This post is going to be a downer...

give it time to make new habits.

focus on making lifestyle changes that you can live with for the rest of your life rather than quick fixes that your know from the start you won't be able to keep

I get very depressed and anxious about the whole thing, too. I'm SO SICK of counting, and planning, and measuring, and worrying about, and focusing, and evaluating, and... It seems most average weight, healthy people I know get hungry, eat. They eat what's around, or casually go over to the sandwhich shop and pick something up. Workout, or don't, not a huge deal, they'll do it the next day if not today. If they want to lose a little, they cut back a bit, and exercise a bit more. Even the ones that are doing something more planned, like weight watchers, eat something, then add up the points later. No biggy.

Me, I'm constantly watching every morsel, packing food, planning around meals and events, balancing breakfast with an after-dinner snack, and most minutes of most days, just want to EAT without thinking about it. But no, becuase that won't get me to any goals...

Ugh. The thought of being on top of this to this level, even when I finally get to maintenace, is overwhelming and just plain sad. I've lost this weight before, and I'm doing it again because I didn't stay on top of it. SO with you.

I feel that way too. But, I think it's because when I'm not paying attention I go wayyy too far and eat everything in sight. It's not just because I stopped logging. For me it's all or nothing. It does kinda suck, because living in ignorance of calories and sugar content sure is a lot more fun

All of you have commented have the wrong mind set.

Make this fun and a lifestyle.
You say planning and prepping meals is a hassle? Make it fun, try new stuff. If you don't like cooking than just buy microwave veggie packs.

I can't even bring food to work with me, I end up eating it before lunch. Every day I walk over the grocery store to buy my lunch, I always make sure it's healthy. It's the only thing that works. I'm just so annoyed this is the way my head works. I'm so sick of thinking all the time. I live with 3 guys, and it never crosses their minds what they need to eat, they just eat. My husband is ripped, without giving it a second thought and i get so jealous of him sometimes! We have the exact same lifestyle outside of work. The thing is he has an active job, where i sit on my rapidly expanding rear all day.

Isn't this the truth! I work so much harder than my boyfriend and he is an awesome shape.

I understand hating how your mind thinks...I too am constantly thinking about losing and wanting my body to look the way I want. I have gone back and worth with weight loss myself, as I struggled with an ED and still do. Sometimes I just freak-out and break down because I don't want to be obsessing over my body.


You say you end up eating before lunch? Well I do the same thing, I'm a receptionist so I sit all day as well. The thing I have done to help is pack numerous healthy snacks, drink tons and tons and tons of water, and doodle to keep my mind off my lunch.
I have set times I eat and in between those hours I do as said above, I doodle and drink and chew my gum.

You may want to start by eating small every hour, just a really tiny snack and then work your self to every three hours.
You can take a look at my diary if you want for an idea. (I have had a sweet tooth lately though, so ignore the candy!)

These are just suggestion on what works for me.
Keep your head up:)

It sounds like you're hungry quite a lot of the time and I wonder if that's making it more torturous?

I find eating low-ish carb most of the time (for life) has helped me feel a deal less hungry and less restricted at the same time. It's not for everyone, but it might suit you.

I can't even bring food to work with me, I end up eating it before lunch. Every day I walk over the grocery store to buy my lunch, I always make sure it's healthy. It's the only thing that works. I'm just so annoyed this is the way my head works. I'm so sick of thinking all the time. I live with 3 guys, and it never crosses their minds what they need to eat, they just eat. My husband is ripped, without giving it a second thought and i get so jealous of him sometimes! We have the exact same lifestyle outside of work. The thing is he has an active job, where i sit on my rapidly expanding rear all day.

Hey, make sure you are eating enough. I know when I was doing this (eating my lunch shortly after I got to work), it was when I was trying to go really low with my calories. Since I upped it, I'm not starving all day and I'm still losing.

Hang in there. I know what you mean. The exercise has finally become part of my daily life (I agree with other posters... do what's fun for you), but I do still have to log and think about my food. I use that as motivation, though. Don't let it get you down!

I plan on logging my food every day for the rest of my life. And I plan on brushing my teeth every day for the rest of my life. I don't have to be obsessive, but for me it's like checking your bank account before you buy groceries...

I think for some of us, that's just what we will have to do.

