REALLY trying not to sound awful... BUT...

MissLucyU75
MissLucyU75 Posts: 43 Member
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I started a journey to a healthier me this past November, found MFP in January, fell completely in love with it, & have been here ever since!! So far I am 32lbs down & feeling better than I have in years!

I would love more friends! I love people with a sense of humor. I enjoy reading the posts of my friends & interacting with them. Every part of our lives effect our journeys, so I love hearing about the lives of my friends. I don't need every post to be about food or exercise! We are all so much more than that! I love meeting new people! I log in daily & would love to encourage, support, & motivate anyone that needs it. I don't care if your diary is opened or closed. That is your personal preference & doesn't effect how I view your journey or progress. The only requirement that I have is that you are a positive person. I don't care how far away you are! I enjoy meeting people from all over the world!

So, what is going to sound awful?... here goes...

... if anyone finds me here that knows me personally, I will have to decline your friend request. Sorry! I feel terrible saying that, but this journey has been one of the best things that I have ever done for myself. I feel absolutely comfortable sharing things with my MFP friends that I just can't do with people that I know. In order for this to work for me, I need to continue feeling comfortable & open. I will join you outside of MFP & help & encourage you any way that I can, but for now I need to selfishly keep this journey just for me. I hope that you understand!

Since my profile is closed to everyone but my friends, here is a little tidbit about myself. I am 38 years old & the mom of three kids (ages 19, 16, & 11.) I teach preschool for a part time private program in my home town. I love animals! I have two dogs, a bird, a snake, & 2 aquariums full of fish. I'm pretty random, so you can never quite know what to expect from me!

I'm looking forward to meeting you all! Best of luck to all! :-)
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  • Sean_The_IT_Guy
    Sean_The_IT_Guy Posts: 168
    i understand. i'm doing much better with mfp ever since i dumped my old profile with all my real life friends and made a new one, then accepted a lot of strangers as friends. feel free to add me, anyone. I'm a 35 year old IT specialist with about 35lbs left to lose . started at 315, currently 280ish, want to get to the 260s by end of summer, 245 by christmas, and then i'll reevaluate to see if i want to go any further.
  • jenjen828
    jenjen828 Posts: 58 Member
    Feel free to add me as a friend. I can understand where you are coming from. This is a personal journey, and sometimes the people who know you best do not understand how tough and personal this journey is. I can relate to that and respect that you are doing whatever you need to do to keep yourself successful.

    I supervise the in school suspension classroom in high school. Work and spending time with my husband keep me pretty busy, and I am trying to figure out how to juggle my new healthy lifestyle in the middle of my crazy life. I figure summer break was a good time to get started and get some momentum going before the circus of a new school year begins.
  • lizzie62lou
    lizzie62lou Posts: 1 Member
    hey lucy, I like it that you are honest about how you feel. I find that as I get older, I'm 50 now, that i'm like that too. I would love to lose about 55 lbs. I could say that I don't know how all this weight got here but that wouldn't be the truth. I usually manage my emotions with food. I'm realizing that it's a circle. I eat to deal with things. I gain weight. This causes more feelings, not so good, and then I eat more. I'm not resting well either. I have OSA and wear a CPAP now to help me breath while I sleep. I decided today that I'm not going to eat like this anymore. Got 30 min of exercise today with a sister where I attend my religious meetings. It was nice. Thought that we were going to get rained out, but we didn't. I also have three children. Their not little anymore, 32 girl, 30 & 25 boys. I have 2 grandsons ages 9 & 6 from my daughter. They are a military, Navy, family. They are coming home after a 3 yr stay in Italy. I got to go visit it was really nice there. I have a granddaughter from my oldest son and she's 1. They live near by. (: My youngest son's girlfriend has a daughter that's 5. They live about 50 min. away. I'm very blessed. I don't know just when I lost control. I have always worked out at home. I enjoy working out. I just haven't the last few years on a regular basis and all this eating hasn't helped. I hit the big 200lb mark this weekend. I know it's not good for me. I have pre-diabetes now. I had been diagnosed with DCIS, which in a form of pre cancer of the milk duct in the breast in 2011. I had 2 lumps removed followed by radiation,7 wks. It was found on a mammogram. I didn't feel anything, and I had been doing the self exams. I'm doing fine now. Just eating to much. Did you realize that being overweight makes you a higher risk for cancer? So everybody wants me to lose weight. I seem to be going the wrong direction. I don't talk about it much. I guess I feel that if I don't talk about it that it will help somehow, but I'm not so sure now. Well, thanks for listening. I think it has helped me get over the desire to eat this time. Oh by the way, you look very pretty in your pic. Later lizzie62lou

    ps. I pray that I didn't traumatize you with this note cause I think it has helped me. Thanks:smile:
  • mockchoc
    mockchoc Posts: 6,573 Member
    Might be best if you don't have your pic in your profile if it concerns you being spotted on here.
  • NaomiJFoster
    NaomiJFoster Posts: 1,450 Member
    I teach preschool too! We should totally be friends!

