So sick of restarting

I dont think I understand the question

You really have to want to do this. You need to be in a good head space....Do you reallyw ant to lose weight? If you do then you should be putting things in motion.

Log all your food even if its just a guess - that will give you an idea of just how badly you are eating and a reality check.

You just don't want it bad enough..

QFT.

You talked a lot about *what* you ate with no reference to *how much* you ate. Perhaps address the *how much* first, and then worry more about the what.

And what deficit level are you trying to stick to?

I completely understand your frustration - I'm there myself. But you're the only one who can do this. There is no magic cure - it's gotta start inside. I'm starting over again too (today actually) and know from LOTS of personal experience how hard it is. Fortunately, there are a couple of ladies in my office who are on this journey as well - one has been working on herself for a while and looks great! (She's serving as my inspiration.) The other just started today too, so she's my measuring stick, so to speak. (Plus she's kinda pushy, so if I start slipping back into old habits, she's the kind that just might yank a knot in my hinder to get me back on the start and narrow.) :-)

I think a good support system is the most important thing you can have in your life when you're trying to get healthy and change some bad habits. Not only here on the message boards, but also in real life. And not just a cheerleader, but also someone who's going through it too.

Since you're not going to the gym, would it be possible for you to at least take a walk around the block? That's better than nothing!

Good luck to both of us!!!

I find that logging my food is sometimes enough motivation to keep going.
I also know how much work I need to do to burn 100 calories and it makes me think twice about indulging in chocolate, a pastry or other treat. If you substitute the junk food in your diet for healthier choices you might find that you will immediately start eliminating a lot of calories from your diet.
Your exercise/gym routine should be something that is easily part of your routine. Don't limit your calorie burning time to the gym. If you can - leave the car behind or get off the public transport one stop early and walk the distance, walk during lunch time.
In no time you will start feeling better and have more energy and that will positive feedback is fantastic motivation to keep going. Focus on better health rather than weight loss alone.
Wishing you all the best,

Ben

It's not all or nothing. If you don't feel like going to the gym, can you get out for a walk or bike ride? If you want chicken fingers for dinner, can you skip the fries and eat a healthier breakfast and lunch? Celebrate when you stick to your plan, but don't beat yourself up if you don't: just pick yourself up and do a little something healthy for yourself.

If you only have a little to lose, it can be tough. At least that is true for me. I weigh 150 and aim to weigh 140 and have stronger muscles and better endurance. I have to be pretty perfect on calories and exercise to lose a noticeable amount. But if I'm not, that's ok. It's living like a regular person, not a dieter. So long as I am not gaining weight, I'm doing ok. Losing less than a half pound a week means that it will take a while to lose 10 pounds, but it's a lot healthier for me in the long run than gaining. Or obsessing.

Forget about all the ignorance posted here.....their brains havent fully developed to their full potential.


Im in the same boat as you...so I can relate. Its not that we dont want it bad enough; we do. Its something else going on inside our brains that causes us to give into this type of behavior.


Add me for support :flowerforyou:

don't beat yourself up over it. Just get back on track and try to figure out what's causing you to keep straying. I have found that making video diaries helps me get things off my chest and out of my head. In the past when I was worried about something or stressed I'd eat and just have all these thoughts in my head and before I knew it, I'd eaten so much bad food and then felt guilty over it and the process started all over again. So to avoid that when something is bothering me I make a video diary. Do whatever you have to do to get over than hump. And exercise is a great stress reliever too. Hang in there

I got sick of restarting too. I got sick of the super sore muscles from starting over again. I got tired of my new clothes that I bought when I first dropped the weight suddenly becoming too tight again. I got tired of feeling like I was never going to reach my goals.

So I quit stopping. I finally just said this is it, and resolved that this time, there wasn't going to be any stopping, but I was going to stick to good, healthy, reasonable changes, making exercise a priority, and making healthy food choices. Part of that involved finding this thread and setting my calorie goals at 20% off my TDEE: http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/937709-in-place-of-a-road-map-ver-3-0 It also meant getting my workout clothes out the night before, setting my alarm for 4:45, and starting my workout by 5am, before the family is up.

I started tracking all my food again, every day, every bite, even when I was sick, even when I couldn't exercise for over a month. I logged in every day, rest days, exercise days, sick days, etc. And tomorrow will mark my 610th straight day of logging in at MFP. I think I can safely say it's become a habit now. :bigsmile:

This is my lifestyle now - eating well, fueling my body, making time for exercise, even if it's only 30 minutes with weights, or a fast 20 minute walk with my dogs. I make time for it. But when life gets in the way, I don't beat myself up for it. Birthdays, holidays, dinners out with friends, celebrations happen - make room for it, enjoy it. And keep moving, make better choices the next day, or the next week, or whatever, but keep logging, keep building good habits.

If you don't quit, you won't have to restart. So I quit quitting. :drinker:

Forget about all the ignorance posted here.....their brains havent fully developed to their full potential.


Im in the same boat as you...so I can relate. Its not that we dont want it bad enough; we do. Its something else going on inside our brains that causes us to give into this type of behavior.


Add me for support :flowerforyou:

This explanation is much less painful than accepting responsibility.

Forget about all the ignorance posted here.....their brains havent fully developed to their full potential.


Im in the same boat as you...so I can relate. Its not that we dont want it bad enough; we do. Its something else going on inside our brains that causes us to give into this type of behavior.


Add me for support :flowerforyou:

This explanation is much less painful than accepting responsibility.

yep.

Tired of restarting?

Quit stopping.

You will do it! 5 bad days are not too bad. The decision to stop it ... is what matters. Tomorrow is a new day. You can do it.