My 'friend' implied I have an ugly body

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  • cmriverside
    cmriverside Posts: 34,454 Member
    Glad you got that out. I know I feel better :indifferent:

    do you has the cliffs?

    Coworker is a burlitch, Wah wah bad coworker.

    ^^Annointed!
  • Buddhasmiracle
    Buddhasmiracle Posts: 925 Member
    Well congrats on the lost weight. You could stand to lose that 'friend' too!

    this. Get "friend" out of your life. Now.
  • MsKriss281
    MsKriss281 Posts: 91 Member
    Congrats on the weight loss and the dedication. Honestly, ditch the toxic "friend" her negativity will just weigh you down emotionally. I went through the same type of thing with a co-worker of mine and realized the hard way that her negativity was clouding my judgement.

    Just remember:
    There are some people who always seem angry and continuously look for conflict and create drama. Walk away. The battle they are fighting isn't with you, it is with themselves.
  • Erikalynne18
    Erikalynne18 Posts: 558 Member
    Some people are just like that! I try my best to ignore those types since they are probably just jealous anyway and their opinions don't matter to me. A true friend will give you support, not bring you down.

    Congrats on the lose so far and ignore her rude comments!
  • meshashesha2012
    meshashesha2012 Posts: 8,329 Member
    You could say all this to her face and end the friendship. Just a suggestion.
    exactly.

    i dont get why people dont say what's bothering them when it's bothering them? maybe she was implying something about the OP, maybe she wasnt but it's pretty easy to find out just by asking at the time.

    it's possible that OP is just projecting her own issues and making assumptions. it's also possible that the friend is a jealous biyatch, but really this is why it's best to bring your issues up to your friend first instead of a bunch of strangers.

    besides that i also question the need to hear exactly what you want to hear or this person is negative. sounds like you both need to think about what the word friendship means
  • srey0701
    srey0701 Posts: 196 Member
    Well congrats on the lost weight. You could stand to lose that 'friend' too!

    Agreed! Get rid of that trash and keep it up, amazing progress!

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  • mnflame
    mnflame Posts: 24
    Well, I think you're doing great! Keep up the good work and don't worry about what some supposed friend is saying. There are people who are just negative about EVERYTHING and they'll make all sorts of excuses about why someone can do something while they can't (i.e. "It's much easier for you to have time to workout, you don't have kids" or "Well sure, if I made enough money, I would join a gym too, but I can't afford it [while I smoke a pack of cigs a day and go out all weekend, every weekend]") Those people are very hard to be around. But stay strong and keep going!

    You can friend me if you want :)
  • Ashwee87
    Ashwee87 Posts: 695 Member
    I'd rather have an ugly body than be an ugly person. Congratulations on your awesome progress!

    Oh, and ditch the "friend".
    QFT
  • charlenequinn94
    charlenequinn94 Posts: 99
    Some girls are just jealous B******. Like my so called "friend" at work (I don't see how much of a friend she is now), I shared with her how I'm really serious about juicing for lunch and how I just bought a treadmill. Well, she begins ranting about how young single childless women nowadays have ugly bodies and are fat. And how her cousin, who has no children, used to be fat and now lost a lot of weight. Her cousin tried to make her feel bad for not 'trying' to lose weight. She tells me, that once she told her, "You might have lost a lot of weight, but you have extra elastic skin". She asks her cousin to pull her belly skin and they both compared. My "friend" then tells me, "see, even though she lost weight she still has all that lose skin, and even I who have 3 kids am tighter than her".

    So here I am listening to this monster. I have no kids and I've lost 34 pounds. What is she trying to imply? that I might lose weight, but still have lose skin, therefore never achieving a nice body? What a sad person she is. I will not allow such negativity in my life.

    Instead of cheering me on and congratulating me on my purchase and goals she pushes me down. What a poisonous person.

    :indifferent:
    I am sorry to say this but your friend sounds superficial. You should be very proud of your accomplishments. Skin can always be tightened up. Good luck with your weightloss.
  • MissSaturday
    MissSaturday Posts: 784 Member
    you don't need people like that in your life!! better alone that in bad company! :)
  • suelegal
    suelegal Posts: 1,281 Member
    I would have called her out on her comments and asked her if she felt the same way about you. She sounds like a miserable person. I'd stay the heck away from her, she sounds like a negative soul sucking sucubus.

    You don't even need to call her out, she won't even get it, but I agree, she's not a friend, she is as poisonous as you have said!
  • Sqeekyjojo
    Sqeekyjojo Posts: 704 Member
    Actually, your friend sent forth a whole bunch of screwed up family dynamics because you mentioned something about weight loss. It wasn't directed at you, she's obviously got ongoing crap in their relationship.

    So shrug it off, she shouldn't have done it (nobody needs to hear family ****), but it wasn't anything about you.
  • watermillion
    watermillion Posts: 87 Member
    Sounds like she's trying to discourage you from losing weight.

    My mother says that when I get thinner, my collarbones stick out like I'm sick and she doesn't like it. It discouraged me from losing weight. then after awhile I stopped caring and decided to proceed with my weight loss regimen anyway. She can complain all she wants about my collarbones showing, I don't care
  • julesderamos
    julesderamos Posts: 36 Member
    Wow! Persons like that are so sad, and they unfortunately seem to define themselves the wrong way. I mean they have a really superficial way of living and thinking. That's sad! Fortunately you have many supporters here ans I'm sure you also have some into your life ;-) Keep on shining!
  • royvor
    royvor Posts: 271
    Congrats on your 34lb loss! Don't listen to negative people. Some people hate to see other succeed because they are unhappy in thier own life and are self centered, selfish individuals. You keep doing you and fighting to reach your goals and feel and be happy. :smile:
  • RobynLB83
    RobynLB83 Posts: 626 Member
    I don't think her ranting story had anything to do with you. I think she was just venting about her cousin, not implying anything about you, and somewhat oblivious that you might be offended by her... candor.
  • squiggyflop
    squiggyflop Posts: 148 Member
    Yeah it sounds more like she was venting about her cousin. Maybe she has some hostility toward her for some reason. I really dont think it sounds like she meant to imply that your body was ugly. I wouldnt take it so personally. Sounds more like the typical rivalry that happens in a lot of families. I know it happens in my family.

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