Breaking up is hard to do

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jadeblack81
jadeblack81 Posts: 27 Member
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I guess this is me reaching out to anyone else recently dumped. I wasn't doing perfect diet-wise before, but I really would like to avoid completely falling off the wagon...
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  • 63hanson
    63hanson Posts: 154 Member
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    I'm sorry to hear about your breakup:(, but please don't let it stop you from doing what you want/need to do. Use it as a catalyst to do better, prove to yourself you can do it. And it's always nice to look great the next time you run into your ex!
  • lilpoindexter
    lilpoindexter Posts: 1,122 Member
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    It's normal to be messed up for a minute. At least make a deal with yourself to track your food intake, so you know what you are doing.
  • ellaloveslove
    ellaloveslove Posts: 166 Member
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    I'm so sorry :( Don't let it define how you feel about yourself, you are still a wonderful person and this is just a bump in the road :)
    It's import to take time and grieve the loss of a relationship; however, a sure fire way to feel better and back to normal is to take care of yourself by sticking with your lifestyle change of eating better and losing weight, you can do it! Besides, looking and feeling awesome is the best revenge ;)
  • TheHorribleBlob
    TheHorribleBlob Posts: 84 Member
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    What happened?
  • anemoneprose
    anemoneprose Posts: 1,805 Member
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    Breaking up was my FUEL (as in for workouts, commitment, drive). I thought, "I've got nothing left but me (other life stuff happened along with it), but that's a thing I have some control over. It's on."
  • jadeblack81
    jadeblack81 Posts: 27 Member
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    Thanks guys. My boyfriend of 10 years met someone through the Playstation network and they are "in love". There's more to it than that, but I was totally blindsided. I missed my run yesterday...but have gotten some activity in, i.e. piling his crap up and chucking at glass candle at him.
  • TheHorribleBlob
    TheHorribleBlob Posts: 84 Member
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    Thanks guys. My boyfriend of 10 years met someone through the Playstation network and they are "in love". There's more to it than that, but I was totally blindsided. I missed my run yesterday...but have gotten some activity in, i.e. piling his crap up and chucking at glass candle at him.

    WOW. F**K that guy. Seriously, that's freakin' horrible. I hope you're doing okay. :(
  • anemoneprose
    anemoneprose Posts: 1,805 Member
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    Thanks guys. My boyfriend of 10 years met someone through the Playstation network and they are "in love". There's more to it than that, but I was totally blindsided. I missed my run yesterday...but have gotten some activity in, i.e. piling his crap up and chucking at glass candle at him.

    Excellent anaerobic work, keep it up ;-)

    Jerk. It's for the better. Playstation network? As in, he had enough of some kind of life on there to do whatever? In about 18 months, that is going to be hilarious to you. Take care.
  • JAllen32
    JAllen32 Posts: 990 Member
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    IN LOVE?!?! Holy *kitten*. And how much younger than him is she? So now that they have established that they are in love, are they going to have some cyber wedding? And create little avitar babies? Sounds like a healthy relationship. I just want to drive over there and punch him in his hairy little face. >:-(
  • Renee428
    Renee428 Posts: 29 Member
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    Breaking up was my FUEL (as in for workouts, commitment, drive). I thought, "I've got nothing left but me (other life stuff happened along with it), but that's a thing I have some control over. It's on."

    I feel the exact same way. It was the drive that I need me when I first got into the fitness world. I lost 100 lbs in a year. Then met someone and it slowly crept back on. Now I just put myself first.
  • tapirfrog
    tapirfrog Posts: 616 Member
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    You can anaesthetize yourself with eating, drinking, or exercise. Use exercise -- it will feel really good to know that you're not letting him break your body as well as your heart.
  • aelunyu
    aelunyu Posts: 486 Member
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    Usually, negative emotions can have positive outlets. Rage, anger, fear, regret, are all pretty powerful motivators, if you can sort of channel them efficiently. Perhaps allow the natural course of healing to take place, then displace some of those negative residuals to your continued success.
  • jennyrebekka
    jennyrebekka Posts: 626 Member
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    I know how tough it is......hugs to you.....releasing some of that sadness/anger/frustration through physical exercise is a MUST! It will make you feel so much better - - you won't ever have a workout then say "i shouldn't have done that"....good luck
  • paeli
    paeli Posts: 295 Member
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    Yep... Got dumped 3 weeks ago today. To be honest, it hurts me to even click on a topic about relationships as I am very raw about the topic. I am right here with you and I know how you feel. I have struggled with stress related sickness (nausea every morning, appetite lost for over a week, causing fatigue, etc.) these past few weeks but I am forcing myself to try to eat as normally as possible and maintain my fitness routine. During hard times it is nice to have stability, a regular fitness routine would definitely help. Like a poster mentioned earlier, I have control of my body and how I treat myself, I plan to treat myself well. That's the best route to healing.

