Aaahh!! My daughter wants a thigh gap!!!

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  • Saaaam42
    Saaaam42 Posts: 154 Member
    I would help her figure out her BMI and what not and show her she's actually probably underweight. Probably won't help this weird fad go away but might help her feel skinny.
  • SeaRunner26
    SeaRunner26 Posts: 5,143 Member
    Highly unattractive. Looks unhealthy.
  • Some_Watery_Tart
    Some_Watery_Tart Posts: 2,250 Member
    My 13 year old daughter is a stick and so has a gap. But when I asked her if all the girls were talking about "thigh gaps", she had no idea what it even was. In fact, she thought it sounded like an injury! Ha ha!

    I would tell your daughter that it's a fad obsession and not to worry about it. Next we'll all be dying to have the "right" earlobes.

    See, my daughter is 14 and doesn't have a gap, but she IS stick thin!!! That's the problem!!!!

    Patience and repetition, mom. And above all, don't panic! She hears you, but more than that she *sees* you. So be her example of confidence and self esteem. Show her that you love yourself. And hang in there. The teenage years suck. But she's got a mom that's involved, so she's gonna be just fine. :flowerforyou:
  • TomTomato
    TomTomato Posts: 223
    I am definitely a leg man and I just don't get this whole thing about thigh gaps. Either I am old and out-of-touch, or this is some strange concocted fad that makes no sense. As far as teenagers listening, let me know if you've cracked that nut! I believe they hear us and some of what we say actually registers, but they'll never giving us the satisfaction of acknowledging it.
  • Monday7
    Monday7 Posts: 1
    Hey everyone. As silly as it sounds I really want a thigh gap. I'm super healthy and have a visible four pack but I can't seem to loose the fat off my thighs. Any practical advice or ideas would be greatly appreciated.
  • obeseandsassy
    obeseandsassy Posts: 118
    This is the most comprehensive post I've seen explaining the thigh gap and why lots of people will never have one.

    http://size10plz.tumblr.com/post/39346180390/what-are-thigh-gaps-and-why-you-probably-arent
  • SerenaFisher
    SerenaFisher Posts: 2,170 Member
    Its genetics. I have wide hips, and have a thigh gap naturally standing (not all the way from hip to knee unless I am around 130lbs). I would give up a thigh gap for smaller hips... any day. Then I curled my hair because it was straight like many girls
    I also wonder what it would be like to be 5'3" and be able to wear heels without looking like an amazon. Bottom line? Hopefully she learns to love her body as it is.
  • trinitrate
    trinitrate Posts: 219 Member
    As silly as this sounds.. it might be helpful to have a trusted male figure.. father, older brother, etc. provide perspective.. i.e. she is cute the way she is... Guys -do not- care about thigh gap (and most probably do not like it)... help give her a healthy perspective on her appearance from someone thats not her mom.. you know mom's always think you're perfect the way you are!



    Oh, and happy mothers day!
  • sarahz1442
    sarahz1442 Posts: 136 Member
    why?? all those girls look sickly. I cant see a guy thinking thats cute so why do girls???? maybe its cuz i've always had curves but that doesn't seem cute to me.

    A girl can have thigh gap and still have curves. It is based on hip size. Aren't wide hips considered curves????
  • nitole111
    nitole111 Posts: 45 Member
    Did you ask her if she wants a thigh gap because she wants guys to like her better or because she thinks she would be healthier. And I'm sure the answer would be because she wants guys to like her, and I'm pretty sure guys don't give two craps if a girl has a thigh gap-if they even notice at all. I have guy friends who don't even know what a thigh gap is! It's really not that big of a deal but I'm sure you've told her this.
  • boatsie77
    boatsie77 Posts: 480 Member
    Get her involved in something meaningful...go with her to a homeless shelter to serve soup, have her work on a habitat house, let her spend some time at an animal shelter or helping the elderly...she obviously needs to find something bigger than herself to focus on.
  • sarahz1442
    sarahz1442 Posts: 136 Member
    so much hate and stupidity in this thread. You are concerned about this kids body image, yet you are all hating on women who naturally have thigh gap. Such hypocrites.

    oh and women can have thick legs and a big butt and still have thigh gap btw.
  • marciakate
    marciakate Posts: 18 Member
    I am built a bit like your daughter whereby all over she's thin and "normal" (not fat at all) yet her legs are chunkier? I was worried about this for a couple of early years in high school till one day I realized that my legs were bigger because they were muscly. So I used them. I ran a lot and at school athletics carnivals, I trained and won all my running races :-D.

    U'll probably find that a lot of the girls with thigh gaps are all skin and bone on the legs, an not much muscle at all. Tell her she's been born that way, and there's a reason why her legs are like they are.
  • runlikeananna
    runlikeananna Posts: 42 Member
    Running will get you a thigh gap. If you can get her out running that will keep her out of trouble. :)
  • sarahz1442
    sarahz1442 Posts: 136 Member
    I am built a bit like your daughter whereby all over she's thin and "normal" (not fat at all) yet her legs are chunkier? I was worried about this for a couple of early years in high school till one day I realized that my legs were bigger because they were muscly. So I used them. I ran a lot and at school athletics carnivals, I trained and won all my running races :-D.

