly learning whether we choose to do so using critical thinking and a plan, or whether we leave it to chance.

    I'm talking about humans. I made a vague reference to human ancestors. If you want me to be specific, Homo erectus is probably the best one to think about when asking the question "why does the Homo sapiens body work in this way?" But mostly I was talking about Homo sapiens

    I was talking about basic human biology, as in why the body has a *physiological* need for food, and that food is necessary for survival and for keeping the body healthy. Eating after a workout is part of this, it's not a "reward" for "being good"...
    Of course food is fuel, but this doesn't mean it can't also be a reward.

    I look at it from a purely biological point of view to begin with, i.e. what does the body need to be healthy. the answer is 1. exercise, 2. proper nutrition. there is no way anyone should be viewing either of these in a moral light.... exercise is not punishment, it's something you need to do for good health. proper nutrition is not a reward, it's something you need for good health.

    You can't call something that's necessary for basic survival and health a "reward" - it's implying that it can/should be withheld if you are "bad".... proper nutrition is not optional. It's necessary. Exercise is also very important for health... but when people think of it as punishment, they don't want to do it.

    Additionally, a lot of people are stuck in a very negative mindset when it comes to food... they view healthy eating and exercise plans as a "punishment" for "being fat" (really that's a sin and a moral failing?? not just an unfortunate consequence of poor nutrition and lack of exercise, that needs to be addressed with better nutrition and exercise?).... they see food as a "reward" that can be withheld if they are "bad" ..... and they get in a cycle of excessive restriction (punishment/withholding of rewards) and then bingeing, and then feeling very guilty like they did something "bad" and need to "punish" themselves for it, with more restriction, more withholding of the "reward" of eating..... bingeing is usually a straight forward physiological reaction to eating too little (there are some exceptions, e.g. binge eating disorder, but this isn't a moral failing or "being bad" either it's a mental illness).... punishing a binge by exercising more and being even more restrictive with food, makes it worse, not better. But as long as this "reward/punishment" mentality is there, the person can't see that their body is simply reacting as it's evolved to do in cases where there's a food shortage... by increasing food-seeking behaviour. They often self-diagnose themselves as having a psychological problem, when their behaviour is totally normal for the circumstances. They punish themselves for doing what their body evolved to do. If a Homo erectus was in a food shortage, they would spend all day obsessing about food, and they would binge like crazy when they got their hands on some. The difference is only that Homo sapiens is irrational enough to attempt self-imposed excessive food restriction when surrounded by food.

    Not everyone is in this mentality, but IMO it needs to be nipped in the bud, so when someone is depriving themselves of the nutrition their body needs because they don't deserve a "reward" - then they really, truly need to drop the whole reward/punishment mentality.

    For people who are not stuck in a negative mentality, I don't see what's wrong with thinking of food as a reward, if they also understand it's not really a reward, it's a necessity... but IMO they need to be careful of others who may be in a more negative mindset like I've described above.

    Btw, when we speak if punishment and reward, we necessarily are speaking of learning.

    If you want to define reward and punishment the way experimental psychologists do, that's true. I'm using the layman's terms. If you want to get technical, it's better to move away from needing extrinsic motivation to eat healthy and exercise, and develop a mentality whereby you don't need the extrinsic motivation, because you have a strong intrinsic motivation due to your new, much healthier attitudes towards exercise and eating. You move away from "punishing" yourself with exercise and healthy food, and "rewarding" yourself with treats.... to the exercise itself and the healthy food itself being rewards in themselves, not punishments. Seriously, if you have to constantly "punish" yourself to achieve something, how long are you going to stick at it, or even if you have the willpower to stick at it, how miserable are you going to be in the process? And then what about when you don't do so well, you have to "punish" yourself constantly, or withhold "rewards" constantly....


    I would suggest some research into learning theory for an explanation of why punishment mixed with rewards is vastly inferior to rewards only. The whole concept of pairing the two together is an arbitrary and learned behavior itself.


    This is what I am getting at. Rewards as a means of shaping behavior has nothing to do with morality. Which means a smart person looking to modify their behavior can safely make use of it to create new patterns.