    I've been trying to fill the "hole" with good habits. I've had moments where I was crying and biking in the rain, the kind of scene that should be from a B/S romantic comedy, lol. Tears pouring with sweat during the meditation at the end of an intense hot yoga session, very therapeutic.
  • knitwit0704
    knitwit0704 Posts: 376
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    It's been about six months since this guy left me for another girl, but I still haven't gotten over it. So I'm in with you.

    Edit: Feel free to friend or message me.
  • tifmurphyq
    tifmurphyq Posts: 1 Member
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    I just went through a breakup with my boyfriend of 10 years ... I gained the weight during the relationship, now I wonder if he stole all my "pretty" years, so I'm trying super hard to look better than ever before. I could sure use some friends though!!

    Best of luck!
  • AlongCame_Molly
    AlongCame_Molly Posts: 2,835 Member
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    Thanks guys. My boyfriend of 10 years met someone through the Playstation network and they are "in love". There's more to it than that, but I was totally blindsided. I missed my run yesterday...but have gotten some activity in, i.e. piling his crap up and chucking at glass candle at him.

    Excellent anaerobic work, keep it up ;-)

    Jerk. It's for the better. Playstation network? As in, he had enough of some kind of life on there to do whatever? In about 18 months, that is going to be hilarious to you. Take care.

    As unfeeling and cold as that may sound, I cannot stress enough how true it is. I recently found an old journal of mine, chronicling the very bad breakup of my most recent serious ex. The pages were spattered with tear marks, and filled with so much angst, it was pathetic. Now, that journal is hysterical. All I can do is laugh at the silly girl who wrote those words and cried over a useless man-child that I never even think about anymore.

    The long and short of it is: it will suck for a while. Suck hard. But if you can keep reminding yourself that you won't always be sad, and that it will get better, it won't be so hard. After a while you'll forget to be sad, and a little after that, you won't even care. And pretty soon after THAT, you'll wake up one morning and realize you haven't even thought of the douche in several days, a week, a month. And you'll be genuinely happy to be well shot of him.
  • Grumpy2208
    Grumpy2208 Posts: 63
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    Thanks guys. My boyfriend of 10 years met someone through the Playstation network and they are "in love". There's more to it than that, but I was totally blindsided. I missed my run yesterday...but have gotten some activity in, i.e. piling his crap up and chucking at glass candle at him.

    Excellent anaerobic work, keep it up ;-)

    Jerk. It's for the better. Playstation network? As in, he had enough of some kind of life on there to do whatever? In about 18 months, that is going to be hilarious to you. Take care.

    As unfeeling and cold as that may sound, I cannot stress enough how true it is. I recently found an old journal of mine, chronicling the very bad breakup of my most recent serious ex. The pages were spattered with tear marks, and filled with so much angst, it was pathetic. Now, that journal is hysterical. All I can do is laugh at the silly girl who wrote those words and cried over a useless man-child that I never even think about anymore.

    The long and short of it is: it will suck for a while. Suck hard. But if you can keep reminding yourself that you won't always be sad, and that it will get better, it won't be so hard. After a while you'll forget to be sad, and a little after that, you won't even care. And pretty soon after THAT, you'll wake up one morning and realize you haven't even thought of the douche in several days, a week, a month. And you'll be genuinely happy to be well shot of him.

    Amen.
  • albatrosssherpa
    albatrosssherpa Posts: 63 Member
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    Right here with you. It's been 3 months - and I found out that he had a very serious issue with my weight and said all kinds of horrible hurtful things about it behind my back. Not to mention calling me a fat c*&t to my face and he was very abusive. I use the anger I still have to get through work out slumps. Lost all the weight i gained in the 2 1/2 years I put up with his sorry behind. Oh and after only a few weeks apart he had already shacked up with another woman and is in love and engaged.
  • leanne0605
    leanne0605 Posts: 183 Member
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    Definitely use this situation as fuel to become a better you. I became more determined about getting fit once I stopped focusing on a guy who wasn't worth my time. Sorry about you break up.

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