The truth come out!!! H..E...L....P

awww im so sorry your sad, hey sometimes life gets in the way, you just do what you need to do to make yourself happy. try to take some time to yourself, you wont be good to your family if your too stresed out.

i hope everything works out for you. keep your chin up :flowerforyou:

So you've gained 4 pounds? I've gained more than that from fluid retention, so I don't think someone's comment about that small amount is reason to allow yourself to get so upset.

I don't think anyone's comment about your weight should get to you--don't allow others to define who you are! Often people make comments about us when they feel guilty themselves--by trying to belittle others, they believe they can elevate themselves. And someone who feels the need to drag someone down to make themselves feel better is not worth listening to!



You've come to a place where you can find support, advice, and friends, so you've made a great first step.

Welcome!

screw your mom, you look HOT in your picture! considering the amount stress you're under, gaining only 4 pounds is a huge accomplishment! you should be proud of yourself for that. also, you're an amazing woman for caring for your father. don't let her comment ruin your day or your progress.

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Think about everything you are missing out on if you focus solely on your weight. Oprah fluctuates tremendously, yet she is constantly working to improve her world. America Ferrera, Raven Symone, and Tyra Banks are all strong females who represent healthy bodies and healthy attitudes about themselves. If you want to lose weight for your health, then by all means go for it. But don't ever let anyone tell you what size you should be.

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Since I was 12 my dad, grandma and grandpa always told me not to eat so much and get some exercise and how I wasn't healthy.. But at that time I wasnt over weight at all! They told me those things for about 8 years. My grandma would give everyone else a candy but not me and say "You dont NEED it" and "No boys like bigger girls..." my grandpa would always tell his doctor how I was SO overweight and asked if it was healthy blah blah and my dad would always tell me "You need to go outside and get some exercise" Being told that all the time made me feel worthless and never good enough for them or anyone. Then resulting in me thinking I was so fat I could lower a car down and I would never do anything or go anywhere with my friends. Then I got pregnant at 17 and gained a HUGE amount of weight. I had graduated from school early and moved out with my husband. I stayed in my house for almost 3 years hiding and gaining weight because I didnt want anyone to see me, to see how fat I was. This year however, I said "You know what? They can think what they want, Im not gonna live my life hiding like this. I want to LIVE and do WHAT I WANT and im not going to care what anyone else thinks, because I wil be having fun!!" So I FINALLY started going out and I saw some of my old friends from school and they had gained more weight than I had! I had 2 kids by then! I decided to start losing weight not for anyone but me. So I have been and it has been awesome!! I talked to my grandma later since I am quite close to her and told her how she hurt me so bad and she said that she didnt realise she was hurting me, she was trying to help me... Same with my dad and grandpa.. but it still really hurt and still does a bit.

So just live for you, dont worry about what others say. If you dont like who you are then change it, but not to please others. Thats what Im doing and now everyone is very supportive.

You can do this! Good luck! :flowerforyou:

Oh yeah, and if you try to live and please others there will ALWAYS be someone who is not satisfied with you for a reason. You cant please everyone. Ive tried haha

The mean comment will not hurt or help you.......unless you let it. The harsh words are unfortunate for sure, but It's how you will react to it. There are people out there who will always try to put others down to make themselves feel better, and there's nothin you or I can do about those people. You can only control yourself, and just realize that they do not control you or what you put in your mouth. And oh my gosh, 100lbs, that's awesome. Don't let anyone bring you down, girl, you have already done what others only dream about. And if all this advice from everyone on MFP doesn't help, then you just suck it up and PRESS ON. Kim

I think you are doing a really hard thing caring for your Dad....and you need to cut yourself some slack, and give yourself credit for what you have done, and for what you are doing.
You deserve a hug!