I get very depressed and anxious about the whole thing, too. I'm SO SICK of counting, and planning, and measuring, and worrying about, and focusing, and evaluating, and... It seems most average weight, healthy people I know get hungry, eat. They eat what's around, or casually go over to the sandwhich shop and pick something up. Workout, or don't, not a huge deal, they'll do it the next day if not today. If they want to lose a little, they cut back a bit, and exercise a bit more. Even the ones that are doing something more planned, like weight watchers, eat something, then add up the points later. No biggy.

Me, I'm constantly watching every morsel, packing food, planning around meals and events, balancing breakfast with an after-dinner snack, and most minutes of most days, just want to EAT without thinking about it. But no, becuase that won't get me to any goals...

Ugh. The thought of being on top of this to this level, even when I finally get to maintenace, is overwhelming and just plain sad. I've lost this weight before, and I'm doing it again because I didn't stay on top of it. SO with you.

This is how it feels to me. All the time.

You could think of it as "being in recovery," in a sense. One day at a time, one choice at a time.

Or you could think of it as an ongoing game. How will you strategize for the most fun, the most intensity, and the best nutrition, within your calories?

Or you could think of it as a process of formation. As you adjust your eating and your exercise, it is forming your body and your brain into something different than it was. How can you help that process just a bit each day?

Really positive post... "one day at a time" really can work for anything.. there's a thread on the mainboards that a number of us use and post each day. http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1012994-just-for-today

One suggestion I have is to keep looking at the Motivation section for the Before/Afters you'll be blown away... keep in mind these are REAL ppl, some you'll join with and see the progress. Ppl on TV that show before and after, mags, even some sites on the Net are photo shopped but MFP before and afters are hardworking ordinary ppl like you and I that actually DID IT!

It's hard to continue when you're overwhelmed, frustrated etc., but that's when you have to dig in deep within yourself and move your body anyway, pick the healthy choices anyway... Motivation is found within, others can inspire you, cheer you on but no one can do the work for us!

Do you plan your meals? Are you eating enough for the amount of movement you get in each day? Do you exercise enough to have a deficit daily? You don't have to awful much to lose according to what I see on your ticker... have you got your "lbs. per week loss" set accordingly so you don't get yourself frustrated along the way?

I've lost a large amount and have a large amount left to go..but I can't quit now...I need to continue to work on getting my body healthier.

You can do it!!

I plan on logging my food every day for the rest of my life. And I plan on brushing my teeth every day for the rest of my life. I don't have to be obsessive, but for me it's like checking your bank account before you buy groceries...

I think for some of us, that's just what we will have to do.

Great attitude! Very realistic... we don't stop brushing our teeth or stop exorcising when we reach goal.. we keep up the healthy habits... same as keep track of our food and what we put into our mouths. :drinker:
Thinking of you and sending you warm hugs, we can ALL do this...

I can relate with the emotional content of your post and I wish I knew a solution. I eat healthy, too, but it's all too easy to eat one or two extra "goodies" making all the rest a failure, and if each day is like that or more than 3 days/week, nothing happens except frustration. And feeling crappy about myself and my ability to control my food intake and the need to constantly do that. I don't lose, but don't really gain, either. One might think a stable weight could be a good thing... unless it's consistently 30 lbs more than one's body needs to be healthty. But... the last time I was really slim (toward the low end of the recommended weight range for my height,) my calorie intake was less than 1200 cal/day, I ran every day, I rode my bike to work every day and I worked as a maid in a casino hotel. That's what it took to be that slim. It will probably never happen again like that and even if I did all that again, the result wouldn't be the same because I'm over 30 years older now. I have even gone to therapy over this issue and gotten nowhere with it. All the suggestions you'll probably hear here are likely good ones, and I've tried most what's being suggested but can't seem to make any permanent changes, either. Sorry I'm a downer too.

After being able to hold on this time to my loss - for over six years - I think another poster already said it best. One day at a time. When you start thinking about "the rest of your life," that's when it gets to you. If I think about having to shower, put on make-up, pay bills, laundry, ANYTHING, for the REST OF MY LIFE, I just want to go back to bed and never get out. Every day will have its challenges. Some have less, some more. Once it becomes a lifestyle, you'll do it. Every day? Nope. Once in a while I don't take a shower. But I sure do take one the next day.

Focus on the now. And the healthy. Do your best. Will you fail sometimes? Yes. Get up again. It is worth it.

Good luck!!!

Your husband is ripped, and muscle requires more calories to maintain, so of course he can eat what ever he wants. Besides, men don't have the genes that prepare their bodies for childbirth, so they lose weight faster.