oh dear oh dear!

well week 1 was fantastic lost 5lbs, week 2 stuck with it but only lost a pound! this week started well on Monday but has gone down hill the rest of the week majorly! its always week 3 that gets me but now I have to try and keep at it so week 4 is clean and I don't keep going back! Finding the social side hard feel like I don't want to go out anywhere with friends because of restaurant food and drinking! finding going to the supermarket every 3 days for fresh stuff is financially more expensive. not happy and so angry with myself, need to loose about 100lbs why cant I find the strength to do this!

because you're putting too much pressure on yourself. you didn't gain the weight overnight and you won't loose it overnight either. if fresh is too expensive buy frozen. i'm talking fruits and veggies. buy and eat more eggs, beans, stir fry dishes. if you're going out with friends get in a longer workout, an extra workout, a more difficult workout something that will give you extra calories so you can enjoy yourself to a point. light beer, a light appetizer for a dinner instead of a meal. you can do it you just have to stop sabotaging yourself.

The first weeks are harder because you have to think and plan a lot. Later, it gets easier because you develop a better sense of what you should be doing and a lot of it becomes habitual.

I always lose 5 pounds the first week, but that's not fat. It's the energy stored in your muscle and the water that it's bound to. One pound is a great loss.

Check out the restaurant menus in advance and plan your night out for healthier options.

Frozen fruits and veggies are frequently healthier than fresh. Also try to incorporate dried beans - they've got great nutrients, are very cheap and are quite filling with all the fiber.

Baby steps. You have lost 7 lbs so far! That is good! You can still go out, just get healthier options and budget your calories for it. If you want to have a couple drinks, do some exercise to burn them off. Have you tried frozen vegetables? They are not as expensive and you can keep them a long time.

Go out. Drink less and eat less. You can still socialize. First month or so is generally a beach. Hard to do but you will get less hungry as you adjust. I ate grapes and nuts and drank an ocean of water.
My family hated the change because pizza and pasta went away for menu choices and I pretty much refused to go out in the first months.
I carried my own food when I found myself in a Nutrition Desert (or Waistland if you like).
Dramatic measures result in dramatic change for the diligent.
Good luck -- and stay the course.

I had 150 pounds to lose when I started three weeks ago. I lost 5.4 pounds the first week. The second week I lost 6 pounds. Last week I lost 1 pound. This week I was sick, and didn't eat much.... I am going out this weekend for dinner, dancing, and drinks. My weight loss this week will be slim to none I am sure. You know what keeps me going?

1. The thought of dying at 59 or 60.

2. Developing type 2 diabetes.

3. My kids.

4. This quote, " Nothing tastes as good as skinny feels!"

Find your motivation, and keep on pushing. Trust me there is NOTHING I want more in this world right now than to be happy, skinny, and healthy!! Good luck to you!

Edited to change that to than.

www.poorgirleatswell.com

This. Great website and she shows $25 grocery lists with pictures. You can do it. Just don't pressure yourself and don't beat yourself up when you don't lose the same each week. Give yourself longer than 3 weeks.

Yes, baby steps. 3wks in and you've already lost 7+ pounds. That is great!! You really don't want to lose more than 2-2.5lbs per week anyway. SLow and steady = better and more sustainable results!!

Most restaurants have menus online now. Go and pick out something and then see if its in the MFP database. Most likey it will be. Alcohol is in the database too,. Just plan ahead.

Remember why you started. Find ways to remind yourself to push forward and not go back. Put up sticky notes around the house, put a picture on the fridge of the old you...or the new you, give yoruself goals and rewards!!

One step at a time - you've got this. Stay strong

I just read a really cool blog about how motivation is just the "sugar that helps the medicine go down". The medicine is commitment. We need to be committed to getting ourselves healthy to really get it done. It obviously helps to have the motivation, but first you need to be committed.
Don't be so hard on yourself (does this sound familiar??). You will get there. Just remember to make small goals and not to stress about the numbers... that is when frustration sets in and commitment waivers. You got this! Just keep up the hard work! *hugs*

I'd give you the site to the blog was I was asked not to.

well week 1 was fantastic lost 5lbs, week 2 stuck with it but only lost a pound! this week started well on Monday but has gone down hill the rest of the week majorly! its always week 3 that gets me but now I have to try and keep at it so week 4 is clean and I don't keep going back! Finding the social side hard feel like I don't want to go out anywhere with friends because of restaurant food and drinking! finding going to the supermarket every 3 days for fresh stuff is financially more expensive. not happy and so angry with myself, need to loose about 100lbs why cant I find the strength to do this!

