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    How do you make close friends on MFP?

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    • Posts: 1,741 Member
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      How do you become close to anyone in real life? Its the same thing.

      People think to become close you have to have something in common. I think otherwise. My closest friend here is a 60 years old grandma from south who is a dentist. I'm a 29 years old creep from Asia. We have NOTHING in common yet she is invaluable to me because she has helped me stay on track when everything in life told me not to.

      Just stalk. Share what you got and sooner or later, you'll find people who will gladly help you out. You of course should help them out too because its a 2 way street

      Fixed it.
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      I know!!!! See what I mean?? This why I hate them. :sad:



      no dont be sad!
    • Posts: 1,498 Member
      just be you! ......... naked pics works too.....
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      naked pics will work...well that's what I've heard
    • Posts: 1,133 Member
      Mom told me a long time ago, if you want to have a friend, be a friend.

      You've been here longer than I have and have 4x the friends that I do.

      Pare down your list, open up, and talk about what's going on.
    • Posts: 1,351 Member
      I think of them warmly...with warm, mushy thoughts... then some of them thoughtfully send me pictures of a cat wearing a bra...and that's how the relationship grows... you know? you just have to share...strange pics.
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      how is your ankle doin, baby?

      sorry bout that.
    • Posts: 1,192 Member
      You can't. It will be infidelity and people will judge you. http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/998846-infidelity-mfp-what-gives

      *eyeroll*



      But really, if you want to be closer with your friends, just start having actual conversations with them via PM. The only people on my FL that I would consider "close friends" are my IRL friends.
    • Posts: 50 Member
      Mom told me a long time ago, if you want to have a friend, be a friend.

      You've been here longer than I have and have 4x the friends that I do.

      Pare down your list, open up, and talk about what's going on.

      My momma said that alligators are ornery because they have all those teeth and no toothbrush
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      I suppose I've just gotten lucky because I've got some of the most amazingly supportive friends here. Many of them I would consider very close. Good people on here, you just have to be picky about who you add to your friends list. It goes beyond just commenting with a way to go or something when they post a workout. It's about being genuinely interested in their goals, their lives, etc. etc. I can pretty much talk about anything from fitness to personal things with the people I've got as friends here. :heart:
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      hahahaha, too great
    • Posts: 1,838 Member
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      Yeah, about that..can you loosen up the chain just a little?
      I told you already! As soon as you start behaving, THEN I will.
    • Posts: 41,865 Member
      I read blogs and read posts about people having invaluable friends and support with people on MFP. Now I love my friends on here. They always provide positive feedback to my status' and I try to do the same. But I wouldn't consider them close. How do you use MFP to get I guess get more intimate and individualized support. Should I just start sending people messages and seeing who responds? How did you get close with people on here?

      nekkid pics...works every time.
    • Posts: 14,025 Member
      Naked pics. Sure I have been blocked by a few thousand, but the hundred I have loved it!
    • Posts: 27,732 Member
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      It's like any friendship-- you find a topic you agree on or an interest you have in common and you start talking. Although I've found that gifs shorten the process.

      For a long time I didn't have close friendships here but that's because I wasn't putting much into those friendships. I was adding generic feedback to friend's posts and they were doing the same and that was about it. When I came back in October I started really using MFP like social media and I've made a ton of great friends since then.
    • Posts: 3,763 Member
      Frequent interaction. Daily logging. Responses to status updates.
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      You can start by adding me! :happy:
    • Posts: 2,964 Member
      It's been said before, but sending pictures of your boobs never hurts.


      And just like in real life, sometimes you click with people and sometimes you don't. I have exchanged great PMs with people and that was it. And others results in face to face meetups or really great online relationships.

      In the end it comes down to, you have to BE a good friend to cultivate one. Cheesy, but nonetheless true.

      Stalking sometimes works too

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    • Posts: 1,722 Member
      When you go to war with folks, you form a sort of bond. Going to war means more than just posting "did X exercise for 30 minutes and burned Y calories" and "completed food entries for the day and is under the goal". It means lifting up your friends when they need a boost...and it also means exposing your humanness when you are having a bad time. Be open about yourself....and genuinely care about others. That's how bonds are formed.

      The health journey we are on is a war with yourself...but its a war that everyone else on this site is battling. We can relate with each other to the good times and the bad times.

      Anyway, to answer your question, its really just a matter of how much of yourself you're willing to share.....and you will find others who are willing to share just as much because they will relate to you.
    • Posts: 1,344 Member
      One at a time. It starts with conversations on your page, and then you do private messages, you check on them when they've been sick or going through something. Next thing you know, they're doing the same for you, and you get to know them more and more. It helps when they share more of their life than just fitness, but some people never do, and you'll never know them any better.
    • Posts: 6,033 Member
      I piss excellence. People like that sort of thing.
    • Posts: 2,964 Member
      I piss excellence. People like that sort of thing.

      I'm really not into water sports, but for you I might make an exception.
    • Posts: 1,624 Member
      One at a time. It starts with conversations on your page, and then you do private messages, you check on them when they've been sick or going through something. Next thing you know, they're doing the same for you, and you get to know them more and more. It helps when they share more of their life than just fitness, but some people never do, and you'll never know them any better.

      And then the spooning begins.
    • Posts: 10,477 Member
      I piss excellence. People like that sort of thing.

      *takes out the plastic sheeting*


      Alright... I'm ready.
    • Posts: 1,344 Member
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      And then the spooning begins.
      You're the back spoon. You'll thank me.
    • Posts: 2,964 Member
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      And then the spooning begins.

      IN for the spooning.
    • Posts: 14,025 Member
      I piss excellence. People like that sort of thing.

      You are paying for a new mattress.
    • Posts: 1,759 Member
      I piss excellence. People like that sort of thing.
      That's the asparagus.
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