Does anyone ever SAY anything?

Please don't be disheartened. I have experienced the same thing. in fact I was standing at the check in counter at the gym and people have commented on OTHER people looking good, but throw me a bone or something, but nope! Not even my own mother!

Maybe we can get a bunch of those tshirts printed up.

I seriously think you should wear the t-shirt!!!! How awesome would that be and it would make you smile all day :laugh: :happy:

GREAT JOB on the weight loss first off!!! The people who usually notice the most when I lose weight are people who I haven't saw in a while like "weaklink109" said. I will say this. . .my husband is the first to notice when I GAIN 5 lbs. but I can lose 40 and never get nothing. . .the most I have gotten is "your legs look smaller". . .WOW!!!!!! REALLY???? LOL :laugh: I know it's just the way he is but sometimes it hurts. But we just have to remember like you said we're not doing this for anyone else in the long run it's just for ourselves!!!

Sometimes people are afraid to say anything in case you lost weight because you are sick or something.

People can be unobservant and lost in their own world. Before I got a new license, people would ask to see my driver's license, look at the picture of me 20 years younger, with curly hair and contacts and weighing close to 200 pounds and then look at me standing next to them 20 years older, with straight hair and glasses and weighing almost 100 pounds less and not blink an eye. let alone say anything.

I have found that many times you have people in three different camps which prevents them from complimenting you or noticing your weight loss. The first camp is afraid to offend you. They are afraid to say you look good because that would mean they thought you didn't look good before and well they don't want to feel like they're being rude. The second camp and more common camp is people who are jealous of your success. They very likely have weight, habits or heath issues they want to improve upon and for one reason or another haven't been able to and to acknowledge your success is acknowledging their perceived failure. There are also people in the camp who are just flat out mean, nasty people who simply can never say anything nice about anything. Finally, your third camp are people who truly don't even notice. Those are people who are often very much wrapped up in their own world, their own struggles and their own reality and have no presence of mind to look away from themselves to see those around them. Many times they aren't mean, they're just a tad self absorbed. Those are the people who will pipe up usually in a very supportive way when you tell them you have lost some weight or your excited to go shopping for a new dress size.

Regardless.......be proud. You making fantastic changes and remember your real motivations. Finally, I've learned you can't expect people to read your mind or give you what you need unless you ask for what you need. So next time your out with someone who seems clueless and you want some positive reinforcement, share your success with them and I guarantee 9 times out of 10 they look at you......REALLY look at you and tell you how great you look!

I totally get where you're coming from ... my hubby doesn't see what I've changed but he's the first to make a jab about "that's a big piece of cake" or "didn't you have ice cream last night too" ... it's frustrating as heck. He claims it's cause he sees me every day, my argument is if he sees me every day and one day realizes my shorts aren't as tight that a nice comment would be nice. Congratulations on what you've lost and one day they'll notice.

It took about 30 pounds for me before people started noticing. Then the comments kind of simmered down and surged again around 60. Lately I've gotten those "you're wasting away" type comments from people who've previously commented BUT I'm still getting first comments from folks at work. A few weeks ago, I was talking to a coworker from a different department and she stopped mid sentence about 5 minutes into our conversation, GASPED, and said "Oh my god, you've lost so much weight!" :laugh: I was just like "Well... yes. Thanks for noticing." :laugh:

What are these t-shirts we are talking about? I want one! I agree, nobody ever says anything .. but my family and friends do, but no one else. It is disheartning. But we know that we are doing great, and it's how we feel - it's a different encouragement. GOOD JOB!

I can understand your point - I stopped myself from commenting on another person who mentioned this same thing because I was afraid of how it sounds... but here goes...

I would rather that people didn't say anything because that means that I always looked like I weighed what I weigh now. Like I've never had that terrible "before" picture. It proves that they never saw how bad it was before - you know... maybe I hid my weight well.

Then there is another part to it... I had this girlfriend who was looking more beautiful than usual - yes, thinner and I said something to her but I must have said it wrong because she thought that I was trying to hint her into losing some weight. Then I just felt bad - embarrassed.

Don't get down! What you've done is AMAZING! For me, if I see someone I haven't seen in a while and I think they've lost - I usually don't say anything for a few reasons. 1) They may be sensitive about it - i.e. they're not at their "goal" and don't want to discuss it; 2) sometimes I feel like if I say "have you lost weight" I'm implying they were overweight to begin with; and 3) if I don't know them very well (co-worker or acquaintence) I worry that maybe they've been ill or something and its not a "good" loss. I know I probably worry about what I say more than most - and of course that doesn't account for your family - but maybe this helps a little?

19 lbs is about when people started noticing (so like 3 weeks ago - haha) and only because I started getting SMALLER... even though I lost a lot of weight, I didn't start losing dramatic inches until just recently when I vamped up my exercising. I think people are only noticing now because my clothes are so much looser. Don't worry! Just keep working hard because YOU know you've done it. And that shirt sounds awesome.

Lots of good comments here. I have to say MacMadame's hit home for me. We winter in AZ , so don't see people from home for 4-5 months. I didn't tell anyone I was changing my lifestyle. When we returned home I got both good and bad comments.Some people did comment "did you lose it intentionally?" Some said nothing, but asked my husband if I am or was sick. These days we hear cancer all the time, so I agree, I think people are afraid to say anything. I have since lost a total of 80# and really get the "intentional?" question. Be proud of your accomplishments. You will hear good comments soon. Best wishes for a good journey :flowerforyou:

I totally get where you're coming from ... my hubby doesn't see what I've changed but he's the first to make a jab about "that's a big piece of cake" or "didn't you have ice cream last night too" ... it's frustrating as heck. He claims it's cause he sees me every day, my argument is if he sees me every day and one day realizes my shorts aren't as tight that a nice comment would be nice. Congratulations on what you've lost and one day they'll notice.

LOL! I think I married his double!! My husband is excatly the same. His favourite new phrase is "are you allowed to eat that?"

Ok....being a mom who has been accused of being too critical (yes that would be me) she might have taken a step to not criticize her daughter no matter after years of nagging. That is exactly what I have done lately with my own daughter. My daughter just never seems to get with the program but, she is a grown woman now and I have decided to only offer advice if it has been asked of me and love her just the way she is. I need to trust that she will (like I did) eventually figure it out on her own. Sometimes it is very difficult to stop "correcting" or "guiding" our offspring and although usually done with good intentions comes off as nagging or being critical.

Ok, that's my mommy opinion.

As far as the others? It sounds as though my dear you are over due for a shopping trip. You don't need to spend a lot of money to show off your new bod. I am not a believer in waiting until you are at your goal weight either. A new pair of duds always makes me feel great about my appearance. And how you feel about yourself will shine through, everyone will see it. It's called, retail therapy.

Although I haven't seen any new pics of you recently, I am sure you're looking awesome with all the workouts you've been doing.

hugs!
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