    A couple days ago I noticed that a coworker was on here, she also happens to be an long-time friend of my sister. I friend-requested her. She accepted. Now I feel weird, like I'm peeking into a private part of her life, stuff I wouldn't know just by being her coworker or from her being my sister's friend. I feel weird about it now.
  • corgicake
    corgicake Posts: 846 Member
    Feel free to add me too. I'm getting back into dieting after holding weight during finals and field school.

    I'm 23 and currently finishing up my second to last semester of college, slated to get a degree in archaeology in December from a little college in the upper Midwest. In addition, I'm working at the school's diversity center as well as a pizza joint this summer and will be restarting work with a Lutheran college outreach team in the fall. Figuring out how to eat healthy and manage carbs and exercise with a busy lifestyle has been difficult but worth it.
  • chris_marie1730
    chris_marie1730 Posts: 4
    You don't sound awul at all! I would love it if you added me as a friend. Being positive and a sense of humor are the only way I get through the day :) I am a 52 year old female....love quilting, motorcycle riding, my grandkids, gardening, my job, my family..........I manage a long term care program for two different counties, and love my job!
  • norahwynn
    norahwynn Posts: 862 Member
    hey there!! i totally get where you're coming from... feel free to add me also. :flowerforyou:
  • Italiano7
    Italiano7 Posts: 382 Member
    FEEL FREE TO ADD ME!!
  • HoneyOpal
    HoneyOpal Posts: 6
    I love MFP. You really get to track what you eat and see it upfront.
  • mrslosser
    mrslosser Posts: 54 Member
    feel free to add me. I love new friends!
  • Cathy121314
    Cathy121314 Posts: 30 Member
    Just joined tonight! I was on here for a while last fall - got tired of all the generic atta boys, and posts about workouts. I'd love to make some genuine connections with people.

    I'm 41, and teach middle school math.

    Looking forward to making changes in my life.

    Add me!! (Please)
  • Selgar
    Selgar Posts: 31 Member
    Feel free to add me!! I log in every day too :)
  • AliandTrev
    AliandTrev Posts: 194 Member
    You don't sound awful, I completely understand that. I'm a 33 y/o stay at home mom of 2 kids ages 11 and 6. I started at 199 am down to 179 and want to get down to 150 and then I will reevaluate from there. Feel free to add me anyone.
  • wannabhealthy50
    wannabhealthy50 Posts: 67 Member
    I don't think your awful at all. A little about myself. I'm 51 years old and have been overweight all my adult life. I'm a registered nurse for a large metropolitan hospital. I just had the vertical sleeve gastrectomy on May 8th and I'm doing well. Please feel free to add me. Have a great night!
  • aztammy
    aztammy Posts: 1 Member
    Hi,
    I wont add people I know outside of MFP either :) Im a nurse, 43 y/o with a wonderful husband of almost 20 years, 6 kids (3biological and 3 adopted) and 2 granddaughters. Ive just started my journey (....again) 2wks ago.
    Lets be friends! :smile:
  • kimi131
    kimi131 Posts: 1,058 Member
    Wish I had kept my MFP friendslist to non-"real life" friends.There's comfort in a certain level of anonymity. I used to be able to say things here that I couldn't say on FB, but now since I have some real life friends on my MFP list, I feel limited in what I can say again. :ohwell:
  • Becky_Smith72
    Becky_Smith72 Posts: 161 Member
    Welcome to MFP! It's an incredible site and has been a huge motivation. Feel free to add me if you'd like.. I'm a mom of 5, a personal trainer, beach body coach, and have lost over 60lbs in the last year.. and believe me good support is key! :) I didn't mind inviting people from real life to MFP, but I do regret it on Instagram! I want to post all sorts of fitness things and pictures to get feed back but don't want to share some with certain people, so I definitely understand.
  • Gr8ChangesAhead
    Gr8ChangesAhead Posts: 836 Member
    All friends welcome :) Add away
  • nickalow11
    nickalow11 Posts: 99 Member
    I totally get it! I have a few friends from real life as friends on MFP, only because we truly share the same goals of getting healthier, feeling better and fixing what's broken. :) Add me if you'd like, my humor tends to be more sarcastic (but I'm working on that).
  • PinkNinjaLaura
    PinkNinjaLaura Posts: 3,202 Member
    That makes perfect sense to me too. I do have a few friends on here I know from the "real world," but the people I tend to interact with the most on MFP are people I've met here through the few groups I belong to. I started using MFP in January and really just lurked for the first few months. Finally starting to get more involved in the community and am finding it very rewarding. Feel free to add me too!
  • kar328
    kar328 Posts: 4,159 Member
    I totally agree and it's not awful. I'm much more comfortable with the "strangers" who are supportive and nonjudgemental. I have several coworkers on here and while what I do isn't a secret, they don't need to know my weight or how I feel about issues I have - some with them lol. I'd always love more friends.

