Regained weight and unmotivated to lose it

lillythomann1
lillythomann1 Posts: 1
edited January 22 in Motivation and Support
A few years ago i lost 70 pounds. i wasn't happy mentally or emotionally and i didnt see or appreciate the change in my body. In the past 6 months i have regained the 70 pounds. i am desperate to lose it but i dont have the same motivation i did before. I still workout almost everyday but even that seems pointless because the scale goes higher and higher. i need motivation and advice!

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  • cebreisch
    cebreisch Posts: 1,340 Member
    You have to have reason to make it worth it for you to change your habits. Until you do, you will likely not make much progress.

    My moment was nearly 2 years ago when I went to a school event with my oldest daughter. I could hardly walk to the front door and had to stop several times along the way to catch my breath. Once inside I had to sit down - the only place to do that was at the side of the hallway, and people had to make their way around me. I was mortified. I remember sitting there thinking, "Something has to change. I can't do this anymore."

    I went to see a bariatric surgeon, who told me they wanted me to lose 90 pounds before they'd do it. I was scared to death that I would never be able to do it. BUT I felt the fear and did it anyway. I met with the dietician's, I started going to see a therapist, I went and joined weight watchers - and tried very hard to do what all of them told me to do. I still haven't had the bariatric surgery, but I've lost 146 pounds.

    People will likely try to tell you you need to do it for your family or some other reason. You need to do it for you. Not for anyone else, but you. I don't believe in trying to be guilted or shamed into losing weight because my parents are stressing about it or because I could die before them, or whatever. This isn't about anybody else but you BECAUSE you are the only one who can do it. Nobody else can do it for you. The motivation needs to come from within.

    Also, I totally understand about not being happy with the changes in my body. I had lost 115-ish pounds, and didn't feel like my body reflected those changes. I had lots of extra skin around my belly, and boy could it swing!! I hated it. BUT I just recenly (a month ago) went and got it removed. The doctor removed 26 pounds worth of Belly. I finally now feel like the image about matches the number of pounds lost.

    Do what you can to find non-scale victories. I read earlier that people should keep an "attaboy sheet" listing all the good things they've done: donate time or money to charity, accomplished another goal like learning to crochet or throw pottery, help teach your kid to ride a bike, whatever. That way you have something to look for when you need a boost.

    For what it's worth....and good luck!!
  • GCanha
    GCanha Posts: 66 Member
    Only you can make the choice and effort required to get you where you want to be. We can all make excuses every day for not working out or overeating- but in the long run, that's not getting us anywhere. Losing weight is hard work- physically and emotionally. We can't fix our bodies without addressing our emotional needs. I understand you might not have the same motivation- but what motivation can be stronger than doing this for yourself- and your health?

    I think you should change you're way of thinking- You're motivation should simply be YOU! To be healthier, happier- to satisfy yourself To prove to yourself that this is not something that's happening to you- it's something you're doing to yourself therefore you have the control to fix it..

    As to the working out and not losing weight recently, it seems that you're only half-heartedly trying to do this. Make a choice to do it. You managed to lose 70 pounds once- and that proves that you can do it- you just have to chose to do it.
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