    So in effect, I did understand your post and still feel there is legitimate opportunity for learning something about that for anyone reading this thread, and no need to associate rewards with the very destructive practice of alternating it with punishments.


    Adult, child, dog, or dolphin, layman or experimental psychologist (btw they aren't the only people allowed to contemplate this or define things properly), rewards will increase any behavior associated with the reward. Associating that practice with destructive and misguided applications of punishments doesn't actually make sense, and gives you one less tool in your lifestyle adjustment toolbox.

    Many of us need any help we can get.
  • sunshine_gem
    sunshine_gem Posts: 390 Member

    Ok now we are getting into theory of learning. Are you saying that one should give a child rewards after punishments? That makes no sense to me.

    I'm not talking about children, or learning. I'm talking about the importance of eating a good post-workout meal.

    Eating is a biological necessity, to feed the body. Like you put fuel into a car's engine.

    Rewards increase frequency of associated behaviors.
    Punishments decrease frequency of associated behavior.

    Punishments are basically useless for learning new behaviors. In dogs, dolphins, and in people.

    I'm not talking about punishments either. I don't know how you're reading all this into my post. I didn't say anything about punishments, other than the fact that exercise is not a punishment.

    I'm not talking about learning or trying to modify anyone's behaviour, not human, dolphin, chimp or whatever. I'm talking about why people need to eat after exercise.

    Please stop reading stuff into my posts that isn't there.


    You said "exercise is not a punishment". You seem imply that one does not need reward after exercise because it isn't a punishment.

    That is not what I was implying at all. My whole entire post was on why it's important to eat after exercise, and why the whole concept of reward and punishment has nothing to do with it. You eat after exercise for the same reason why you fill up your car's fuel tank after a long road trip.

    You don't exercise to punish yourself. You exercise because it's necessary for good health, and to strengthen your body.

    I asked if that is what you are saying because I don't understand the gist of your post. It's a technique called paraphrasing and it's meant to boil down your point to something I can understand, which you can then agree with or disagree with. If you say it's not what you meant, I'm not going to force it on you. People can speak for themselves.

    Okay, I'll paraphrase it.

    1. drop the whole "reward and punishment" mentality. It leads to a negative relationship with food and exercise.

    2. instead adopt the mentality of a) exercise is to strengthen the body, and b) food is to fuel the body, i.e. provide it with the nutrients it needs to strengthen itself.
    If you're not talking about learning, what are you talking about, or more importantly, to which life form are you referring? We are constantly learning whether we choose to do so using critical thinking and a plan, or whether we leave it to chance.

    I'm talking about humans. I made a vague reference to human ancestors. If you want me to be specific, Homo erectus is probably the best one to think about when asking the question "why does the Homo sapiens body work in this way?" But mostly I was talking about Homo sapiens

    I was talking about basic human biology, as in why the body has a *physiological* need for food, and that food is necessary for survival and for keeping the body healthy. Eating after a workout is part of this, it's not a "reward" for "being good"...
    Of course food is fuel, but this doesn't mean it can't also be a reward.

    I look at it from a purely biological point of view to begin with, i.e. what does the body need to be healthy. the answer is 1. exercise, 2. proper nutrition. there is no way anyone should be viewing either of these in a moral light.... exercise is not punishment, it's something you need to do for good health. proper nutrition is not a reward, it's something you need for good health.

    You can't call something that's necessary for basic survival and health a "reward" - it's implying that it can/should be withheld if you are "bad".... proper nutrition is not optional. It's necessary. Exercise is also very important for health... but when people think of it as punishment, they don't want to do it.

