Starting over.

katharine1980
katharine1980 Posts: 45 Member
edited September 2024 in Motivation and Support
I think i keep fooling myself into thinking i am smaller then i really am. I was doing such a good job in chaning my life style and working out, but i keep sabotaging myself. And i gained 4lbs back now. but for 2 months now i have been playing the same 5lbs not reaally moving forward or making any changes, and i saw a picture of myself last night and i didnt even recognize that person. I started to cry, im down about my body and mentally i feel defeated. My husband says how beautiful but i dont feel it. I just feel defeated, depressed and hopeless. Thanks for listening.

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  • dweb_93
    dweb_93 Posts: 1
    I often feel the same way. And I'll tell you straight out what my friend tells me when we're at the gym and I start to feel like that :
    "Stop having a pity party for yourself and go run a mile!". You're the only one doing this to yourself, so you are the only one who is going to get you out of this mindset. It's all mental. Every day is a new day. Don't set long term goals, because I don't know about you, but for me they seem impossible to ever reach. Instead, I set daily goals. Like "Ok. I will NOT screw myself by eating some junk I'll regret later". My daily goal is to be under or within 10 calories of my daily allowance, and make it through my weekly workout schedule. Start small. Make a workout schedule that fits you. On M, W, And F I go to the gym and run 1.5 miles and do weight training, and Tues and Thurs I take my dog for a nice long walk. I keep one of those giant balls in my bedroom and do 50 crunches when I wake up, and 10 push ups, again when I get home from work, and again when I go to bed. Thats 30 push ups and 150 crunches- and because you split it up, its like nothing! You and only you will get yourself out of this funk! And you CAN do it!
  • nettip
    nettip Posts: 113 Member
    I know how you feel my sister took a piccy of me while she was bored waiting for her operation and i was horrified when i saw it. My partner also tells me he loves me and im beautiful but follows it up with if you gain any more weight then you might not be here for me to look at! this is why im on here. i need to change and hope this help you aswell as me!
  • suzikelley
    suzikelley Posts: 210 Member
    It's funny, I always see myself thinner in my mind than I really am. Then I pass by a large window and see my full reflection, and I'm shocked!! My husband also feels that I am beautiful - all 194 pounds of me!! (on my 5'2" body) I am blessed and thankful that he loves me exactly the way I am, and truly believes I'm beautiful. That's why I'm doing this for me and me alone. I know he'll think I'm even more beautiful when I lose the weight, because I will be happier and much more confident when I am. And that's what our loved ones really want for us, isn't it? I just found this website Friday, and I absolutely love it. I've always known the concept of eating fewer calories + exercise = weight loss, but the tools here to see it in black and white every day is what has me so motivated. So now when I see my full reflection in a mirror or a window, I'm okay with it, because I know that person is going to be a little smaller next month, and even smaller the month after that. Don't be discouraged, today is a new day!! Starting over is good, it means you're on the right path!! :wink:
  • dannyd62
    dannyd62 Posts: 1
    Dear Katherine; I'm new to the site and very happy to meet you. I'm sorry to hear that you're having a difficult time right now but I can assure you that anybody who is, or has, tried to reach their fitness goals have hit plateaus and stumbled along the way. Try not to be discouraged. If I may; these are a few things that have helped me. First, understand that we all stumble and nobody is perfect. Despite our best efforts we all occasionally get off-track with our eating and exercise. Incorporating small, subtle changes to our daily diet is, I feel, the best way to sustain positive results over the long-haul. I change my exercise routines as soon as they begin to get stale and for me and that can be often. Make no mistake, I do NOT love to exercise but I do LOVE the way I feel when I do. The changes can be small but I do subscribe to the "muscle confusion" theory so changes to your routine are positive for body and mind. Finally, keep your goals realistic as you'll be surprised how even small successes gather momentum. You have a loving and supportive husband behind you and that’s a plus; it's ok to cry and be frustrated but stay focused and give the best you can each day. I hope this helped, if even a little, and please feel free to write me back. Hang in there Katherine!:smile:
  • katharine1980
    katharine1980 Posts: 45 Member
    thanks everyone. You are all very kind!
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