Embarrassed

If this is someone you know, just look them straight in the eyes and say "Why would you say that to me?" And if they don't answer, keep at them, "Excuse me, I'm just trying to understand why you think that's acceptable. Don't ignore it, because if you ignore it they will keep at you until they get an emotional response. Unfortunately, bullies won't often stop until they are confronted.

Also - if you are concerned about them complaining to the management, before you confront them go and get a staff member to serve as a witness.

As others have said, if this is actually happening at work you should report it.

I totally love this ^^ "Why would you say that to me?" it bounces their rudeness right back at them without being rude itself.
In fact, if it were me, I'd probably preface it with "How totally rude? Why would you say that to me?" or
"That is incredibly rude! How on earth could you think its acceptable to say something like that?" again, calls them out without being nasty.

Wear some headphones and enjoy some feel-good, heart pumping music while you train. This way you can tune them out and it may help you to get and stay in the zone without having to listen to their nonsense.

^ this for sure!!! My headphones are my saving grace.

Jusr re-read this.

If the people at your gym are mean, change gyms. Easy solution. Don't pay someplace to make you feel bad. Go somewhere else.

Also - they are jerks, just tell yourself that while they may be slim, they are crappy people, and no one likes them anyways. It's what's inside that matters most.

Now, if people are harassing you about your weight or what you are eating while you are at work, go to HR and file a complaint. That's illegal. That is discrimination and harrassment. That is hostile work environment. I guarantee once you go to HR, all that will stop. And don't feel bad about it, because that kind of behavior from a coworker is unacceptable, and they need to learn that one way or the other.

Truly agree. I feel you girl. I am consider so big size in Asia due to my big bone structure and meaty body. Each time when I am at the counter the worker would point at my tummy saying and laughing that.. Ohhh look at you tummy, you have gained weight... Wtf, I did not! and sometimes during my period, I cant do anything to my bloating tummy...

Just ignore them, I usually just smile back..and if possible change gym. That's what I am going to do. I am switching to another in September and I cant wait for that! Feel free to add me as friend Keep going : )

I hate to hear this happens. I don't get it or why people would be so mean. Clearly the person making comments, etc has their own issues and likely unhappy people.

Look the bottom line is you are trying to be healthy and nothing should stop you from doing do and charging after your goals. Just ignore them, know that you are a beautiful person and just keep at it. The only person you need to make happy is yourself and you are the only person you need to answer too. So hopefully ignoring them will help it, and just keep at it as you are doing great! Good luck!

omg what's happening at your gym what are they saying to you ?

First and foremost I think it is unbelievable that you are going back and rubbing it in their face. You are doing this to please you, not them. It's an uphill battle most days but the rewards are life long.

It's real easy for people to make comments at "how fat someone is" or "how unfit someone is". In reality, they're flawed creatures too, because otherwise, they would try to help.

I know how you feel because I've been the fat girl too. In school, in college, I got called names and stuff. But I guess you're only hurt if you let it get to you, and if you care at all to listen to them. If you don't, they don't exist. You've got a goal before you, reach it. For you that's all that matters.

Good luck!

That is so unbelievably sh*tty. *kitten* every last person that makes fun of you. That is seriously not cool.

well im really happy for you that your going to the gym and working out, thats really great. you are being healthy by doing that, im so sorry that you got stuck with a group of mean people. there are good and bad people in the world, sometimes certain places just have a lot of the bad ones and sounds like this is one of them. dont worry about what anyone else thinks about you, you are doing this for you - to make you feel good. dont let someone else make you feel bad while you are doing something good. i like the idea of listening to music and just ignoring them but if you feel really uncomfortable there then you should just change gyms. look some up online, theres a lot of them around and the next one you go to you might end up liking it a lot. also, your an adult, your not a kid, if you want to eat half a donut thats no ones f*cking business but yours and no one has the right to say anything to you about it. if that happens again you should really say something back thats embarassing to them.. sometimes you just have to put people in there place especially at work if you see them every day. let them know that your not going to take their *kitten*. you go to work to work, you go to the gym to exercise. not to be told what to do. live your life and be happy and dont worry what a bunch of losers say. your not caring what they do because your happy with yourself, people that say bad things to/about other people aren't happy people so its really their problem and not yours. keep your head up and just go on being content and feel bad for them that there that miserable that they have to try to bring other people down to make themselves feel better. your doing great, and they suck. dont let it get to you, keep doing what your doing and skrew those idiots : )

Misery loves company. Just stick to what you are doing and ignore them, in time when you are all awesome looking they will be the ones embarrassed.

Miserable people will always try to put you down. I seem to attract that kind of person. I have a "friend" who is very heavy. I think she enjoyed my being heavy along with her, but she's said some snide things as I've lost weight. Her mother said not to get rid of my fat clothes, because I'll need them going back up. But, hey. It sucks to be them. Seriously.

Mean people will always be mean. It's hard not to let words hurt, because they do. But I also agree that it's a good idea to get to the place where you let it roll off.

I was told last night by a guy I've known for years that he is shocked to learn I have a degree and a teaching certificate. He said I just didn't seem smart enough. My husband said the guy was showing his ignorance. And that's what those people are doing. You can lose weight, but they'll always be mean and stupid.

I wouldn't give anyone that power to ruin my day. People will always try, you just have to remind yourself that they have nothing to do with you. They don't pay your bills, why are you worried about what they say? Who are they to you? Be happy with who you are, and if you want to make a difference, you gotta put the work in. If you're content, then be happy. Never give anyone that power to dictate your feelings, your emotional state. Live stress free baby!

This ^^. Is everyone at work and at the gym rude to you, or are there a few nice folks? If there are, then stick with those and exclude the rude ones from your jokes, from your lunchtime, from anything personal. Only talk to them when it's business-related. And make sure they see how much fun you're having with the nice folk, but make sure they feel excluded. After all, they are trying to exclude you too (in a way). So why should or would you want to include them in your life?

As for eating something "unhealthy": if someone picks you up on that, just say "yeah, I'll enjoy this one but I'll run it off later. No problem". And then turn around and let them stand in their ignorance.

Don't make yourself dependent on what others think or say. They don't like you? Hey, so be it. Nobody says you have to try to like them too and be friends with them!

They're a bunch of bullies, plain and simple. Can you put headphones on and crank the music? I know how hateful people can be. If it really is impacting your mental healthy, I'd find somewhere else to workout. Seriously. You're doing this for you and while it's easy to say don't let them effect you, that's easier said than done. Best of luck to you.

^ this is the kind of reason i avoid gym's/weightwatchers and crap like that.

Im already judging myself enough without someone throwing their two-pence in.

Hence why iv got what i need at home, scales/cross trainer/gym ball/dumb bells and a workout dvd.... only things passing judgement is my dogs an my kids.