    Additionally, a lot of people are stuck in a very negative mindset when it comes to food... they view healthy eating and exercise plans as a "punishment" for "being fat" (really that's a sin and a moral failing?? not just an unfortunate consequence of poor nutrition and lack of exercise, that needs to be addressed with better nutrition and exercise?).... they see food as a "reward" that can be withheld if they are "bad" ..... and they get in a cycle of excessive restriction (punishment/withholding of rewards) and then bingeing, and then feeling very guilty like they did something "bad" and need to "punish" themselves for it, with more restriction, more withholding of the "reward" of eating..... bingeing is usually a straight forward physiological reaction to eating too little (there are some exceptions, e.g. binge eating disorder, but this isn't a moral failing or "being bad" either it's a mental illness).... punishing a binge by exercising more and being even more restrictive with food, makes it worse, not better. But as long as this "reward/punishment" mentality is there, the person can't see that their body is simply reacting as it's evolved to do in cases where there's a food shortage... by increasing food-seeking behaviour. They often self-diagnose themselves as having a psychological problem, when their behaviour is totally normal for the circumstances. They punish themselves for doing what their body evolved to do. If a Homo erectus was in a food shortage, they would spend all day obsessing about food, and they would binge like crazy when they got their hands on some. The difference is only that Homo sapiens is irrational enough to attempt self-imposed excessive food restriction when surrounded by food.

    Not everyone is in this mentality, but IMO it needs to be nipped in the bud, so when someone is depriving themselves of the nutrition their body needs because they don't deserve a "reward" - then they really, truly need to drop the whole reward/punishment mentality.

    For people who are not stuck in a negative mentality, I don't see what's wrong with thinking of food as a reward, if they also understand it's not really a reward, it's a necessity... but IMO they need to be careful of others who may be in a more negative mindset like I've described above.

    Btw, when we speak if punishment and reward, we necessarily are speaking of learning.

    If you want to define reward and punishment the way experimental psychologists do, that's true. I'm using the layman's terms. If you want to get technical, it's better to move away from needing extrinsic motivation to eat healthy and exercise, and develop a mentality whereby you don't need the extrinsic motivation, because you have a strong intrinsic motivation due to your new, much healthier attitudes towards exercise and eating. You move away from "punishing" yourself with exercise and healthy food, and "rewarding" yourself with treats.... to the exercise itself and the healthy food itself being rewards in themselves, not punishments. Seriously, if you have to constantly "punish" yourself to achieve something, how long are you going to stick at it, or even if you have the willpower to stick at it, how miserable are you going to be in the process? And then what about when you don't do so well, you have to "punish" yourself constantly, or withhold "rewards" constantly....


    I would suggest some research into learning theory for an explanation of why punishment mixed with rewards is vastly inferior to rewards only. The whole concept of pairing the two together is an arbitrary and learned behavior itself.


    This is what I am getting at. Rewards as a means of shaping behavior has nothing to do with morality. Which means a smart person looking to modify their behavior can safely make use of it to create new patterns.

    So in effect, I did understand your post and still feel there is legitimate opportunity for learning something about that for anyone reading this thread, and no need to associate rewards with the very destructive practice of alternating it with punishments.


    Adult, child, dog, or dolphin, layman or experimental psychologist (btw they aren't the only people allowed to contemplate this or define things properly), rewards will increase any behavior associated with the reward. Associating that practice with destructive and misguided applications of punishments doesn't actually make sense, and gives you one less tool in your lifestyle adjustment toolbox.

    Many of us need any help we can get.

    You guys are taking this way too seriously....
  • pcastagner
    pcastagner Posts: 1,606 Member
    How serious would be the appropriate level of seriousness, in your opinion?


    I find this to be stimulating and enjoyable. But I want to be sure I conform to social norms at the same time. Can you give me some tips?


    Emoticons maybe? Or fart jokes?
  • neandermagnon
    neandermagnon Posts: 7,436 Member
    I would suggest some research into learning theory for an explanation of why punishment mixed with rewards is vastly inferior to rewards only. The whole concept of pairing the two together is an arbitrary and learned behavior itself.

    I've already studied that kind of thing. Even with rewards only, a reward is frequently seen as something that can be withheld. Food is not something that should ever be withheld. It's a basic necessity.

    If you're talking about changing people's attitudes from an unhealthy mindset to a healthy one, then I'm not in disagreement with you. There's more than one model of a healthy mindset. I don't see anything food or exercise related as either a reward or a punishment. I see it as strengthening and feeding my body.
    This is what I am getting at. Rewards as a means of shaping behavior has nothing to do with morality. Which means a smart person looking to modify their behavior can safely make use of it to create new patterns.