1-2 Lbs is good. That initial 5 Lbs...I can pretty much guarantee you that was a good 3-4 Lbs of water. Who cares about water...scientifically speaking, it's nearly impossible to lose more than 2 Lbs of actual fat in a week unless you have a lot (like obese/morbidly obese) to lose. Weight loss also is not linear...the sooner you get all of this through your head, the better off you're going to be.

I am more than 3 monhts in now. There are weeks that i lose a ton, then weeks that i barely lose at all. I have been stuck at the same weight since mid may... a little discouraging, but not the end of the world.
If i look at the little progress graph, it bounces around but generally works its way down. I love that little chart, whenever i feel discouraged, I look at the 30 day window. It's always higher at the beginning than at the today.

I'm seeing 10 lbs/month come off, not steadily, but on average now. I'm not expecting that to happen anymore since I'm within 10-15 lbs of my goal.

You need to create habits that will work in the long run. I think it takes something like 20 repetitions of an action to create a habit. Socializing is the hardest part. I have no idea how i will ever handle a chinese buffet again. I have no idea how to handle tapas, appies, drinks... now i just try my best not to partake... i will have one french fry, one drink, one cheesy whatever, but i wait until the end... because i will pick and nibble.I drink water until we are all done eating, then i will have one glass of wine before we leave. Impaired eating is not a good plan for me.

In the end, you will have slips and falls, good weeks and bad weeks, gains and losses. just keep plugging along... i

I think you defiantly need to take a step back and breath. Relax.

Weight loss doesn't happen overnight. My tips for you:

:flowerforyou: The scale isn't the only way to track progress. Take measurements and photos as well.
:flowerforyou: If weight fluctuations bother you, then weigh only once a week or less. For example, my weight has looked like this:


*Gap in weight line is from the day I didn't weigh myself. I went straight to the doctors that morning*

:flowerforyou: Set a reasonable calorie goal.
:flowerforyou: If you follow MFP's set up, eat at least some of your exercise calories
:flowerforyou: Weigh your food to get the most accurate log of what your eating (I still need to get a scale and do this myself)
:flowerforyou: Don't deprive yourself. Have a day where you eat close to maintenance calories every so often. Alternatively you can also just eat what you want as long as it fits into your calorie allowance. This will help prevent binges.
:flowerforyou: Exercise. Even if it's only a few minutes. You don't need to do it for weight loss, but it will help you look and feel better. I recommend both weight lifting and cardio.
:flowerforyou: Take rest days. Your body needs them. At least 1 day per week to prevent injury.
:flowerforyou: Don't be afraid to go out with friends. Just make healthier choices, eat smaller portions, ect while your out. If it helps, before you go out, check the restaurants website and figure out what is the best nutritional option they have.
:flowerforyou: When you weigh your self make sure to : use the same scale, keep the scale in the same general spot, make sure you do it around the same time of day (you will be lightest first thing in the morning, naked, after using the bathroom)
:flowerforyou: Drink Water. doesn't have to be plain water. I usually have crystal light in mine. It helps with water retention. I usually drink at least 64oz of water a day and some days I'm closer to 128oz.
:flowerforyou: 3500 calories = 1 lb of fat.....so to gain 1 lb of fat you have to eat 3500 calories over maintenance calories.
:flowerforyou: 1-2lbs a week is healthy weight loss
:flowerforyou: I recommend getting a HRM for calorie workouts. The ones with a chest strap will be the most accurate. Polar brand is highly recommended by people on this site.
:flowerforyou: In stead of weight loss goals, try making a fitness goal instead. For example, my current goal is to be able to walk 6 miles when it's above 80*F outside and not be exhausted at the end....I'm halfway there with being able to do 3 miles. When I originally set the goal I could barely make it 1 mile when it was 60*F outside.