Need Advice Please On The Best Way To Handle This...

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I owe my ex approximately $2,000. While I have otherwise been in complete NC with him for the past several weeks, I have sent him one text per month regarding my payments to him. After a long break from paying him (because HE kept telling me not to worry about paying him back right now), I just recently resumed my payments to him a few months ago. Once I resumed my payments to him, it was right around that same time that I went NC with him. I sent him one text a few months ago letting him know that I had just sent a payment to him. All I could afford to send him that month was $25.00 so that's what I sent him. I enclosed a very short note with the payment basically just saying "Enclosed is $25.00. I will send you another payment next month". However, I was extra tight on money last month so I wasn't able to send him anything at all. So, I sent him one text a few weeks ago letting him know that & I told him that I would send him another payment next month (as in this month/June). He never responded to that particular text at all.

He sent me a text the month before last after receiving that $25.00 from me that said "Why did you send me money when you can't afford it? I feel bad". I just ignored that text and then he left me a voicemail about a week later saying "Hello? You need to call me back. I didn't even cash the $25.00 dollars". I didn't resume my payments to him recently because he demanded it (if anything he kept trying to get me to hold off on paying him). I decided to resume my payments to him because I finally realized that he was using the money as a way to control me & basically force me into having to stay in contact with him even though he has a new girlfriend. I figured if I sent him money every month (well almost every month), that he could demand that I call him back but would really have no right to do that as long as I was consistently sending him payments & showing a good faith effort on my part to try and pay him back.

He once again texted and called me several times today & as usual I ignored him. These were the last few texts that I got from him today.
"You're so f*****g stupid to ignore me. I'll make sure you pay all you owe plus interest if we don't reconcile".

He's told me quite a few times that i don't owe him any of the money if we reconcile. I know that. I get it. I have no intention of trying to rip him off and not pay him back so I don't know why he's being such a jerk like this! I'm sure that he really would want the money if we don't reconcile. However, I think he's also trying to use the money as a tool right now to try to force me to have to go back to being phone buddies while he's with his new girlfriend and I refuse to let that happen! I tried staying in touch with him this past year while he had a GF and all it ever did was make me miserable. He would constantly try to initiate reconciliation type talks with me & then as soon as I'd agree to give things another try nothing would change and he'd still stay with his GF. That's actually a pattern that's been happening for the past few years now since he broke up with me. Things ended after 2 or 3 months max with the other girls that he dated after our breakup but the most recent one he's been with for about a year now.

He even sent me a text earlier today that said "I told you when I'm ready to get married I'm going to marry you". I ignored that text too but the first thought that went through my head was wow, I bet your girlfriend would be really thrilled if she knew you were saying that to me & also it was just weird that he said that only minutes after he sent those rude, threatening type texts about the money! You would think that he'd realize that being a jerk to me and saying rude, threatening type things about the money is a really unlikely way to make me even consider ever wanting to reconcile with him.

Also, (I'd be especially interested in what the men on here have to say about this but input from the ladies is certainly welcome too)...
Doesn't it seem like it should be obvious to him that if he actually wants me to take these efforts at reconciliation talks with me seriously that he should first break up with his girlfriend? I mean isn't it pretty unreasonable of him to get angry at me for not wanting to participate in these types of talks when he does still have a GF? I know I was dumb enough to do that before but still...I think maybe the biggest reason he's acting all angry is because I didn't give him a specific reason for why I was going no contact. I didn't want to say something like call me when you're single and maybe then we can talk because I didn't want him to dump her & then get all furious with me if & when I decided that I actually didn't want to reconcile with him. However, not that long before I went NC I did send him a text that something like "I don't have the time, energy or desire to maintain a phone only "friendship" with you so you won't be hearing from me anymore". So, now that I think about it I pretty much did give him a big heads up that I would be going NC soon. He's probably just freaking out now because he didn't believe I'd actually go through with for more than just a few weeks or so.

He can't really make me pay interest on the money I owe him can he?? I'm assuming no but just double checking. There was never any sort of contract or other paper work that he gave me prior to our during the time he was loaning me money. However, I did send him a few texts a long time ago promising him I'd pay him back if he lent me more money so he would have that as proof that I asked to borrow money & promised to pay him back. Charging me interest though?? That seems like it would be a really sh**y thing for him to do, especially because a major reason I borrowed money from in the first place instead of a traditional loan is because he said that he wouldn't charge me any interest. However, I can't remember if he said that during one of our old phone conversations or via text so not sure that I'd be able to get a record of him saying that.

Lon,
Thanks for clarifying what you meant.

mustang,
I would absolutely love it if I was able to just write him out a check for the full amount that I owe him & then tell him I'm done/change my number. Unfortunately, my credit isn't good enough right now to be able to get a loan from somewhere else. (If it was, I never would have borrowed any money from my ex in the first place).

Pepper,
Sorry you feel that way. I think that people should be able to post about whatever they want on this chit chat board. People can choose not to respond if it's not something they're interested in responding to.

Thanks for the advice mustang Susie.

I don't know why it doesn't seem to dawn on him that I could probably pay him back a lot sooner if he wasn't calling and/or texting me so much because then I wouldn't be all distracted by him and would be able to work more. Again though, I don't think most of his anger is really about the money especially since last I knew he didn't even cash that last money order I sent him. I think it's more that he can't stand it that his fall back girl isn't right there to give him an ego boost anymore.