    For most people it does though. I also don't see why or how rewards without punishment is better than just dropping the whole reward/punishment mentality altogether.

    But anyway I didn't come here to get into a debate on something so trivial (dropping the rewards/punishment mentality versus just dropping the punishment side of it is trivial, IMO because both are healthy mindsets)
    So in effect, I did understand your post and still feel there is legitimate opportunity for learning something about that for anyone reading this thread, and no need to associate rewards with the very destructive practice of alternating it with punishments.

    Okay, but you could have made that point without implying that you didn't understand my post...?

    I'm not here to get in debates, I came to this thread to give advice. I'd rather if people disagreed with something, or had something to add or something to teach me, that they'd just state it directly.
    Adult, child, dog, or dolphin, layman or experimental psychologist (btw they aren't the only people allowed to contemplate this or define things properly), rewards will increase any behavior associated with the reward.

    you picked up on something in my post that was advice to someone on an internet forum, not something written for a scientific journal. I address how I speak/write to my audience. I don't use technical scientific terms with people who probably don't have a scientific background. If I'm explaining to someone why they need to feed their body, then I generally assume they don't have a scientific background and so use layman's terms.
  • pcastagner
    pcastagner Posts: 1,606 Member
    Withholding food is a punishment, not a reward. It's negative reinforcement based on punishment. It appears you really, really, associate rewards with punishments, despite your extensive studies. My experience with dogs and self implies this is quite typical but not necessary. I had a lot of trouble eliminating punishment from my work with dogs, because it provided an emotional reward for me by creating the impression that I was decreasing the unwanted behavior in the dog. It was so bad I give up on dog training.


    Adding a particularly rewarding food choice to reinforce a behavior can be completely uncoupled from punishment, morality, or any other useless system of teaching and learning specific behaviors (but highly effective for altering group behaviors).

    It simply doesn't have to be so, unless one is lacking in imagination.


    I think I've pointed out why using rewards is more effective than leaving things to chance. You can either leave things to chance and hope you are one of the lucky ones, or take control of your own fate.


    As for whether science is helpful to everyday people, we will have to agree to disagree. I feel the whole point of science is to help everyday people. These concepts are empowering. Increasing desired behaviors is a good thing. Many of us don't have the luxury of being picky or only using techniques that work for a particular subset. I know I don't, and I've observed how rewards affect my every day choices whether I like it or not, so I prefer to increase my ability to shape my behavior.

    A smart dieter will keep trying new things, observe the results, and then apply what they have learned. The OP is on the fence about this, and I'd hate to see someone avoid a potentially successful technique for completely arbitrary reasons.
  • neandermagnon
    neandermagnon Posts: 7,436 Member
    Withholding food is a punishment, not a reward. It's negative reinforcement based on punishment. It appears you really, really, associate rewards with punishments, despite your extensive studies. My experience with dogs and self implies this is quite typical but not necessary. I had a lot of trouble eliminating punishment from my work with dogs, because it provided an emotional reward for me by creating the impression that I was decreasing the unwanted behavior in the dog. It was so bad I give up on dog training.

    Maybe I do, studying something at an academic level doesn't necessarily translate into changing deeply held beliefs... I have PTSD and that doesn't go away just because I know it's irrational. That's why people pay so much for cognitive behaviour therapy, because your conscious mind can't just decide to change subconscious and deeply held beliefs. You should know that if you have a background in psychology.

    It's also a matter of language and semantics, because where one person might use the term reward, another might talk in terms of consequences... for example with kids, rather than using the terms "reward" and "punishment" teachers will usually say "the child is learning that behaviour has consequences" and this has been shown in the classroom to be a lot more effective than the language of reward/punishment.

