I need motivation, advice, something of the sort.
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I'll be honest, and you will not like me and think i'm a *****...but meh, sometimes honesty helps so...your whole post sounds like excuses...excuses why you can't get motivated, why you can't exercise, why you can't do the things you need to do to achieve what you want. You're so defensive it's like you are armed with nuclear subs
I know this because it's exactly how I was, and still am to an extent. I had/have a good reason for not doing everything I don't want to/didn't want to do. I am the queen of putting things off and not treading outside of my comfort zone. But the thing is...if you don't charge into the dodgy slightly uncomfortable land of changing your lifestyle you will never achieve what you want.
You can surround yourself with every bit of motivational blurb and inspirational story in the whole of internet land but the only person responsible for you is you ultimately. I know this because I have been there. Several times, and believe me the only way I got to where I actually like (sometimes) what I see in the mirror was by being focused and being dragged out of my comfort zone. It hurts and it's unsettling but it just depends on how much you want to reach your goal?
No one here wants to drag you down or make you feel bad. This site has the some of the most fantastic, unwavering but also brutally honest advice you will get for free anywhere on the net. Everyone here will support you. You might not always want to hear the advice, but maybe just keep an open mind and accept other people's ideas and opinions. We're not out to get you, just trying to help ;-)
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I think I know where you're coming from. Personally, I work in a grocery store, and that contains pretty much what a convenience store has and more. I used to forgo bringing home lunch because I'd just pick up something from the store or one of the nearby lunch shops. Not only is this a terrible habit, it's EXPENSIVE! I'll tell you what I do now and maybe you can get some ideas from it. Remember, small changes lead to big ones over time, so don't worry if it seems slow, you'll get there in the end. Just make a small change today, and a year from now, it could be huge.
I picked up a couple of "gourmet" healthy cook books, because let's face it, it doesn't matter how healthy it is, if it tastes like doodoo, I won't eat it. Stuff like the Insanity or P90x cookbooks could be good places to start. Then I went through all of them, finding the meals that looked tasty to me. Then I picked out two meals per meal block (ie breakfast, post workout, lunch, afternoon snack, dinner), for about 9-10 meals per week. I went through the ingredients, making a rough draft of a shopping list, then consolidated and substituted similar foods so that I wouldn't have to buy all sorts of ingredients that spoil before I use it. For example, if a recipe called for a whole wheat english muffin, I might sub that with a ww slice of bread because I already had some. I pick one night from the week (usually Sunday) where I prep whatever meals I can for the week, and put them in prepacked containers. Groceries usually run me about $60-75/week. Not bad when you remember that it's for ~35 meals.
I know it sounds like a lot of work, but it's worth it in the end. It's saves time through the week. Also, when I bring a prepacked lunch(es) to work, even though there may be tastier junk food, I'll eat my healthy food because it's right in front of me. Circumvents the temptation.
And for not wanting to exercise, we've all been there. Sometimes you just have to find a time of day where you feel like it can be done. I used to wait until dusk to run because that's when I used to feel energized, but sometimes I'd come home from work tired and just would not work out. Now I've committed to waking up a little earlier and jamming in my workout then. When it's done, I feel great, and when I get home I can just relax knowing my workout is done. I also get bored with my workouts, so I tend to just change it up on a whim. I mainly just aim to do something physical for at least 30 min a day. If I get bored of running, I lift. Lifting gets boring, I'll do hikes. Tired of hiking, I'll do some DVD workouts. Just keep trying new things, and you'll meet new people who will help you.
Oh, and I'll also share with you my wacky exercise thing. Sometimes I just don't want to leave the house. I want to watch TV and stay inside. I want to stay barefoot. So I do all of that, but I exercise. I'd put on my favorite show (usually on netflix) and play something like a drinking game. Every time a character says his catchphrase, I'd do five squats. If they fight, five pushups. If they sing, run in place for the entire song. You get the idea. Weird, but I enjoy it.
It's a lot of trial and error till you find what works for YOU. Don't give up; we're all here because we're in the middle of our journey, not because we're finished.0 -
I'm asking others kindly not to reply with "just do it" and "only you can motivate yourself" because I know both of these things already and I know that those things are not going to help me right now. I don't think there's any harm in asking for advice outside of the two things that I'm saying please don't say this because I am already aware of this. What I'm looking for is just for people to talk to me. I'm looking for support and comfort and encouragement, not someone to just come in and say "just do it".
Support is one thing but regardless of how much support and advice you have, the motivation has to come from you. None of us can motivate you to do something or give you the drive to succeed. The sooner you realise that, the sooner you might look at yourself and decide that it's something YOU want to do.
Motivation comes from within!0
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