Sorry in advance for my Rant
Fighting4Healthy
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I used to be one of these crazy people, you know the ones that try to fit their size 16 butts into size 12 pants!!!
I was driving around town and realized that so many women tend to wear clothes that are way too small for them. Yeah they may think they look sexy, but they really just look trashy. What is worse is that these girls are between the ages of 12 and 17! My question is where are the parents in this mess? Do they not see what their daughters look like before they leave the house? Now in my situation, my mom taught me how to dress, are there more parents like her? Is that why the younger generation of women are not respected nor do they demand respect?
I hate how our world puts on shows like "Teen Mom" and "16 and Pregnant" that encourage teen pregnancy, but then they complain about the "teen pregnancy epidemic". So much of the new generation is disrespectful and low class (if they have any class at all). Teen boys and girls are getting pregnant and still out partying. I was 15 when I got pregnant and 16 when I had my oldest and I will tell you what there was no partying for me, I went to school and I worked because I was on my own and new that I had thought I was mature enough to do adult things then I had to be mature enough to take responsibility for my actions, so I did. But these little girls and boys think that they can just keep on partying like they didn't have kids and the most I can do is pray that they realize that their life is no longer their own. I don't know, I am sorry for ranting and raving, I know I sound crazy, but as I get older I see things that I feel aren't going to help future generations prosper, and it just makes me sad and scared for what the future will hold for me and my future generations.
Sorry about this being so long and all over the place, I just let my fingers type what was on my mind. lol
I was driving around town and realized that so many women tend to wear clothes that are way too small for them. Yeah they may think they look sexy, but they really just look trashy. What is worse is that these girls are between the ages of 12 and 17! My question is where are the parents in this mess? Do they not see what their daughters look like before they leave the house? Now in my situation, my mom taught me how to dress, are there more parents like her? Is that why the younger generation of women are not respected nor do they demand respect?
I hate how our world puts on shows like "Teen Mom" and "16 and Pregnant" that encourage teen pregnancy, but then they complain about the "teen pregnancy epidemic". So much of the new generation is disrespectful and low class (if they have any class at all). Teen boys and girls are getting pregnant and still out partying. I was 15 when I got pregnant and 16 when I had my oldest and I will tell you what there was no partying for me, I went to school and I worked because I was on my own and new that I had thought I was mature enough to do adult things then I had to be mature enough to take responsibility for my actions, so I did. But these little girls and boys think that they can just keep on partying like they didn't have kids and the most I can do is pray that they realize that their life is no longer their own. I don't know, I am sorry for ranting and raving, I know I sound crazy, but as I get older I see things that I feel aren't going to help future generations prosper, and it just makes me sad and scared for what the future will hold for me and my future generations.
Sorry about this being so long and all over the place, I just let my fingers type what was on my mind. lol
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Yeah, sorry...just a little too long...0 -
It takes a lot to say what you just said, but most of the time the truth hurts.. My preverbal hat is off to you miss.0
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I'm going to take some time to read it right now just because I feel bad that nobody else is reading it. :-) Here goes...0
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It's not really that long, just needs paragraphs to make it easier to read.0
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Omg, as a middle school teacher, I am SO glad I read that!! I completely agree with you! Parents definitely need to take more care these days.0
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long, and hard to focus, but made my way through it and I agree with you! btw, your profile pic made me LOL!!0
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When i was 16, my parents let me wear whatever I wanted and I might as well have walked around naked, I now have a 16 yr old daughter and I am very strict with what she is allowed to wear. I tell her about things that were said to me and how I was portrayed and it was very hard for anyone to take me seriously when I was dressed like a tramp. I tell her that by dressing the way she does she may not get as much as attention as other girls but the attention she gets is based on who she is and is more likely to be from people she would want to have in her life and not how she dresses. This is working for me so far, we shall see what happens in the future.0
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Sometimes you just need to rant and get it over with.0
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If you think that paragraph is too long to read, I pity you.
As for the OP, I feel your opinion is kind of a blanket statement. Not all girls dress trashy, and there wasn't a sudden "downgrade" of "class." And actually, both 16 and pregnant and teen mom have helped in lowering the overall percentage of teenage pregnancy in the US.