    U'll probably find that a lot of the girls with thigh gaps are all skin and bone on the legs, an not much muscle at all. Tell her she's been born that way, and there's a reason why her legs are like they are.

    wrong! I have 21.5 inch thighs and still have thigh gap. at my heaviest, i probably had 24 inch thighs and still had thigh gap. it is very possible with big thighs.
  • iecreamheadaches
    iecreamheadaches Posts: 441 Member
    I have a thigh gap, its filled to the brim with my bawls. hahahahahahaa.

    my bad. I had to.

    you win.
  • StarChanger
    StarChanger Posts: 605 Member
    When I was in high school, thigh gaps were considered a sign of promiscuity...at least the way the guys saw it. While I'd definitely like to not have my thighs chafe in the summertime, a "gap" has never been something to aspire to in my book. Now, outwardly curvaceous quads, with an incurving lower thigh is totally hot in my opinion. I'd love to have my legs get back to that....and if my thighs don't rub as much, great...gap not needed.
  • GdeVries
    GdeVries Posts: 232 Member
    Well, there could be worse fads she's into. And yep, even I can get a gap between my thunder thighs when I stand like a constipated duck.

    Ha ha ha, love this! Thank for the laugh!
  • brower47
    brower47 Posts: 16,356 Member
    In a world of only thigh gaps, this would not exist.

    fcca19a6-bc8c-4e83-a63d-d3a23c277fad_zps7f2ab1d4.jpg

    That world would suck.
  • Vdoll1981
    Vdoll1981 Posts: 11
    omg that is pretty much the grossest site i've ever seen! i'm obviously not healthy, but i would rather have my rubbing together legs than chopsticks to teeter around on.

    it works for some women, like pretty much everyone else has already said, because of body type, etc. and a little gap is one thing, but where your thighs are 5 inches apart? ugh. a majority of those on that site? sick, waaaay too thin, no more than skeletons, really.

    show your daughter some pics of someone like robyn lawley, an australian supermodel, who has legs that touch. she's gorgeous and i bet more men would want some of that than a woman with a big ol' gap.
  • SerenaFisher
    SerenaFisher Posts: 2,170 Member
    so much hate and stupidity in this thread. You are concerned about this kids body image, yet you are all hating on women who naturally have thigh gap. Such hypocrites.

    oh and women can have thick legs and a big butt and still have thigh gap btw.
    So true. Like you said you do not have to be stick thin to have a thigh gap. Point and case the image posted prior I'm this thread ;) its genetics. I have a thigh gap at all sizes as well, its just bigger with less weight. Its also sort of shaming to women to assume they must be sticks to have thigh gaps... we are all different love your body type.
  • BinaryPulsar
    BinaryPulsar Posts: 8,927 Member
    When you talk to your teenager, she acts like she is not listening to you, but she does hear you. And when she is thinking things through, she does have your voice in her head. She places more value on what you say than you know. And when she is going through a tough time and she can see that her peers are wrong, and she wants to listen to her own inner wisdom, she will remember the things that you have said. Don't be pushy. Just tell her and be loving. She hears you, even though it seems like she doesn't. She will outgrow this.
  • ContraryMaryMary
    ContraryMaryMary Posts: 1,787 Member
    I'm not skinny at all, yet I have a thigh gap - wanna know what else I have? Bow legs.
  • ContraryMaryMary
    ContraryMaryMary Posts: 1,787 Member
    Here's another great pic and expiation on how to fake it: http://thriftdee.com/2013/03/the-thigh-gap/
  • ironanimal
    ironanimal Posts: 5,922 Member
    90% of the thigh gap pictures she's looking at will be the faked pose kind as described before.

    The rest is genetic. I'm not exactly a skinny teen girl and I have one, lol.
  • NormInv
    NormInv Posts: 3,303 Member
    I'm not skinny at all, yet I have a thigh gap - wanna know what else I have? Bow legs.

    sexy legs
  • DalekBrittany
    DalekBrittany Posts: 1,748 Member
    What the heck is a thigh gap? I have been reading about this a lot. My thighs never met so I dont get it. And also doesnt it depend on the bone structure of your legs? So confusing!!!

    Lots of pics of "thigh gaps" so you understand...
    http://****yeahthighgap.tumblr.com/

    A lot of those girls looks dangerously thin and sickly. But notice how you can't see the lower half of their legs? Probably because they would be standing funny
  • ThoseLittleCats
    ThoseLittleCats Posts: 180
    What the heck is a thigh gap? I have been reading about this a lot. My thighs never met so I dont get it. And also doesnt it depend on the bone structure of your legs? So confusing!!!

    Lots of pics of "thigh gaps" so you understand...
    http://****yeahthighgap.tumblr.com/
    u can tell a lot of those girls are stickin there buttz out to make tha gap
  • Melissa22G
    Melissa22G Posts: 847 Member
    So, if you're not a gapper, you're a flapper?
  • ldrosophila
    ldrosophila Posts: 7,512 Member
    This isnt very politically correct, but I've never been one to be PC. If it was my kid I'd say sure you need a thigh gap. I've seen lots of pictures of people with thigh gaps then I would proceed to show her pictures of starvation and concentration camp victims. I'd probably also make a big stink that women's bodies all come in different forms and this stupid media hype is unrealistic. Show pictures of how thigh gaps are photoshopped.

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