Negative Comments about weight loss.

People themselves are unhealthy and/or overweight, and you are reminder to them about that. You post that picture and they see it so they have to comment something bad to make themselves feel better. Not even consciously, most of the time it isn't, they may not even know that what they write makes you feel bad.

Sometimes they convince themselves that it is unhealthy to do this just to have an excuse not to, cos they are too weak minded to get there. If anything you should be proud of yourself, not annoyed, when you see hate comments cos that means that they envy you.

Man, it's YOUR goal... keep going till you reach it. No one else's opinion matters.

Yeah, I think it's a bit of jealousy that they haven't admitted to themselves, so they take passive aggressive jabs at the successful, thinner, healthier person they envy and want to be like.

Also, sometimes people get used to you being heavier, so that when you lose weight they think you're now too thin. They think that someone is too small or has gotten sickly, or that he or she has a bigger build and shouldn't look like that, etc. They only have this view because they knew you as bigger. If you just met someone, they would assume you'd always been that way and would think you looked fine. Try not to worry about it because people are always going to say off the wall things.

Here's the thing: They will talk about you if you're fat, they will talk about you if your skinny, and they will make fun of you if you are fit and spend any amount of time dedicated to exercise. Just be true to yourself and stay healthy. Screw their opinions.

^^^ Yes. All of that.

I have people asking me when I'll stop (whatever that means), saying I'm too thin, etc too. My MIL started getting worried I was getting too thin when I was still like 10-20 lbs overweight! I've had people thinner than me and bigger than me make comments like this. I've never yet had someone tell me to eat a sandwich thankfully!

How can i deal with these people in a constructive way without being a complete ***** to them and tellying them how i *really* feel??

What's wrong with telling them how you really feel? They have no problem doing it, so they should expect and appreciate the same.

IMO the most appropriate responses are A- "blow me," and B- "why, so I can look like you? No thanks."

So, coming at that from another perspective, it may very well that your parents think you're not going to stop. I understand what everyone is saying here, but it's not always jealousy or insecurity that causes people to make such comments. I have a sister who is very health conscious and works very hard to maintain her current weight, but honestly, she does look a little thinner than I think looks good on her frame. It's none of my business, and I've not said anything to her directly about it, but she's gone from plump, to thin to ... too thin. And while you made not come across this way, my sister comes across as if looks are the only thing that matters. She doesn't ever bring up the health benefits of what she does (and honestly, I sometimes question whether there ARE health benefits to what she does), her only focus is the way she looks. I know my parents are concerned because it seems every time we see her, she's thinner than she was the last time.

Recently, she's posted a couple of photos of herself on FB, and I can see the muscle definition that she has - which is not something I normally see on her because of the way she dresses. And I think, as long as she keeps the muscle, she's probably just fine. Realize, however, my sister is 5'5" and probably about 130 lbs, but has such bad body dysmorphia that she would never be seen in a two piece bathing suit, or any sort of revealing clothing at all. She's also had minor issues with ED. All of that adds to the concern.

The next time your parents ask you how much more you want to lose, or if you're going to stop, don't say something like, Just three more pounds. Instead just say, I'm pretty much done, and let it go at that.

I thnk there's kind of an assumption that anyone who loses more than say 20-30 pounds altogether must be doing it dangerously. Lots of people "go on a diet" or suddenly start exercising, it's tough and they can't keep it up, so anyone who CAN keep it up must be eating nothing at all or over-exercising or something bad. It's probably also a method of helping them feel better about their own inability to change their lifestyles; "Well, sure, she lost that much weight but she's probably not doing it in a healthy way, I'm better staying a little overweight than having to work liek SHE does"

Just ignore 'em, keep on keepin' on, and I hope you get that last 3!

How can i deal with these people in a constructive way without being a complete ***** to them and tellying them how i *really* feel??

What's wrong with telling them how you really feel? They have no problem doing it, so they should expect and appreciate the same.

IMO the most appropriate responses are A- "blow me," and B- "why, so I can look like you? No thanks."

Why I wouldn't exactly choose those words, I would probably say to my morbidly obese friend (term used lightly) if she commented about my dedication would be "I just don't want to be a morbidly obese person who doesn't take good care of herself and ends up in the hospital having to get abdominal surgery for things such as hernias that wouldn't have been necessary had I just decided to start eating right and exercise on a regular basis."

Here's the thing: They will talk about you if you're fat, they will talk about you if your skinny, and they will make fun of you if you are fit and spend any amount of time dedicated to exercise. Just be true to yourself and stay healthy. Screw their opinions.

^^^ Yes. All of that.

Exactly --- and too often ppl associated weight loss with deprevation which is not true

Oh this old chestnut,

My mother in law is forever telling me that I am "wasting away" or that I "must eat". When I go to her house for dinner she tried to fill my plate and make me eat dessert.

She is one of those old Jewish ladies that strive on feeding everyone up and her cooking is amazing which sometimes makes it hard to say no lol!

I've learnt to ignore the negative comments, they may be out of concern as nobody truly knows what you are doing to your body apart from yourself. They may think you are starving yourself or that you are obsessive but they aren't in the same boat as you so they don't understand. These comments are probably coming from people who have never worked out a day in their lives!

Ignore it, carry on with what you are doing and be proud of how far you have come!

Sometimes people are saying it because they are genuinely worried and don't have a proper grasp of what "unhealthily skinny" really is. Sometimes I say to people "I'd have to drop another 40lbs to be considered underweight" - that usually shuts them up. Use BMI to your advantage.

I completely get where your coming from!! I am experiencing the same thing from my family. It has started to slow down a bit tho, as they get used to seeing me this way, AND seeing that I DO EAT, lol, when we are at family functions with food...lol. I'm pretty sure that my 85 year old mother in law still thinks I'm anorexic tho, lol. I work in a very busy salon and I have a lot of clients and they have all been very positive , and that helps! It seems only the friends/family are the ones with the the negative comments. Strange. I guess it's just the families weird way of showing love? ha ha. I just remind them that I'm getting healthy and fit, and that I'm just now into a healthy BMI range, and my doctor says I'm doing great.

Just say "Thanks, I'll take that as a complement". Or you could say "Thanks, I'll take that as a complement, Fatty". Either way they'll get the point! Your life is your own!