Dating Rules

legnarevocrednu
legnarevocrednu Posts: 467 Member
Okay so I'm bored at work, and purposely left my phone at home today. I need entertainment! Anyways, I'm new to the dating scene (last year or so) and really the only rule I have is regarding sexual relations. The earliest it would happen is the 4th date (and that's if I'm feelin it). Do any of you have/had rules regarding dates, or a dating relationship? I.e. texting, appropriate time to date before expecting something official, etc. Curious and maybe I can steal some. I have a tendency to overtext and send long text messages (I'm an English major so could write a book lol) and I'm trying sooo hard to stop. One of the reasons I left my phone at home actually! :blushing:
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  • diodelcibo
    diodelcibo Posts: 2,564 Member
    Put out on the first date.
  • catrinaHwechanged
    catrinaHwechanged Posts: 4,907 Member
    Rules are too limiting. I prefer to wing it and do what feels right to me. :)
  • jenbit
    jenbit Posts: 4,252 Member
    #1 RULES ARE STUPID......how about 2 people just go out and have fun, call each other if they want to talk and have "relations" when they are ready to have "relations"... I'm a grown up I don't have time for teenage dating games ... (no offense to the OP but rules drive me nuts)
  • thesupremeforce
    thesupremeforce Posts: 1,206 Member
    No rules. I just do stuff.
  • MightyDomo
    MightyDomo Posts: 1,265 Member
    I usually play it by ear but I try not to 'have relations' within the first few dates.
  • TedStout
    TedStout Posts: 241
    I have been married for 26 years. My opinion? Go fishing. Thats the only rule.
  • taunto
    taunto Posts: 6,420 Member
    Does and don’t in Romance

    Do tell her you like her skin
    Don’t tell her you want to wear it…

    Do tell her after a while in relationship how you are jealous of her shoes because they take her away from you
    Don’t tell her that you wish to wear her shoes so you could be with her every step of the way, on the first date…

    Do tell her you love how she looks in her sleep
    Don’t tell her this while looking through her houses window from outside at 3 AM…

    Do tell her how smooth she feels after shaving
    Don’t ask her if you can have the hair for making a doll that you’ll be using later on…

    Do workout with her at the gym
    Don’t start licking her sweat telling her you will be returning her the fluids later on…

    Do kiss her feet
    Don’t start biting her nails saying “mmm, crunchy, kinda like the chicken bones”

    Do surprise her with champagne
    Don’t put roofie in it and then kidnap her, keeping her in the basement, collecting her belly button lint and feeding it to her and her cat and when the cat gets nice and fat from the lint, shaving the cat and making a wig out of the hair.
  • 70XSeventy
    70XSeventy Posts: 2 Member
    I used to have dating rules when I was in college. Now that I've grown up a little and realized that not every situation is black and white, I tossed the "rules" out the window and I'm a lot happier for it.
  • whierd
    whierd Posts: 14,025 Member
    Rules are silly. Why would you limit yourself?
  • kennethmgreen
    kennethmgreen Posts: 1,759 Member
    Okay so I'm bored at work, and purposely left my phone at home today. I need entertainment! Anyways, I'm new to the dating scene (last year or so) and really the only rule I have is regarding sexual relations. The earliest it would happen is the 4th date (and that's if I'm feelin it). Do any of you have/had rules regarding dates, or a dating relationship? I.e. texting, appropriate time to date before expecting something official, etc. Curious and maybe I can steal some. I have a tendency to overtext and send long text messages (I'm an English major so could write a book lol) and I'm trying sooo hard to stop. One of the reasons I left my phone at home actually! :blushing:
    Why did you purposely leave your phone at home today?
  • 1ConcreteGirl
    1ConcreteGirl Posts: 3,677 Member
    Okay so I'm bored at work, and purposely left my phone at home today. I need entertainment! Anyways, I'm new to the dating scene (last year or so) and really the only rule I have is regarding sexual relations. The earliest it would happen is the 4th date (and that's if I'm feelin it). Do any of you have/had rules regarding dates, or a dating relationship? I.e. texting, appropriate time to date before expecting something official, etc. Curious and maybe I can steal some. I have a tendency to overtext and send long text messages (I'm an English major so could write a book lol) and I'm trying sooo hard to stop. One of the reasons I left my phone at home actually! :blushing:
    Why did you purposely leave your phone at home today?

    I'm a helper.
  • PlayerHatinDogooder
    PlayerHatinDogooder Posts: 1,018 Member
    I see you're a big texter.

    Don't text the guy you're dating with inane bull****.
  • SoViLicious
    SoViLicious Posts: 2,633 Member
    Don't call your wife! Hate when they do that.
  • sixout
    sixout Posts: 3,128 Member
    As long as the person is of the human variety, I'm ok.

    This rule is negotiable.
  • Cp731
    Cp731 Posts: 3,195 Member
    Does and don’t in Romance

    Do tell her you like her skin
    Don’t tell her you want to wear it…

    Do tell her you love how she looks in her sleep
    Don’t tell her this while looking through her houses window from outside at 3 AM…

    Do workout with her at the gym
    Don’t start licking her sweat telling her you will be returning her the fluids later on…

    Ha!
  • Michaelsdin
    Michaelsdin Posts: 146
    I have been married for 26 years. My opinion? Go fishing. Thats the only rule.

