Do you get decent support at home?

My SO is wonderful and supportive. He started MFP first then got me started. When I have bad days he is there with encouragement and I likewise support him when he struggles. We have made a true lifestyle change. He does the grocery shopping and cooking. Okay I am pretty spoiled.

it's at the point now that I keep my excitement to myself, otherwise I just get upset.

Yeah same. Mu parents don't mean to be rude, but that just don't get it. And they are so oblivious (or in denial) to any issues I've had in regards to body image ect. So frustrating sometimes!!
They also think lifting will make me bulky, which is SOO frustrating.
And yeah I've learnt the hard way to keep it to myself. They just don't get it or understand this whole thing like you guys dooo!

I get no support at all, my mum thinks im stupid for weighing my food and choosing fruit n veg over chips and fried food. I've lost 7 kg but no one has said anything except for a lady at college who asked if i was sick. I'm at a reasonably healthy weight now and my muscles are visible in some places so I definitely don't look sick. It sucks cos i've worked so hard and it hasn't been easy at all and i'm not even halfway to my goal. It would be nice if my friends or family would notice but then i remind myself that i'm not doing this for anyone else so it doesn't matter. But thats part of the reason im on MFP, I get encouragement from my friends list (none of whom iv met in real life) just for logging my cals! :flowerforyou: .

My husband is kind of supportive. He will say congrats or good job if I tell him I lost a few pounds. He is fine with what I decide to make for dinner. He's happy that we are getting healthy as a family, but he refuses to work out with me or even go for a walk with us. He works long hours so I understand not wanting to go for a walk, but he complains about how much he weighs still. He will watch the kiddos so I can go for a jog, if I decide not to take them with me.

It's frustrating that he still brings home junk food or asks me to go buy ice cream or whatever. I can say no, and I do, but it's way too tempting having that stuff in the house. I want us all to get healthy and lay off the junk food but it's hard when he's bringing chips, donuts, and cakes home once a week!
He seen my one month progress picture and didn't say anything. Even after I told him that I still had a long way to go, he said nothing In that moment I needed a little support and didn't get it.

My daughter is supportive ( she likes to work out with me!) and my mom is a great cheerleader.

Nope. My successes are kept quiet at home. My friends and colleagues are very proud of me though, so that helps.

I'm sad to see so many people not getting the support at home . I do get tons of support. My guy is doing the workouts with me - we just finished week 7 of Insanity. And will be going into Les Mills Combat starting June 9th. And we just started training together for some upcoming obstacle course runs for Sept. and Oct. We also do all our grocery shopping together and he cleans up after I cook..so it works out well. I do the MFP thing on my own though, he isn't on here, even though I'm sure he feels like he is cuz I talk about it every day lol.

I don't think I would have stuck to it these last 3 months on my newly dedicated journey if I hadn't had him doing this with me. If he was to all of a sudden drop off this journey I'd be fine on my own, but getting to the point I am now mentally would have been super difficult without support from him.

Recently my husband started taking his health and weight loss seriously, which has in turn helped me tremendously. I do most of my workouts before he wakes up/when he is t work (where he has access to a gym on his breaks) but occasionally we will go for a walk as a family. Making dinner has been easier as he's open to some newer things, and we're not going through food as quickly. He's noticed the small changes I've made and compliments me on them

That certain time of the month (when all I want to do is sit and eat chocolate gelato in my bed) my boyfriend basically throws me over his shoulder and takes me to the gym with him, saying "you'll thank me later". I usually do. In terms of fitness, he's been a great motivator, and I've learned a lot of what I know about lifting from him.

That being said, in terms of healthy eating it was a struggle at first. He's never dieted in his life, and usually needs to stuff himself silly when in gaining mode. However, I've won him over in the eating department for the most part, since he feels he performs better and has more energy when he eats well. Also, I'm usually the one cooking dinner, so he has no say :laugh:

Don't get me wrong, we both go to the all-you-can-eat ribs restaurant and get a birthday cake sundae every weekend, but throughout the week we've learned to eat the right way together.

I sort of get support at home. My fiance tells me how great i look or that he is proud of me for the effort I am making but usually only says this after I tell him how hard of a workout I had or that I was able to stay in my calories even though I spent the entire day on the road.