    I'm a nurse, I'm down 34.6 lbs, except stuck in a stall this month. But not letting it push me back to bad habits. I've discovered the joys of weight lifting and the C25K program. Can't believe I take my fat and go run down the road. And like it.
  • Hotdawgnothotdog
    Hotdawgnothotdog Posts: 179 Member
    Sounds like a good idea to me, I'd rather you post a video of me up on YouTube for millions of strangers to see (not that they'll care to watch, but they could see it) then have it played to my immediate family.

    Little bit off topic, I agree with you about the talking about things other than just weight loss, I'm actually gonna start posting quotes with miscellaneous topics each day, I like to think I have a good sense of humor and a positive attitude, and too started MFP in January!

    I feel like I'm filling out an application, LOL, anyways feel free to add me as a friend.
  • marz42
    marz42 Posts: 223 Member
    I totally get this. It's just weird somehow.

    For me personally...among other reasons... I tend to get totally derailed if any real life friends decided to play "food police". Or, people often talk about how great and helpful it is to be "held accountable"...I find it totally the opposite. I need to do this for me, with my own rules and plans that I decide on at a given time. The minute I feel I am answering to someone else, I loose motivation. My doctors office made me fill out a sheet last time with goals, so I wrote exercise since I'm already doing it, and the thought of them checking on me next time made me not want to do it...luckily I managed to shake it off.
  • petechiae
    petechiae Posts: 147 Member
    Hey there! I understand what you mean. I don't and will never add someone that I know personally on MFP. I can be way more honest with myself and others when I do not feel pressured by the way they view me. I've always been a little bit of a loner, but this journey is very personal for me and I'm a little shy/ashamed of my physical condition in real life anyway (I will have to fix that). Most of my friends believe that I should just stop eating/take fat burners/detox if I want to lose weight., that is not really the kind of people I like to talk about weight loss with. I can easily see how having them here would create major drama.

    All this to say that... I will add you! :>
  • xstarxdustx
    xstarxdustx Posts: 591 Member
    Couldn't agree more. Anyone else who feels the same, please feel free to add as well.
  • BeckyMBisMe
    BeckyMBisMe Posts: 215 Member
    wow! I could have written your post! I started over with a new account also. I always felt like the friends from "real world" weren't very helpful toward each other. It was like they just wanted to check and compare notes on who was doing better than the other. it's my real name and face but if they come a knockin' the door won't be answered. LOL
  • lambchristie
    lambchristie Posts: 552 Member
    Ah, Lucy Dee I hear you and understand. I only have a couple personal friends on here; but they don't appear to check in all that often.

    I love your honest, open approach to your post. Thank you!

    I too will be adding you as a friend.

    I am 58, and have been on this journey since last October and down 35 pounds. Yesterday I had a doctor's visit and was taken off one prescription, my LDL was down 78 points and my HDL was UP by 4; my A1c was DOWN by 1.1!! WHOO HOOT!

    Looking forward to doing this journey together.

    LouAnn (Lambchristie)
  • hzliiz
    hzliiz Posts: 166 Member
    I totally get that...that's why I didn't put a picture of my face up. I've put a lot of really personal stuff on here and while I feel comfortable sharing it anonymously with thousands of strangers -- also in the hopes of maybe helping someone else -- no way would I want to share all that with people I know. But that's ok, this is my space to use as I need to. And it's really ok for you to create YOUR space that YOU need in order to accomplish your goals, and you have a right to do so, I think! And I am sending you a friend request b/c not only do I not know you, I also I think I'm all kinds of funny and I would be happy to support you!
  • easternNCchick
    easternNCchick Posts: 198 Member
    Sent you a request.

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