Do your family/friends find your diet annoying?

I don't know if they think it's annoying but yesterday we had a cookout with my parents and she made a ton of food I didn't want to eat. Sure, I could have just had small helpings of things but I didn't want to. My mom made the comment, I don't know what you eat anymore. I mean, I still eat food, lol, just not unhealthy food. I don't know if she took offense and honestly I didn't care. She is overweight herself and I don't want to be her when I am her age. If she wants to eat that way, there is nothing I can do about it BUT I can control what I eat and what I don't eat. I don't think I should be given a hard time for being healthy. I don't let it bother me. I am gaining so much more, and not extra weight!

My mom and I also got into it over her food choices for memorial day! She made potato salad (one of my favorites) but instead of asking me to go to the store to get low fat mayo, she just chose to use the full fat stuff she already had. She brushed it off as not being a big deal, and that I could just "eat less of it". Now, she's correct, but I have trouble eating just a little bit of my favorite foods. She was really mad when I didn't eat any of it. Oh well, her problem. I'm not going to make myself fat so someone else can be happy.

I also had a fight with my friends a few months ago when they chose to go to this barbeque place for a big reunion type dinner. I'm a vegetarian, there is literally nothing there I could eat and even if there was would be deep fried! I chose not to go, and met up with them later for a movie. I still haven't heard the end of it, but I don't care. I'm happy with my choice.

I think people don't realize that losing weight is a journey, and every choice you make has consequences. Sure you can splurge every now and then, but if you eat the way you've always eaten, you will weigh what you always weighed. Don't stress it OP. Eventually they will come to you for insight on healthy eating (trust me, I think at some point all of my friends and family have asked me about calories, vegetable, workouts, etc.) Just keep doing what you're doing and eventually you can be an example to those people in your life.

Last year my mother made a lifestyle change and went on a vegan diet. She stopped going to "yummy restaurants" stopped keeping bacon and meat in the house, and for the love of god there was never any milk other than almond milk -.-. I realized that sometimes I would say things to her like " Eww why are you eating that?" or "Mom it looks like your sandwich is a garden, it looks disgusting!" now at the end of the year she is down almost 90 pounds and her body is BANGIN.

In a sad moment of realization it came to me that ... I am the bad guy... Instead of encouraging her, I questioned her. Instead of telling her how proud I am of her, I chose not to eat dinner at her house with her "yucky vegan food". One day we went shopping together and we were giggling and trying on dresses, I realized that my 52 year old mother looked 100 times better in one of the dresses than i did. She was wearing size 10 pants when I was wearing 16's. I told her that day that I was tired of looking the way i did and I wanted to change my life. She said " Okay, we can do this together" And now I eat at her house all the time, she tells me about great recipes which are ..who knew... very yummy lol and she is there for me and supportive. Even my younger brother is supporting me and is acting as my personal trainer. He spends two hours of his time 5 days a week to kick my butt into shape and it's working! I am so lucky to have a family who supports me and wants what's best for me. I apologized to my mom by baking her a low fat vegan cake.I must admit, it was the best tasting cake i ever had.

Wow, this is just about the best thing I've read in a very long time. Thank you for being so honest.

Yeah. It's frustrating because I NEVER talk about what I eat or try to get them to eat like me. They just make snide comments based on watching what I eat.

With BBQ's, one thing I have started doing is asking if vegetables will be grilled, and if not, can I bring some zucchini and squash.for the grill. If you brush both sides with olive oil and add some seasonings (love Penzeys Mural of Flavor on veggies and eggs), and it tastes awesome. You can do the same with Kabobs and slice them and put them on in between onions and peppers, it tastes so good.

My Mom's becoming famous for her BBQ'ed artichokes, where she slices them in half, brushes them with olive oil and garlic with some salt and pepper, and lets them sit for at least half a day prior to grilling. She made them for Bunco at my house once when i used to play with my neighbors and they still remember them to this day! She makes them for appetizers, and luckily, most of us love artichokes. Instead of having just a half, I'll take a second for dinner to take the place of foods I can't eat.

