Does anyone else get annoyed?...

asyluma
asyluma Posts: 65 Member
in Health and Weight Loss
...For those that are just starting out on the road to weight loss, I just started the path again about a week ago and when telling friends and co-workers that I'm starting to work out and such, they will make a comment like, "ya you look like you've been losing weight" trying to be nice, but I find myself annoyed at these statements because I know I don't look like I've lost anything especially since I really haven't. Anyone else running into this?

Replies

  • elisa123gal
    elisa123gal Posts: 4,333 Member
    well.. maybe don't talk about it. .just do it? I say this with kindness. Also.. when you first start dieting.. you could be hangry.. as my daughter says. hungry and angry..so these people annoy you more than they should.

    Stick with it...and when you really start losing..then you'll appreciate their comments.
  • 2stepscloser
    2stepscloser Posts: 2,900 Member
    Honestly, I didn't broadcast to anyone except one coworker that I was getting healthy. Now that my weight loss is noticeable I have a lot of people asking me what I'm doing, but I didn't say anything up front because of what you are experiencing.
  • mahanaibu
    mahanaibu Posts: 505 Member
    I know you don't mean in that way, but when you tell people you're doing a fitness program, they see it as a hint that they were supposed to notice your weight loss and say something complimentary. No ill intent meant on either side, but that's how it is; people feel the social obligation and they WANT to be supportive. I kind of enjoy the process of not saying anything and then see the point where they start looking at me and thinking "Is she losing weight? should I say something? what if she's not?" and then to the point where there's no mistaking it and they are thrilled to compliment me.
  • Candi_land
    Candi_land Posts: 1,311 Member
    I find the best thing for me is just not to talk about it outside of MFP, this way I avoid all unwanted conversations/questions/comments and unsolicited advice pertaining to my weight.
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
    No, I do not get annoyed when people are nice to me.
  • samanthachen
    samanthachen Posts: 360 Member
    I know what you are saying and what you are getting at, but I didn't tell people. I was very ashamed that I was the person that needed to lose as much as I did (and do), so I am keeping it to myself. My family knows. My husband (of course) knows. My two best friends know, but only after they saw me. I wanted to keep it to myself; it's my lifestyle, and I didn't want input, suggestions, and weird fake comments from people. I am more speaking about my facebook family. They don't know because I don't want to be sold Herbalife crap (from my friend that's a rep.), workout-one-upped (because it isn't a race), etc. I am doing this for me, and I felt like privacy was my key.

    Your experience is exactly why I was keeping it to myself. I appreciate that they are making the effort to compliment, but it hurts that it's made up (most likely made up because they felt obligated to comment since you were on the topic). Once the loss begins to be noticeable to you, that's when those comments and compliments really mean something -- that's when it becomes special and oh so welcome!

    The first few pounds are the toughest to get through. You are excited to be in this, and you want to tell people, but then you come across these weird situations. I know exactly how you feel. In a few months, you will blow them away with your results, and trust me, their compliments will be anything but fake. Just keep going!!! :flowerforyou:
  • asyluma
    asyluma Posts: 65 Member
    Thanks for all the input guys! =)
  • fluffykitsune
    fluffykitsune Posts: 236 Member
    I find whenever I try to talk to people about lifting / running / getting into shape, they talk about those 7 day detox/diets, or fasting to lose weight, shakeology or magic weightloss pills.

    So I just keep things to myself.
  • kazsjourney
    kazsjourney Posts: 263 Member
    That to me sounds like people are just trying to be supportive. I didnt tell people when I started or I am sure they would have said "oh yeh here she goes again" lol....Ive let the results speak for themselves .... that said I talk about it a lot now! lol Best of luck!
  • jennifershoo
    jennifershoo Posts: 3,198 Member
    Don't talk about it in front of them.
  • Alatariel75
    Alatariel75 Posts: 18,370 Member
    I'm all for not broadcasting it. I get thaqt it is exciting to be making a positive change and you're enthused, but when you tell people, they will usually respond with compliments, protestations that you don't need to lose weight, "helpful" advice, etc. It is the expectation.

    I juust don't talk about it. If people notice, that's nice.

Categories