But yes, I do wonder why some girls dress the way they do. My niece for example, dresses like a bright mismatched hobo, regardless of all the cute clothes her mom buys for her. But ah well, she likes it. Sweet kid, can't really judge too harshly.0 -
I totally agree,when my wife and I had our kids we rarely went out to a party.Once in a while gramma would say I`m taking the kids for the night and you 2 are having a date night,no ifs ands or buts.Now a days I know of a few people that are always looking for a sitter come every Friday or Saturday night.They want to have kids but not take the responsibility that goes along with it.They should have thought about it in advance0
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If you think that paragraph is too long to read, I pity you.
As for the OP, I feel your opinion is kind of a blanket statement. Not all girls dress trashy, and there wasn't a sudden "downgrade" of "class." And actually, both 16 and pregnant and teen mom have helped in lowering the overall percentage of teenage pregnancy in the US.
But yes, I do wonder why some girls dress the way they do. My niece for example, dresses like a bright mismatched hobo, regardless of all the cute clothes her mom buys for her. But ah well, she likes it. Sweet kid, can't really judge too harshly.
Yeah what is that about? I am strict about whether or not my daughter wears revealing clothes but that's where I stop and she also looks like a hobo in bright colors. I just shake my head and remember my goth phase in high school0 -
Are you aware that there are people in this world that have a severe medical condition which causes them to be that way? My aunt for instance is one of those people. She is a truck driver that has bad knees and a bad back from driving the truck but you probably do not care about that case either........
The problem is you're focusing on the things in life that don't really matter. When I was a kid I had hopes and dreams. We all did. But over time, the daily grind gets in the way and you miss the things that really matter, even though they are right in front of you, staring you in the face. I think the next time you should ask yourself "Am I on the right track here?". I don't mean to be rude but people like you I really pity. So maybe you could use the brain cells you have and take advantage of the knowledge I have given you now. Good luck.
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Yeah, sorry...just a little too long...
I lost interest at "where are the parents" before I get to "somebody think of the children!"
edit for spelling retardation.0 -
What did I just read?0
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Hi everyone. Sorry about this post being so long and I am in no way saying I am the perfect parent Trust me I have made same mistakes as a parent. I was just ranting. I tent to post what is on my mind and if someone takes interest and would like to have a conversation about it, it gives me something to talk to about a similar interest. I was not trying to offend anyone. Sorry if I did.0
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What did I just read?
A rant from a crazy lady! LOL I guess I just have my own opinions about things. Yeah maybe I should keep my mouth shut, but that just isn't something I do well :-)0 -
Well, the increase in teen pregnancies largely comes from an ignorance of contraception, which I blame on abstinence only sex education. As for parents letting their child wear what they want, why the hell not? Yeah, you may not like it but it's not up to you, is it?0
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In my home it's up to me what my children wear. I am aware of self expression but slutty clothes ain't it.
I agree with the OP. Honestly, if parents decided to not be their kids friends and actually parent that would help a bit.
Sounds like you've got your head on right OP!0 -
Well, the increase in teen pregnancies largely comes from an ignorance of contraception, which I blame on abstinence only sex education. As for parents letting their child wear what they want, why the hell not? Yeah, you may not like it but it's not up to you, is it?
This. Teen pregnancy, although the rates are decreasing overall, is highest in red states that peddle abstinence-only education and make contraceptives nearly impossible to access.
As for clothing, what one person may find trashy, others may not. As long as their genitals/boobs aren't on display for all to gawk at, let them wear what they wish!0 -
In my home it's up to me what my children wear. I am aware of self expression but slutty clothes ain't it.
I agree with the OP. Honestly, if parents decided to not be their kids friends and actually parent that would help a bit.
Sounds like you've got your head on right OP!
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In my home it's up to me what my children wear. I am aware of self expression but slutty clothes ain't it.
I agree with the OP. Honestly, if parents decided to not be their kids friends and actually parent that would help a bit.
Sounds like you've got your head on right OP!
Thanks. Like I said, it is just my opinion. I am not trying to sway others, just exercising my right to have an opinion. lol though some people are hating my opinion. lol I do agree that parents need to stop being the childrens friends. I understand being there for your kids but don't try to be their buddy. I feel it blurs the line between parenting and friendship. Yes my girls may think I am a horrible person when they are teens and not allowed to wear revealing clothing or their pants around their knees, but they will learn that they will get more genuine respect by keeping covered than false respect and more "attention" by showing their skin.
I remember telling my Dad that I hated him because he wouldn't let me wear a belly shirt, and the best thing he ever told me is "You may hate me now but you will RESPECT me no matter how much you think you hate me, and in the future, you will love me and thank me for teaching you that people should pay attention to you for your strengths and smarts, not your body" I didn't understand it until I had a daughter of my own, and I have thanked him. That was another thing, he wasn't afraid to discipline me. He would ground me or kick my butt if I needed it.