    +1 WHICH REMINDS ME I NEED TO GO FISHING AGAIN LOL
  • ItsCasey
    ItsCasey Posts: 4,021 Member
    I'm not into "rules," per se, but there are definitely things that will happen (or not happen) that will suggest how compatible we are. I would never make a list because then I'm basically creating a test for him to pass or fail. I just want to get to know who he is. It shouldn't be a test. You either find each other attractive and enjoy each other's company, or you don't.
  • lisy28
    lisy28 Posts: 156 Member
    Does and don’t in Romance

    Do tell her you like her skin
    Don’t tell her you want to wear it…

    Do tell her after a while in relationship how you are jealous of her shoes because they take her away from you
    Don’t tell her that you wish to wear her shoes so you could be with her every step of the way, on the first date…

    Do tell her you love how she looks in her sleep
    Don’t tell her this while looking through her houses window from outside at 3 AM…

    Do tell her how smooth she feels after shaving
    Don’t ask her if you can have the hair for making a doll that you’ll be using later on…

    Do workout with her at the gym
    Don’t start licking her sweat telling her you will be returning her the fluids later on…

    Do kiss her feet
    Don’t start biting her nails saying “mmm, crunchy, kinda like the chicken bones”

    Do surprise her with champagne
    Don’t put roofie in it and then kidnap her, keeping her in the basement, collecting her belly button lint and feeding it to her and her cat and when the cat gets nice and fat from the lint, shaving the cat and making a wig out of the hair.


    OMG LOVE IT HAHHAHAH gave me a great giggle
  • HoneyDaggers
    HoneyDaggers Posts: 91 Member
    Don't call your wife! Hate when they do that.

    Keep the phone out of reach while you're ridin'
  • _Waffle_
    _Waffle_ Posts: 13,049 Member
    Do any of you have/had rules regarding dates, or a dating relationship? I.e. texting, appropriate time to date before expecting something official, etc. Curious and maybe I can steal some. I have a tendency to overtext and send long text messages (I'm an English major so could write a book lol) and I'm trying sooo hard to stop. One of the reasons I left my phone at home actually! :blushing:

    Wouldn't you use e.g. in this instance?
  • legnarevocrednu
    legnarevocrednu Posts: 467 Member
    Haha so the consensus is that the only rule is to have no rules! I guess I was thinking more about habits. I understand the whole go with the flow thing, I just have heard others (outside of MFP) share some of their do's and dont's.
  • JewelsinBigD
    JewelsinBigD Posts: 661 Member
    My how things have changed since I was single...
  • legnarevocrednu
    legnarevocrednu Posts: 467 Member
    Do any of you have/had rules regarding dates, or a dating relationship? I.e. texting, appropriate time to date before expecting something official, etc. Curious and maybe I can steal some. I have a tendency to overtext and send long text messages (I'm an English major so could write a book lol) and I'm trying sooo hard to stop. One of the reasons I left my phone at home actually! :blushing:

    Wouldn't you use e.g. in this instance?
    Maybe I should have specified. I'm an ENGLISH LITERATURE MAJOR. My focus was on literature. My grammar is less than perfect. Thanks though! I'm sure you are right! :wink:
  • sixout
    sixout Posts: 3,128 Member
    My how things have changed since I was single...

    Yea, kids all over these lawns and stuff.
  • jamielynas
    jamielynas Posts: 366 Member
    If a girl eats more than me at the restaurant I'll propose
  • TK266
    TK266 Posts: 3,638 Member
    main rule is be yourself .... unless you are some crazed nut job who has a star wars fetish ... if that is the case them be someone else. :tongue:

    Really just be yourself. If you don't fool around until the 4(ish) date, be that person.if you over text, be that person. I say that because I am at the age where I do not like finding out on the 7th date that the person is a nut bag. save everyone, including your self, from that.
  • legnarevocrednu
    legnarevocrednu Posts: 467 Member
    Okay so I'm bored at work, and purposely left my phone at home today. I need entertainment! Anyways, I'm new to the dating scene (last year or so) and really the only rule I have is regarding sexual relations. The earliest it would happen is the 4th date (and that's if I'm feelin it). Do any of you have/had rules regarding dates, or a dating relationship? I.e. texting, appropriate time to date before expecting something official, etc. Curious and maybe I can steal some. I have a tendency to overtext and send long text messages (I'm an English major so could write a book lol) and I'm trying sooo hard to stop. One of the reasons I left my phone at home actually! :blushing:
    Why did you purposely leave your phone at home today?
    I was out with some friends last night who pointed out that I'm overly dependent on my phone. So I decided to give myself a little break.
  • xprplstardust
    xprplstardust Posts: 105 Member
    I'm not into "rules," per se, but there are definitely things that will happen (or not happen) that will suggest how compatible we are. I would never make a list because then I'm basically creating a test for him to pass or fail. I just want to get to know who he is. It shouldn't be a test. You either find each other attractive and enjoy each other's company, or you don't.

    ^ this. i'm new to dating too. only been dating for the past 1.5 years & i am 28. the only rule i have is i don't "put out" until he becomes my boyfriend.
  • HeidiMightyRawr
    HeidiMightyRawr Posts: 3,343 Member
    I don't like rules. Just be yourself and be open/honest - better that IMO and have a few people not like it, than someone like you for who you're not. Because at the end of it, if something comes out of those dates, they're going to see the true you anyway :)
  • mustang289
    mustang289 Posts: 299 Member
    Rule #1
    Don't date girls who have lists of rules and a list of everything they want in a 'perfect' man.