    A human (child or adult) has a more complex brain than a dog, and human society is a lot more complex than a dog's life, and although it pretty much comes down to the same thing (a consequence is often either a reward or a punishment in effect) it's couched in different terms, because "actions have consequences" covers a lot more than "if you're good someone's going to give you a reward, if you're bad someone's going to punish you" - it also covers "if I climb on that broken fence, it's probably going to break and I'll fall and get hurt" and "If I call someone names it will hurt them"... so while for young kids "consequences of actions" is basically just reward and punishment... it's more than that. It includes consequences to other people besides oneself, and consequences that just happen that can't be considered either a reward or a punishment, just a consequence.
    Adding a particularly rewarding food choice to reinforce a behavior can be completely uncoupled from punishment, morality, or any other useless system of teaching and learning specific behaviors (but highly effective for altering group behaviors).

    I'm sure it can be, but as I said, understanding something at an intellectual level (in this case separating the concept of reward from that of punishment) and being able to apply it successfully to real life are two different things. And applying it to someone else (e.g. dogs, children, etc) is not the same as applying it to yourself with whatever emotional baggage comes with it. If you can do that, great. Don't assume that it's the best course of action for everyone though.
    It simply doesn't have to be so, unless one is lacking in imagination.

    I don't agree, because if I could just reprogram my brain just like that, I wouldn't have PTSD anymore. I'd love to just be able to decide to not have PTSD any more, but deeply held beliefs (which includes the meanings attributed to words) cannot simply be changed on a whim, if a word has a negative association that's going to result in a negative mindset, it's better to change your vocabulary than to try to reprogram your brain.
    I think I've pointed out why using rewards is more effective than leaving things to chance. You can either leave things to chance and hope you are one of the lucky ones, or take control of your own fate.

    What am I leaving to chance? I'm not leaving anything to chance. I don't understand how you can come to this conclusion based on the fact that I don't use the terms "reward" or "punishment"....?

    I'm already at my goal weight and successfully maintaining it, and increasing how much weight I can lift regularly.

    Can you really not see any alternatives to "rewards without punishments" and "leaving things to chance"? You can't see that someone can be motivated without having to give themselves rewards? And if you want to define reward as any positive outcome from any conscious action, then the reward for lifting heavy weights is being able to lift heavy weights and having a stronger body. But I don't use those terms to describe it. I find the words "reward" and "punishment" are too intrinsically linked to morality and a negative mindset for them to be useful to me.
    As for whether science is helpful to everyday people, we will have to agree to disagree. I feel the whole point of science is to help everyday people. These concepts are empowering. Increasing desired behaviors is a good thing. Many of us don't have the luxury of being picky or only using techniques that work for a particular subset. I know I don't, and I've observed how rewards affect my every day choices whether I like it or not, so I prefer to increase my ability to shape my behavior.

    You're putting words into my mouth that I never said... I never said science is not helpful to "everyday people"..... I said I don't use scientific vocabulary with people who don't have a scientific background. 90% of what I write on this forum is explaining science to people!! (the other 10% is joking around) If you want to successfully explain science to people who don't have a scientific background, avoiding using words they may not understand, or may misunderstand, is an important thing to do...!
    A smart dieter will keep trying new things, observe the results, and then apply what they have learned. The OP is on the fence about this, and I'd hate to see someone avoid a potentially successful technique for completely arbitrary reasons.

    1. my reasoning is not arbitrary.

    2.. the OP is able to read all the posts and i don't see how reading my posts will stop him from considering what you have to say as well...? i never said your way is wrong, or that he should disregard it.... I made a case for dropping the "rewards and punishment" mentality, which you agreed is a negative mentality. Your answer is to just have rewards without punishment, mine is to drop the whole mentality altogether. Whatever.

    3. what works for you works for you. my way works for me, as evidenced by the fact that I'm very motivated in both following an exercise programme and eating a healthy diet, and successfully maintaining my weight, when in the past I was an obese couch potato. If it ain't broke, don't fix it. I'm not telling you that your way is wrong, I'm only telling you that your way is not for me, and it may not be the best way for quite a few others too, especially as you've observed that some people find it really hard to separate the concepts of reward and punishment from each other.
  • pcastagner
    pcastagner Posts: 1,606 Member
    I would just take it as a compliment not an attack. I find your argument persuasive enough to merit the time and energy I put into writing a dissent.