If I had stayed with my dad things would have turned out different for me. My mom was the opposite, she let me run wild and do what I wanted. I just feel like I have seen both sides of parenting and I feel that Dad taught me more. lol0 -
Wow...apparently people of all generations today no longer have the attention span to read a fairly short, simple, and straight-forward paragraph. But good news! They possess the inflated ego to feel the need to announce to the OP and the thread as a whole that they didn't read it. Because we would be waiting on eggshells to hear from them otherwise, you know.
To the OP, I agree whole-heartedly. That said, every generation of kids is stupid. It's what being a kid is. There is always some stupid fad, some major social dysfunction, and lackluster parenting exists in all times and places. We can't see it as kids, because kids are stupid, so the best we can do is get the stupid out of our own kids as fast as possible before they move out and have to be accountable for their own stupid, to society and possibly to the law.0 -
Love the profile pic. I'd like to put it in my store's fitting rooms.0
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I think many people are confusing two things: sex and pregnancy
Plenty of young people start having sex young without getting pregnant. They choose to prevent pregnancy via using protection and emergency contraception. As a rule, they have hopes and dreams strong enough that, even in a moment of passion, they wouldn't risk complicating their lives by getting pregnant.
So the best contraception is education, hope and dreams. The rest is just prejudice.0 -
There's a few different issues in the post and mostly they're unrelated.
1. Older generation's disapproval of young generations choice of clothing. None of this is new, since the concept of 'teenagers' was created the older generations have been complaining of their clothes, music and lack of respect. Teenagers haven't changed, it's your perceptions of them as you get older that change.
2. Teen pregnancy. I know it's high in the US and it's high in the UK (the highest in Europe) but I'd suggest for different reasons. In the US my bet is that it's high in areas with inadequate sex education and the culture of abstinence (which absolutely, positively doesn't work). In the UK, where sex education is part of the core curriculum, the problem is more down to lack off opportunities for young people and extremely generous welfare benefits for single parents - if you're a fairly uneducated young girl from a disadvantaged background then the quickest way to get your own place and be independent is to get pregnant.0 -
I do not know that this necessarily could be considered the "truth." The media has distorted our viewing lens on the issue of teenage pregnancy. Sociologists and researchers alike, seem to conclude that generally teenage pregnancies in the United States are on a downward trend but vary amongst socio-economic status and classes. We have to be careful about making generalizations based on the distortion of "Reality TV" and seek out reliable, peer-reviewed studies or else we mistakenly state our opinions as fact. Opinions that are stated as fact lead to bad decisions and knee-jerk reactions. Wars have been started over this and bad laws get enacted because an opinion morphed into fact.0
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so trueWow...apparently people of all generations today no longer have the attention span to read a fairly short, simple, and straight-forward paragraph. But good news! They possess the inflated ego to feel the need to announce to the OP and the thread as a whole that they didn't read it. Because we would be waiting on eggshells to hear from them otherwise, you know.
To the OP, I agree whole-heartedly. That said, every generation of kids is stupid. It's what being a kid is. There is always some stupid fad, some major social dysfunction, and lackluster parenting exists in all times and places. We can't see it as kids, because kids are stupid, so the best we can do is get the stupid out of our own kids as fast as possible before they move out and have to be accountable for their own stupid, to society and possibly to the law.0 -
While I don't have children of my own I'll never forget one night when I saw two girls, 15 - 17, in a rough pool room wearing pants around their hips with g-string panties on and their butt cracks and camel toes plus showing.
Everyone in there was staring and making inappropriate comments and these girls were enjoying being disrespected and being called sluts and *kitten*. I don't know anything about how these girls really behaved but they certainly did not portray themselves positively.
I think part of what the OP is saying is that parents need to teach their children self respect, which was something these girls clearly did not have. BTW, my parents would have chained me up before every letting me leave the house like that.0 -
There were abstinence only programs in my school. Any "discussion" of condoms were the failure statistics of improperly used condoms. Any questions about contraception, no matter how ridiculous, were not allowed to be answered by teachers. For all I know, Liz from 7th grade biology still thinks you can't get pregnant in a pool or hot tub because the water kills the sperm.
Bring on the Teen Mom shows--maybe real moms will have more realistic discussions about sex with their kids, of either gender.0
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