How do I stop letting people's comments get to me?

"Nobody can hurt me today without my permission"-Eleanor Roosevelt. Don't give them that power over your life. You're young, and the sooner you can master this, the better.

yes the jerks will be around for ever ! Even if you move their will be outhers , either you thank them for pointing out the obvious or tell them "I can fix fat but you can't ugly ....."

I can totally relate to what you are saying. Sometimes you have to turn the tables on them. Where I work, we have to go from one site to another and have about 30 minutes to do so. When I didn't have a car, I would walk regardless of the weather. The other members of the team rode because they had their cars. My boss asked one of them why he didn't give me a ride. The response: "I didn't want her breaking my seat." We had to go into the city for a conference. This same guy called and asked if I wanted a ride. I declined. I took the bus. People at the conference asked how I got there. I told them I took the bus. He retorted. I asked you if you wanted a rode. I looked at him and said. I didn't want you to worry about me breaking your seat.

I understand the Mom thing too and have endured a lot of people's unsavory comments. I no longer let them annoy me. I know that I can change my weight and become a healthier slimmer person. What they are dealing with, they are probably stuck with. I actually pity them.

I know when I get to my goal I will have my "How do you like me now!" moment.

Sometimes people don't realize what joke actually mean. Especially if they have never been in that situation or helped anyone through it. I dismiss it as ignorance and nothing more. I don't like to think bad of them because that makes me cynical and unpleasant to be around. Why should I be an asswipe when I don't like them myself. I am also 6'5" and 247 was 281. So when someone says something I can joke back and say you like your face the way it is right now?

I do like the idea of calling people on it. It's especially inappropriate for people at work to comment about your appearance. I have actually told people this, verbatim: "Please do not comment on my appearance again." That usually freaks them out and they keep their compliments and criticisms to themselves from then on

Mothers can be tough. Some people just aren't meant for parenthood, and with emotional sadists, you have to distance yourself from any interactions. But a lot of mothers want their children to be happy, and they will say insensitive things because they are trying to help and don't know how. You have to figure out which one you're dealing with, and if it's the latter, I would ignore or deflect it.

I guess it's too awkward to elaborate, especially since the issue is too redundant. It's the same old story with the overweight individual who gets picked on for having an overweight issue.

It also sucks that the people who do that are coworkers I have to see every day and my mother. I don't know how they can be so ignorant and insensitive (especially my mother since she knows how much I struggled with this in the past year and have progressed.)

Thanks

It's HARD. I've found that the best way is usually to respond as little as possible. If the comment is very rude, I usually just roll my eyes and walk away. If it's a backhanded compliment, I just smile sweetly and say "Thanks!" as if I thought they genuinely meant it as a compliment, then walk away. If they try to tell me I should be doing it differently, I say "Hmm, Interesting. I'll give that proper consideration." And then walk away.

People who make comments like these are looking for a response. If they get it, they'll continue. They want to get to you. Even if it does bother you, don't let them know it. After a while you'll find that it really doesn't bother you, at least not as much.

“You will never reach your destination if you stop and throw stones at every dog that barks.” - Winston Churchill

Focus on your accomplishments and goals. As long as they don't bite, let the dogs bark.

ignore them. stay focused on you and what you need to do.

I once had someone tell me that I was so ugly that I should just die. Lowest blow I've ever experienced. it really cut me down. It's been over a year and I still think about it once in a while. cut those people ot of your life if you can, they aren't worth it.

I have an idea for you. I actually got this from a kid's program my son was watching. I have never been able to use this tactic because despite being morbidly obese for most of the last decade, no one ever said anything to my face. ANYHOW, here's how it goes:

*kitten*-hat co-worker: Hey so-and-so, you look like a beached whale today...
You: So?
*kitten*-hat co-worker: Well, your weightloss plan sure isn't working!
You: So?
This could go on and on, but you just keep answering "So?" Eventually they will realize what a jerk they really are and will give up. I seriously wish I could try this...LOL Good luck however you decide to handle it, but handle it. You don't deserve to be treated like that.

-Kendra