    By "leaving it to chance" I mean to imply that we all run on rewards. If you don't acknowledge it and use those rewards according to a plan, you may be successful, but then again you may be unsusccessful and baffled by your own behavior.


    I find the "you aren't a dog" argument unconvincing, for the reasons stated above. To wit, the qualities of a dog that make rewards effective are not mutually exclusive with other qualities in humans that make altering all of our behaviors more complicated than shaping a dog.

    Action - big workout
    Reward - tasty food

    Action - adjusting food to level of expenditure (treating it like a fuel)
    Reward - tasty food


    Both actions are desirable. Both rewards are desirable. The OP is wondering if this is a bad habit. I say no, it isn't. It's a great way to teach yourself consistency and by being conscious of both things, to avoid blowing up when you haven't expended the calories, because your lifestyle has changed, or better yet, to find motivation to take make an effort to find effective ways to maintain fitness when the environment changes. This is the top reason I have continued my progress despite living on the road for the past month and a half. Otherwise I would be depending on willpower, which is already being taxed by my environmental change.


    I sincerely hope you don't find this exchange to be unrewarding, because I am thoroughly enjoying it and appreciate your energy and intelligence.
  • JessHealthKick
    JessHealthKick Posts: 800 Member
    Action - big workout
    Reward - tasty food

    Action - adjusting food to level of expenditure (treating it like a fuel)
    Reward - tasty food


    Both actions are desirable. Both rewards are desirable. The OP is wondering if this is a bad habit. I say no, it isn't. It's a great way to teach yourself consistency and by being conscious of both things, to avoid blowing up when you haven't expended the calories, because your lifestyle has changed, or better yet, to find motivation to take make an effort to find effective ways to maintain fitness when the environment changes. This is the top reason I have continued my progress despite living on the road for the past month and a half. Otherwise I would be depending on willpower, which is already being taxed by my environmental change.

    if the reward far outweighs the exercise, then it is somewhat damaging no? Exercise to lose 1000 cals (likely not properly measured so overeastimated) then eat back 2000cals? Can't argue with the maths there. Of course it isn't as simple as cals in vs cals out (nutrients etc), but if we're talking 'reward' food, it's implying food that is on the less healthy side of the spectrum.

    So no, I don't support bingeing after exercising.
  • neandermagnon
    neandermagnon Posts: 7,436 Member
    I would just take it as a compliment not an attack. I find your argument persuasive enough to merit the time and energy I put into writing a dissent.

    duly taken as such... I wasn't taking anything as an attack, just that I was there to give advice, not get drawn into a debate.
    By "leaving it to chance" I mean to imply that we all run on rewards. If you don't acknowledge it and use those rewards according to a plan, you may be successful, but then again you may be unsusccessful and baffled by your own behavior.

    There's more than one way to view human behaviour. You take quite a clinical psychology approach, I take a more evolutionary biology approach.

    I'm not baffled by my own behaviour, I'm probably a lot more aware of myself, what motivates me and what doesn't motivate me than most people. From my point of view, human behaviour makes sense when you consider that we're all just Homo erectus with a bit more cerebral cortex. Does that mean I think that everyone should view themselves as a Homo erectus but with a greater faculty for logical thought? No. But it is what we are, and that's the approach I take for studying human behaviour and human biology, and it's how I tend to explain things if people ask my advice/opinions on stuff... because it's how I think.
    I find the "you aren't a dog" argument unconvincing, for the reasons stated above. To wit, the qualities of a dog that make rewards effective are not mutually exclusive with other qualities in humans that make altering all of our behaviors more complicated than shaping a dog.

    I really and truly don't find it useful to frame my behaviour in dog terms. I'm not saying dogs have nothing in common with humans (actually the convergent evolution between humans and dogs is interesting from an evolutionary point of view, but that's more from a perspective as to why dogs get on so well with humans, not from a "I should do x because x works for dogs" way of looking at it). I just don't see anything helpful in framing human behaviour in that way, in particular in framing learning to stick to lifestyle changes as akin to training dogs. you do, and that's great. But it's not for me.