The time's my Dad's birthday/Father's Day or even when he makes the choices, as it's always burgers, corn, and potato salad with hopefully carrot cake for dessert. That's one of his fav. meals. We finally got him off of iceberg lettuce salads, but frankly, we all need to be watching our weight and that isn't the best thing for him to have either! I think one of the tougher struggles now is making certain foods the kids love, ones that I love too but can't eat, and staying away from it. My SIL and brother brought Yonanas the last BBQ, where you make "ice cream" out of bananas and another fruit. The banana raises sugar levels, but nowhere as much as cake would!

I also think counting the calories can be seen as obsessive despite it just being part of what we're doing, but the more we lose weight, hopefully the more people will back off. I've written down everything I've had at each BBQ, party, or get-together to log later, and try to do it privately unless I have to ask questions. My parents have been following an Atkin's-type diet and have done well on it, and I can't eat half of what they eat or my calories would be through the roof! I think they get it since they're trying to be careful too, but again, it's the parties where things aren't as easy because we go out to places where if the kids are loud, it won't be noticed, and those places aren't always the healthiest of places. It did seem the tougher restaurants were chosen once I started dieting, and though I had to only eat breakfast first, I managed to find calorie counts ahead of time.

I wish I had the answers, but think it depends on the person why they act a certain way. I know when my parents were losing a lot of weight I was supportive, but also felt guilty since I should've been doing the same. Others may miss just being able to pig out with us, who knows.

Last year my mother made a lifestyle change and went on a vegan diet. She stopped going to "yummy restaurants" stopped keeping bacon and meat in the house, and for the love of god there was never any milk other than almond milk -.-. I realized that sometimes I would say things to her like " Eww why are you eating that?" or "Mom it looks like your sandwich is a garden, it looks disgusting!" now at the end of the year she is down almost 90 pounds and her body is BANGIN.

In a sad moment of realization it came to me that ... I am the bad guy... Instead of encouraging her, I questioned her. Instead of telling her how proud I am of her, I chose not to eat dinner at her house with her "yucky vegan food". One day we went shopping together and we were giggling and trying on dresses, I realized that my 52 year old mother looked 100 times better in one of the dresses than i did. She was wearing size 10 pants when I was wearing 16's. I told her that day that I was tired of looking the way i did and I wanted to change my life. She said " Okay, we can do this together" And now I eat at her house all the time, she tells me about great recipes which are ..who knew... very yummy lol and she is there for me and supportive. Even my younger brother is supporting me and is acting as my personal trainer. He spends two hours of his time 5 days a week to kick my butt into shape and it's working! I am so lucky to have a family who supports me and wants what's best for me. I apologized to my mom by baking her a low fat vegan cake.I must admit, it was the best tasting cake i ever had.

Yep. And you'll run into a LOT of judgmental people on MFP who scoff at people that cut out milk or meat or whatever. They'll say everything in moderation, or that certain fats aren't unhealthy. But the fact of the matter is, what works for one person might not work for another. Your mom's diet, as restrictive as it might be, has clearly worked wonders for her! I'm learning more and more to keep an open mind, just by hearing these kinds of stories. Thanks for sharing!

I'm starting to get snide remarks.

Just yesterday at my mom's house, when I only had a small serving of plain vanilla ice cream instead of giant hot fudge sundaes like everyone else, my sister shoved a handful of pecans in her mouth and chomped on them in my face, rolling her eyes and moaning in delight very deliberately. She meant it to be funny, but it was pretty annoying. I laughed though. If she knew I found it obnoxious she would just do it more often.

"Just wait til our family vacation in six weeks," I thought, when she and everyone else sees me rock a teeny bikini at the pool with my toddler on my hip. Who''ll be laughing then?

Oh yes but they're getting used to it. Every time my mum comments on me eating healthy or laughs at me for weighing my food I just tell her I wouldn't be as slim as I am if I didn't. That usually shuts her up! Haha

They used to, but now they've got used it. It's only my diet that's changed and that I'm more active. It doesn't affect any of their meals or health, so they don't need to comment on it anyway.

My boyfriend is supportive but my family & some of my friends keep accusing me of having an eating disorder rather than being on a diet. I so don't have an eating disorder though, I'm just trying to lose the extra weight. :P

Get it all the time, dad is convinced I'm developing an eating disorder. And sister thinks I'm setting myself up for failure by not having cheat days. err actually cheat days will mess with my physhe ( did the research, personal decision based on state of mind)