Is it normal to feel resentment ?

Without commenting on the possible clean eating vs IIFYM discussion that may erupt, I'll just say sure. It's a natural reaction. It's how you deal with it that matters. I'm a little resentful that some people get to spend their lives doing nothing but living off a trust fund, but I imagine there are other people who are resentful that I don't have to deal with the crushing poverty they were born with, or that I don't have cancer (knock on wood), or I haven't been maimed in a fire. The list goes on.

There are worse things in life.

i didnt make any comments on this being the worse thing ever. I thought I read this topic names motivation and support...I was hoping for some support maybe some ideas on how to not want the food so bad when they eat it around me. Its like watching a slow-mo commercial in 3-d with smell!

I wasn't suggesting that you thought it was the worst thing ever. You did read the forum title correctly. Did you think you weren't getting support?

Stop thinking you have to have salads and eat foods you don'e like, because you don't. Alternatively, you could just avoid exposure to these foods if it becomes a problem. It's a perfectly normal problem to have. As I was trying to communicate, it's an issue of perspective.

Allow me to motivate you by reminding you that you're the one in control of whether or not you choose to be an environment where you're exposed to food porn.

Now, go forth and feel empowered.

work out more and eat what you want! No reason to starve!

I think its totally normal to feel resentment or even frustration. I wish I could eat a burger from Carls Jr right now. And I know if someone naturally thin did, they'd probably lose weight haha. Its not fair. But life isn't fair...

Haha this is a tough one... I think its normal, but you can't really hold it against someone. Well actually sometimes you probably can lol... just kidding. I would just try to distract yourself while they are eating and hold your head up high. You will feel good about it. And give yourself cheat days... cause its going to be impossible to be good 100% of the time when its in your face all the time. Perhaps knowing your cheat day is coming up will you strength in the mean time. Its a struggle that's forsure! Damn boyfriends...

just work for your food. 45 mins of circuit training and you can chow down a big mac and it wouldnt do much damage. or as another poster mentioned. just dont expose yourself to those foods each day and make your healthy foods more delicious. plain salads suck.

i didnt make any comments on this being the worse thing ever. I thought I read this topic names motivation and support...I was hoping for some support maybe some ideas on how to not want the food so bad when they eat it around me. Its like watching a slow-mo commercial in 3-d with smell!

I wasn't suggesting that you thought it was the worst thing ever. You did read the forum title correctly. Did you think you weren't getting support?

Stop thinking you have to have salads and eat foods you don'e like, because you don't. Alternatively, you could just avoid exposure to these foods if it becomes a problem. It's a perfectly normal problem to have. As I was trying to communicate, it's an issue of perspective.

Allow me to motivate you by reminding you that you're the one in control of whether or not you choose to be an environment where you're exposed to food porn.

Now, go forth and feel empowered.

FOOD PORN? BAHAHAH:) I will forever call it food porn now:)

work out more and eat what you want! No reason to starve!

Yes! Probably one of the biggest reason "diets" fail is because they aren't sustainable long term. People go to extremes and make themselves miserable which leads them to crash and burn sooner or later. Whatever you do to lose the weight needs to be something you are willing to do forever. EAT WHAT YOU WANT! Just don't eat a crap ton of it and over time switch to healthier alternatives. Make your favorite foods fit within your calories and exercise to earn extra calories if they don't fit. Good luck!

You can eat reasonably and healthy and tasty all in one I have discovered I adore cooking example portabella pizza is awesome only 180 cals for 2 ( depending on toppings this is for turkey sausage a lil cheese spinach and tomato sauce that I make) its a great snack! Plus you can eat way more than just a salad have you tried hummus with fresh veggies?? Also not boring I have an endless list of health things to satisfy and delight try ohsheglows.com for one and feel free to message or add me if you want some other ideas also recipes under forums is awesome place to get the skinny on yummy things

yes...slap him

Hahaha yes

Have you tired cooking something low cal thats yummy that he would eat?
It is soo much easier if he is eating the same as you
I will have smaller portions of meat with more veggies
or make a stir fry packed full of veggies etc

It's completely normal, and while I agree that there may be worse things in life (cancer, poverty, etc.), it's frustrating to not have a fast metabolism, and also to hang around with people who can be insensitve and eat whatever in front of us. I've been overweight my whole life, and often resent when others go to McD's and have a 10-piece nugget meal and 2 McChickens and 3 cheeseburgers, and know that it's the equivalent of 3 days' food for me! But the others are right, this is our journey, and we need to focus on that and try not to look around at what others are doing. Now, if I could only convince myself that's true about the gym! ;-) Hang in there, and just do the best you can every day. If we fall off, we just have to get back up again. We have to keep trying to lose weight as if our life depended on it...because it does.

I've failed at many diets in the past because I was under the wrong impression that all I could eat was salads. It wasn't until I changed my eating habits to eat whatever I want just watching my portions and add veggies as sides that I learned the correct way and will never look back.

I feel pretty lucky that my daughter, who is the only other person in the household, is on board with what I'm doing. If she were sitting there eating take-out pizza right now, I'd be pretty pissed -- not at her, just at the situation. I give major props to anyone who can keep their resolve while those around them are eating all the goodies.

Stay strong, and try not to resent him. It's not his fault. It's the burger's. It's always the burger's fault.
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P.S. If you want a cheeseburger (or pizza or Chinese), make it fit. You may not be able to have it as often as your man, but you can definitely make it work once in a while.
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