    There are one or two aspects of human behaviour that I'd liken to chimpanzee behaviour, like how internet debates tend to be more about chest beating and displays for dominance than they are about exchange of information, but that's a whole other debate and i'm well and truly drawn into this one LOL. Trying to keep it intellectual and not chest beating though.... (and I'd love to see how Homo erectuses argued... i.e. more chest beating like chimps or more verbal debate like Homo sapiens or a unique combination between the two... but that kind of thing doesn't fossilise so I guess we'll never know...)
    Action - big workout
    Reward - tasty food

    Action - adjusting food to level of expenditure (treating it like a fuel)
    Reward - tasty food


    Both actions are desirable. Both rewards are desirable.

    I still don't see why I have to view one as a reward for another though. I workout because I enjoy working out and because I want to be strong. I eat because I enjoy eating and because I want to be strong. Why should I frame one thing that I enjoy as a reward for another thing that I enjoy? If I were to start framing it like that, then I'd start to see exercise as a chore and food as a luxury item that needs to be earned, rather than seeing both food and exercise as things that are both essential for health and enjoyable in their own right.

    Maybe you'd say being strong is the reward for having a healthy lifestyle... but framing it like that makes having a healthy lifestyle into a chore (for me), and then it'll stop being rewarding in its own right. And that's one major issue I have with it.

    There is more than one way to frame human behaviour. it's not necessary to reduce everything to "reward seeking" for human behaviour to make sense. i reduce human behaviour to its evolutionary origins, as that's what makes sense to me. There is usually more than one way to frame a question, and more than one accurate answer to it.

    So the problem in this debate is "I want to be motivated enough to stick to my exercise programme without falling into the kind of mindset which leads to behaviours that will stop me from progressing towards my goal" - then the question as to how you frame the behaviour of people who don't do well at dieting so you can avoid doing that yourself, can have different answers.

    Your answer is that you see people as not understanding how to train themselves to behave the way that's going to give them the best results, so you frame it as a necessity to understand that we're all motivated to achieve a reward, similar to training dogs. I have no doubt that this works for some people, provided (as we've established) the mindset of punishment is absolutely avoided. (I'm not convinced that many people can easily do that if they're already firmly in the reward/punishment mentality, but for those that can, great.)

    However I frame the behaviours as we're all Homo erectus with a bit of extra cerebral cortex, and what we consider to be "undesirable behaviours" in terms of dieting such as bingeing are actually (usually) physiologically normal survival responses to a food shortage. The way to overcome this is to not put yourself in the situation where these survival responses are set off to begin with, i.e. don't deny yourself nutrition that your body needs, and view food as something that's essential to survival (i.e. it's not a reward, it's an essential thing for survival... you don't reward yourself with oxygen....) and do exercise that you enjoy.

    These two ways of framing the behaviour are not by any means mutually exclusive, and neither of them are necessary in order to understand human behaviour, because there are other ways besides these to frame the question and explanation.

    I would predict that the actual practical solutions we come up with are very similar, in this case we both enjoy a post-workout meal without guilt. Is either approach wrong, per se? No. It's only wrong if it leads to a negative mindset and behaviour that stops you from achieving your goal.... your mindset would do that for me, I know that because I know myself well and how I react to things and as you have observed, at an emotional level, I don't separate reward from punishment and/or doing something I don't want to do.

    I also know that when it comes to psychology, we can all be very different from each other, because so much of human behaviour is learned rather than hardwired. So while from a biological point of view, to lose weight you need a calorie deficit, and to be healthy you need exercise and healthy food and this is the same for everyone... from a psychology point of view, people should go with whatever enables them to stick with a healthy lifestyle while avoiding self-destructive behaviours.
    The OP is wondering if this is a bad habit. I say no, it isn't. It's a great way to teach yourself consistency and by being conscious of both things, to avoid blowing up when you haven't expended the calories, because your lifestyle has changed, or better yet, to find motivation to take make an effort to find effective ways to maintain fitness when the environment changes. This is the top reason I have continued my progress despite living on the road for the past month and a half. Otherwise I would be depending on willpower, which is already being taxed by my environmental change.