I started "dieting" and ate 1200 cals a day for months. From March to the end of April I was at a weight lost plateau. I could not get below 196. I started researching why and found MFP. What a game changer. There is so much info in these forums that its invaluable. I discovered the reasons why eating more is better TDEE, BMR and most importantly Fitbit.

I tried telling my fiance about this, sending him articles to read, but he is not interested in it. When he feels like dieting he eats 1200 cals a day. When he does not, he eats an entire pizza.

I, on the other hand, decided that this if for the rest of my life and not just quick fix. I eat my cals based on my fitbit and exercise. In 5 weeks I have lost 6 lbs and love it. I get encouragement from my FL here on MFP. My fiance sees the changes and says nice things sometimes but has no interest in following the program. I am happier with the way I feel and I dont feel like I am dieting anymore.

Even though he is supportive, he sometimes makes comments that are not so supportive. Yesterday we went out for errands and decided that we would eat Portillo's (Chicago fast food place). They have one location here in LA and it was a nice reminder of back home. I knew going in that this was a going to be a big meal with lots of cals and I was willing to go for it, The meal was over 1000 cals so the only way I could fit dinner in cals (and stay under like I wanted) was to walk on my treadmill for 30 mins. I could have skipped the walk but I did not want to waste my efforts because I went over.

When I mentioned this to my fiance, he told me I was going overboard with the counting, the exercise, and the entire fitness routine. I decided right there that I would no longer talk about my weight loss plan and when he sees that I am doing great, maybe he will jump on board. Or he wont. I love him, he loves me, but this weight loss journey is for me and me alone.

My husband is supportive of what I want to do and when I exercise - but I am having trouble with the food. He states that he doesn't care if I lose weight or not.

In the past few years he has decided to be the one to cook dinner. It's great except that he makes HUUUGGEE portions. I tell him that I need smaller portion size and he says because I use my brain for my job, I need more calories. His intentions are awesome - but makes things challenging for me.

BTW...His job is physically demanding - so he doesn't need the exercise as he gets it all day long. He climbs, trims trees and drags brush. I helped him one day and found out how DEMANDING his job really is. I lost 5 pounds working with him in 1 day! :happy:

So, to sum up- I feel support from him - but still find the challenge when it comes to food..

Yes. My husband is very concerned about my health so he is always taking me to the doctor to make sure I am doing this right. He takes me to the pool every night at 8:30 to swim laps even though all he does is sit in the hottub or read his paper in the car. He buys me whatever I need. He stopped eating fast food because I can't have it. He's awesome!

My husband doesn't join me for my workouts, but that doesn't make him unsupportive.

. Maybe rather than focus on ways your wife doesn't "support" you, you can look for ways she does -- like grocery shopping or cooking or if you have kids, she watches them so you can workout in peace.

Nope... I work from home... I do all shopping, almost every chore, all the cooking, and am the soccer dad. I do workout in peace, as I am home alone during the day.

I would just be happy if she said "nice job" once in awhile.

Have you talked to her about this? She might not even realize how her not being supportive is affecting you. OR, maybe, if she's not in shape herself, she's feeling self conscious about her body and is maybe a little jealous about your success...either way, I'd talk to her about it...because marriage should be a team, and you deserve to be supported in what you're doing just as she deserves it too...

My husband and kids are normal weight, so I'm the only one who need to diet. But I'm also the one cooking and buying the food, so they have to eat what I cook. And at least my husband do without complaining and my kids mostly do too. My biggest problem wasn't the regular food itself, but portion control, chocolate and other high calorie snacks. So we no longer have a lot of these items in our kitchen.

I do feel supported because my husband helps me get the time I need to exercise and he says he thinks I'm doing great. My kids are also making me motivated, because I see that they're eating better. Instead of cookies and chocolate milk they now eat fresh fruits, smoothies and nuts for snacks. And they love it. They still get some candy in the weekends, but chocolaty stuff are no longer a part of their everyday diet.

Nope, I have asked the neighbor to walk with me, she always makes excuses. My mom is too busy and self-absorbed, so I just work out by myself as well. Most of the family has said nothing about my weight loss except for my mom and grandma. So, oh well, I guess I will just keep on rewarding myself for the effort that they lack.