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_noob_
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So do we as men really get more attractive as we age, or is it the illusion of added security and knowledge that makes older men more attractive?
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  • calibriintx
    calibriintx Posts: 1,741 Member
    I think it's the decreased sex drive that seems to accompany increased age in men. Who wants a sure thing? I want to work for it!
  • Sarah_Roop
    Sarah_Roop Posts: 36 Member
    It really depends on the man, some men become more attractive as they age, but some definitely do not. It is as much about taking pride in yourself and your appearance as anything else. Added security and knowledge will only get you so far. If you don't care enough about yourself to take care of yourself, then you will never get as much respect as someone who does, no matter what else you have going for you.
  • shortie_sarah
    shortie_sarah Posts: 177 Member
    I think it's both. Men (usually) mature as they get older and most women like that. But also, the looks become more "manly" looking rather than a young guy...
  • Morninglory81
    Morninglory81 Posts: 1,190 Member
    There is a definite sense of security but there is also a change that age brings to the features, it removes the feeling of boyhood silliness. A man as he ages no longer looks like someone we need to take are of but someone who can handle sharing the responsibilities of life with us.
  • catrinaHwechanged
    catrinaHwechanged Posts: 4,907 Member
    I think it has something to do with those old wrinkly balls that Adam Sandler once seemed so disgusted by
  • ApocalypticFae
    ApocalypticFae Posts: 217 Member
    I think a lot of guys look more attractive as they get older. Based on physicality alone.

    ETA: Everyone is different though, just like some women end up looking better in their 30's and beyond than they did in their 20's.
  • iulia_maddie
    iulia_maddie Posts: 2,780 Member
    I do believe men start looking their best after 35.
  • Cadori
    Cadori Posts: 4,810 Member
    I find older men more attractive as I age.

    The other day I saw a kid and dear lord he was actually in his 20s, but that's how I saw him...as a kid. To me men in their 30s and 40s are the ones I now find attractive. It doesn't have so much to do with security as maturity and shared experiences in common. I just can't relate to someone who was born in 1990.
  • TeeA86
    TeeA86 Posts: 102 Member
    I think it has something to do with those old wrinkly balls that Adam Sandler once seemed so disgusted by


    KMSL!!!!! I fainted and then almost died!!!
  • brower47
    brower47 Posts: 16,356 Member
    Some do, some don't. It's a genetic lottery.

    Examples:

    Sean Connery

    Harrison Ford

    You go ahead and guess which categories I put these two fellows in respectively.
  • mister_universe
    mister_universe Posts: 6,664 Member
    My wife always says she is going to have the hottest 50 year old on the planet. I tease her that she has daddy issues. :laugh:
  • Alex_is_Hawks
    Alex_is_Hawks Posts: 3,499 Member
    i think it depends on the dude....

    some never age....look at Mark Hamill or Davy Jones...they still looked too young even when they were older...

    justin bieber's babyface is gonna haunt him before he grow into it...

    others...well they were made for age....clooney? he got BETTER....(in my eyes that is...i realise this is subjective)

    depends on the person, the way they look and of course the hormones gazing at these men....

    too many variables really
  • cmcollins001
    cmcollins001 Posts: 3,472 Member
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  • tammys_changing
    tammys_changing Posts: 657
    Some age fine as wine kept in the cellar, and others not so much ; (
  • TheBaileyHunter
    TheBaileyHunter Posts: 641 Member
    Men look better after early to mid thirties. They fill out and become more masculine.

    There's a guy in my office complex that used to look like such a boy...I've been there six years, and he's clearly moved past that mark because now he's broad shouldered, stronger in the jaw and just generally more pleasing to look at
  • MiloBloom83
    MiloBloom83 Posts: 2,724 Member
    I think it's the decreased sex drive that seems to accompany increased age in men. Who wants a sure thing? I want to work for it!


    What decreased sex drive? I'm 47. It hasn't decreased at all.
  • danasings
    danasings Posts: 8,218 Member
    If your name is Sean Connery and you are asking, "Have I grown more attractive with age?" then answer is YES, YES, YES!!!
  • Junken_Diraffe
    Junken_Diraffe Posts: 716 Member
    I think it's the decreased sex drive that seems to accompany increased age in men. Who wants a sure thing? I want to work for it!


    What decreased sex drive? I'm 47. It hasn't decreased at all.

    ^^ Dude doesn't lie. :love:
  • glovepuppet
    glovepuppet Posts: 1,710 Member
    The reduction in leg humping, showing off and lads' night out behaviour.
  • tehboxingkitteh
    tehboxingkitteh Posts: 1,574 Member
    I find older men more attractive as I age.

    The other day I saw a kid and dear lord he was actually in his 20s, but that's how I saw him...as a kid. To me men in their 30s and 40s are the ones I now find attractive. It doesn't have so much to do with security as maturity and shared experiences in common. I just can't relate to someone who was born in 1990.
    Yep. Same goes for me. When I was younger I wouldn't date a man more than a couple years older. I've recently dated a man 13 years my senior.

    Then there's men like LL Cool J who just don't seem to age :love:
  • BinaryPulsar
    BinaryPulsar Posts: 8,927 Member
    I was very attracted to my husband when he was younger. Now he is starting to get a little gray in his hair and I find that very attractive. When I see pictures from when he was younger, before I knew him, I think, "Wow, I would have had such a huge crush on him if I had met him when I was younger". And I know I will still be attracted to him when he gets older. So, the aging process is kind of fun, for now anyway (and we are just in our thirties, so still young). I've enjoyed our youth together and I am enjoying growing with him.

    I do think that women like a sense of security and maturity. They want to have conversations with a man that has had experience and knowledge and a lot to bring to the table from many areas and aspects of life.
  • MyChocolateDiet
    MyChocolateDiet Posts: 22,281 Member
    i seem to be eternally drawn to men in their 30's. even when I was 18. even when i'm older than them now. my husband is younger than me and apparently i'm not outgrowing this. don't know what I'll do when he hits 40, throw him back? is there a catch and release thing for husbands?
  • brevislux
    brevislux Posts: 1,093 Member
    I don't find older men attractive. I like men who can keep up.
  • anemoneprose
    anemoneprose Posts: 1,805 Member
    The reduction in leg humping, showing off and lads' night out behaviour.

    Totally. Civilization finally happens to them.

    Bonus: increases in empathy, insight, and self-awareness. (If not thwarted by cynicism or a hardening of perspective or just getting weird and too out of touch. Wouldn't mind meeting someone exactly as out of touch as I am.)
  • BinaryPulsar
    BinaryPulsar Posts: 8,927 Member
    I like men who can keep up.

    That is important also!
  • MyChocolateDiet
    MyChocolateDiet Posts: 22,281 Member
    I like men who can keep up.

    That is important also!

    it. you mean "it" right?
  • karl39x
    karl39x Posts: 586 Member
    Ah *kitten*! I still got a long way to go till I hit 30.
  • BinaryPulsar
    BinaryPulsar Posts: 8,927 Member
    I like men who can keep up.

    That is important also!

    it. you mean "it" right?

    That too! :wink:
  • _tam_
    _tam_ Posts: 257
    I just like men with large.....








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  • zerryz
    zerryz Posts: 168 Member
    Op, reverse the question. Beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder. It's not about what's hot about old men. It's about who actually finds them hot. I always did. From a very young age. A Lolita. I guess in my case, it's about feeling secure -- growing up, my dad was often absent. There's really no one general answer to your question.

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