    Well I've managed to do all that without framing it all as "rewards" - and without being dependent on willpower... and also in adverse circumstances.
    I sincerely hope you don't find this exchange to be unrewarding, because I am thoroughly enjoying it and appreciate your energy and intelligence.

    It would be more enjoyable if I had enough time to be on the internet arguing all day... I'm popping in between doing other stuff and don't really have time to devote to these kinds of debates... and if I do then I'd rather they were on my blog and about issues I'm more invested in, such as evolutionary biology. In terms of this debate, whether someone should reject the whole mindset of reward and punishment, or have rewards without the punishment, really doesn't mean a lot to me. I don't really care which of those you or the OP chooses to do, so long as you're in a positive mindset that is keeping you motivated, getting you results and not causing you to be trapped in a negative cycle of punishment and self-denial. So really there's not much debate to be had, just quibbling over some small details, which I don't really like doing all that much (although I love talking about human evolutionary behaviour so that kind of makes up for it). I'm more of a "whatever, it works for you, but it doesn't work for me, just lets do what works" kind of person... so long as it really is working and isn't a justification for self-destructive behaviour.
  • pcastagner
    pcastagner Posts: 1,606 Member
    Actually I always figured we evolved to seek rewards, and homo erectus or even Australopithecus, or even plants and fungi are no different. Sort of the key to being a successful species. Using rewards as reinforcement is separate from the need to seek them.


    I don't see Internet debates as akin to male chest beating in primates. More like the social struggles undertaken by females. Lots of grooming too, and sometimes ganging up to exclude someone.
  • endoftheside
    endoftheside Posts: 568 Member
    All I have to say about this topic is that I am especially motivated to work out on the weekends since I will likely be in situations where having more calories available is to my benefit. I don't see anything wrong with that. If you are going to a buffet, it's just cruel to only have 500 calories available.

    P.S. Totally miss Souplantation. Haven't been to one in over 20 years!!! I wonder if anything is the same.
  • neandermagnon
    neandermagnon Posts: 7,436 Member
    Actually I always figured we evolved to seek rewards, and homo erectus or even Australopithecus, or even plants and fungi are no different. Sort of the key to being a successful species. Using rewards as reinforcement is separate from the need to seek them.

    many things evolved to be enjoyable because they're essential to survival... eating, eating with friends, sex, cuddling, sunlight, warmth, the endorphin rush you get from exercise (i.e. hunting, in evolutionary terms)... if you want to put it that way, they evolved to be enjoyable so the enjoyment of them is a reward for doing these things, and animals that didn't enjoy doing what was necessary for survival, didn't survive, and we're descended from the survivors who did. So personally I just enjoy these things in themselves, and view them as things that are supposed to be enjoyed because they keep us healthy... I try not to attach frontal lobe values to them so much, like x is a reward for y. If x is necessary, why not learn to enjoy x, or find a way of achieving what x achieves in a more enjoyable way.

    if you see that as using rewards then we only disagree on the semantics... but then language is important, because words have connotations, and for me "reward/punishment" has connotations that I don't want spoiling my enjoyment of things.
    I don't see Internet debates as akin to male chest beating in primates. More like the social struggles undertaken by females. Lots of grooming too, and sometimes ganging up to exclude someone.

    Clearly you've been looking at the wrong threads then lol. I see it a lot on this forum!! :bigsmile: And why are men's struggles up the dominance hierarchy "chest beating" while women's are "social struggles undertaken" - male and female chimps both have dominance hierarchies ....you get alpha females not just alpha males, and it's very obvious in humans too, albeit with cultural differences* in terms of how closely it resembles actual chest beating. But yeah I see the other stuff as well lol now you mention it.

    *I'm talking culture at a micro level here, as in cultural differences between (for example) a rugby club and an office, or between one office and another office. You will probably find actual chest beating if you look in the right places. Another thing that's amusing is that a lot of people as they get close to losing their temper, their displaying behaviours get a lot more chimp like :bigsmile: I once did a cartoon of a creationist in a creation-evolution debate, jumping on a chair, waving his arms about and yelling "we did not evolve from apes!!!"

    holy thread hijacking batman... sorry OP