Does anyone's partner have a problem with your weight loss?

My husband, doesn't have a problem with it, nor does he acknowledg it .. I got over it quick, i need to do it for myslef even if no one else cares.. Although, he goes to the gym every day weither to work out or play BB and when he gets home he tells me "Check out my arms pretty huge huh"? Lol.. Im not the one to brag about things, but im happy with my weight loss.

Good Luck with your GF..:flowerforyou:

Probably not the weightloss he has an issue with...just saying.

Anyways my husbands told me a couple nights ago that if I get to mygoal he probably wont be sexually interested in me anymore. I'm currently 255 and need to be at 160 to join the army which he approves of just not the weightloss needed to do it...that discouraged me but I figure he loved me at my worst and if he really loves me hell love me at my best.

Are you serious? What a smack in the face that must have been. I'm kind of speechless..... :frown:

Sadly very serious I have never been below 200#s at least not since middle school so neither he nor I know what ill look like and he likes his women with a little cushion, most likely because he is bigger too. Idk what I'm gonna do with him lol but I'm going to continue this journey and I know hell come around.

My husband made the off comment : "Now I'll actually have to worry about you finding another man."

Seriously....that comment kind of irked me, because not only have I always been incredibly faithful, but it was like he was saying I was too fat/ugly to get anyone else before losing any weight, and presumably I'm someone with little or no virtue, which sets me off even more.

^^^ Ugh, one of my exes kept talking like this. "Oh, I don't want you to lose weight, because then you're going to have all these really attractive guys hitting on you all the time," etc. Or "Well, I guess I'm going to have to start working out too, because I can't be this fat guy dating someone hot and skinny." He said it every time I mentioned wanting to get in better shape, as well as other things like wanting to work as a bartender, etc. It really wore me down. We were kinda on the outs though and eventually I just flat out told him that if I wanted to be with a different guy, I would go for him regardless of what I weighed, and that guys still hit on me even at my highest weight (around 100lbs overweight). If he couldn't trust me enough to let me get healthy, then things were not going to work out.

My current BF is very supportive and since he weighed himself on my new scale and found out he gained quite a bit in the past 7 months we've been together, it sounds like he's going to work on getting back in shape too.

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Sadly very serious I have never been below 200#s at least not since middle school so neither he nor I know what ill look like and he likes his women with a little cushion, most likely because he is bigger too. Idk what I'm gonna do with him lol but I'm going to continue this journey and I know hell come around.

^^^ The ex would say things like that too. Reminding me constantly that he liked all my extra curves and that he couldn't stand really thin girls (and actually, he had a very generous view of what thin was). I appreciated that he made me feel sexy at my highest weight, when my confidence wasn't always great, but seriously.. I just want to lose this extra person I've been carrying around for the past couple years. Hopefully he'll adjust his views on sexy and come around as you lose

My partner doesn't have a problem with my weight loss but her husband certainly does. He hasn't caught on to us yet and I'm fairly certain he's beginning to suspect something. My abs are getting more visible and I'm more inclined to walk around the house with my shirt off and his wife, my partner, Diane is checking me out a bit more obviously than usual. He let move in there a few months and I think I might have to move out as I don't want to ruin things with Diane.

REALLY?! OMG! IF YOU ONLY KNEW!! This is ACTUALLY going on in my world right now!!! A “friend” of mine has let her boyfriend move in with her and her husband because he has nowhere to go. (poor lil poppet—get a freaken job) Anyway-me being the person I am, I am of course going to let the husband in on the secret. (SHE KNOWS THIS!!! SHE HAS TO!!) I FIRMLY believe if you are not happy and are even thinking about cheating—leave, get divorced. You might wonder if I am worried about loosing this friend, but do I really want a friend who would cheat on her husband and have her boyfriend move in and mooch off him????? HE

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um NOOO. The only thing I am pondering is should I tell her that I am about to let her hubby in on her little secret? The compassionate part of me says yes (very very tiny part of me I might add) The rest of me says NOOOO. :laugh: (wow aren’t you glad you aren’t my friend?)

And my hubby is glad I am getting healthy. He doesn't care what I weigh as long as I am happy.

I'd tell the husband without letting the friend find out. That way he's allowed to handle a few of the affairs before letting her in on the fact he knows (spending money from the joint account, getting evidence so she can't collect alimony, those kinds of things) because it sounds like she's a moocher too. Why not let the two lovies mooch together in a box?

I wouldn't give the ultimatum. She knew what she was doing when she brought him in.