I need help to lose 100 +

Hi me too - I have been on the site for a while and even have a 100+ support group if you would like an invite.

You can add me if you like. I have over 100lb to loose. I only started last week so we could do this together. I know how hard it is to find time to exercise when you have a young family and it is definately not helpful for you family to be like that. I've been on different sites for handy ideas to fit exercise in. just 10 mins her 5 mins there it all adds up. Most importantly track everything it helps you to think before it goes in your mouth. Try at some point during the day to think about what to have for the next day (I find that easier than trying to sit down and plan a week). I also posted on the community site for healthy snack ideas and people here were really helpful. I made my own trail mix, stocked up on oakcakes and even the kiddies are enjoying the healthy snacks. One thing I have done this time which I've never done before is we through out all the sweets in the house (actually believe it or not it was the kids idea to do this).

good luck hun xx

I really need to stop reading the forums. Your post caused tears in my eyes.

Just saying,losing weight is hard,really hard....it's a job losing 20,50 or 150 pds.None of it is easy! You don't need family to pat you on the back,we will do that for you.MFP people are also pretty good at telling it like it is....There aren't many losers that haven't lost,gained & lost again.
I'm a Grma with lots of health problems,but you know what? Doesn't matter,the weight is starting to come off. I don't cut out food groups,but I do cut back,eating what is called normal portions most of the time.You don't need special food,just get away from the table after eating normal size portions.
Exercise is good,but maybe just concentrate on your food intake for now,then when the kids start pre school,you could do some walking.

Nothing anyone says will help till you make up your mind.That is where all of us have to start from.Good luck.

I only have 30 lbs to lose, but I believe everyone benefits from support so glad you signed up for MFP! Good Luck to you on your journey. I added you as a friend if you want support!

You said:

I so desperately want to not be fat anymore but I am so unmotivated. I feel like I don't have anywhere or anyone to turn to. I am a stay at home mother and I don't have access to a vehicle, babysitters, or a gym membership. I've taken drastic measure to lose weight in the past only to have it blow up in my face. My family is the last group of people I want in my corner. They laugh when I try on clothes, or make snide remarks about my weight. Without accountability, there's not much room for success. I'm so disappointed with how I've let myself go that I don't even like going out in public. I need to take time for myself and do this and I need a lot of help. If I promise to log in everyday and be honest, will you help me?

My answer:
You don't need any of those. You only need to get a cal goal and then count your calories. The calories of whatever food happens to be in the house. Or wherever you happen to be taken to eat. I'd be surprised if you didn't find any food you come across on MFP but even if you didn't you could guesstimate by 1) finding a similar food OR 2) if you know what ingredients went into making it.

I lost 51 lbs through diet alone in the past, so I know it can be done without, a car, a gym membership , or babysitter to workout.

Welcome to MFP!

Now stop the drastic measures, those usually fail. What works is making small changes in your diet and activity level, when you've made those changes and they've become a habit for you, add some more small changes. Remembering that this is a lifestyle not a diet. You don't need a gym membership, I've lost over 60 lbs without one, and continue to lose.

First step track everything you eat, as honestly and accurately as you can. When I did this in my first week I realized I was drinking over 700 calories a day, so that was my first step in correcting my nutrition. Then begin with some walking or other exercise, find something you enjoy. For me it's my bike I absolutely love it.

Schedule time that you exercise, make it a habit just like getting up taking a shower and brushing your teeth.

You can do this, just remember it's one choice at a time.

Have a wonderful day and best wishes for you!
Jen

Welcome to the site. Glad to see you are here and that is a great step. Add me, God knows I also need the support. I am a Stay at home mom too and I know exactly what you mean. This journey has not been easy. I love the support here.

We can do this!

Absolutely. You can do this, one day at a time. Track everything, that helped me tons. And if you're over one day don't let it get to you; slow and steady does it. I set the bar really low; committed to 1/2 hour of exercise a week and losing 1/2 pound a week; that gave me wiggle room. You don't need a gym, walking is great. Especially with kids, you're busy and have a lot going on; if you commit to minimium exercise it's easy to get that in and extra; once I got started I found I did more exercise than I had committed to most weeks (but not all! : )). We're here for you. I snack on veggies a lot, and it helps if I make a bucket of precut veggies for the week; that way they're there and ready to go. and change up snacks; carrots get old fast! but watermelon is in now and a great snack.

I've been there too matter of fact I need to loose well over 100 pounds.I could use some friends.I would love to support you & could use some myself.My support group is my sister who stays in great shape. She uses this program. Good luck & your already doing the hardest part. ( Getting Started)

Hey girl! First of all, I think you are totally beautiful... seriously. You just can't see your loveliness because you are feeling discouraged. There are so many encouraging people here, so you've come to the right place. my suggestions for you:

1. Log every day, everything you eat. It doesn't have to be "diet" food... just set a goal and try to hit it every day.
2. If you have a bad day, push your "reset" button and start over... no self-punishment necessary!
3. Try to just move more. In the house you can walk around while the kids play, or walk around the yard. Pace throughout the day instead of sitting. If you have stairs, this is perfect! Go up and down repeatedly. Find a low step and just step up and down while watching tv. Walk in place, or Dance! Dance with the kids... they love it. Don't load up your arms when tidying up... pick up one thing, put it away, come back for another thing. Don't sit much... find a reason to be on your feet.
4. Pre-log if possible. If I am planning the meals, I can log it first thing in the morning, including snacks. Less chance of falling of the wagon or standing in front of an open fridge wondering what to eat.
5. Log for a few days of your normal eating, then you can cut from there... that way you won't try to start too low. Lots of folks here know how to help, but it will help if you can tell them how many calories you typically eat in a day.
6. Bodyweight exercises will do great things for you. Again we can help, or just google bodyweight workout and pick a few things you like to start with. Do these a few times a week.
7. Go to the mirror and look at yourself until you find one thing you like about yourself and then say it out loud. Maybe you have nice legs or lovely hands...you chose. In a couple of days do it again. You need to hear this often. You will find encouragement here, but learn to encourage yourself also. It's easy for us to say only negative things to ourselves, so learn to catch yourself and say something positive instead.
8. Check out the success stories. These people are fantastic!
9. Try not to be discouraged by people around you. Maybe don't even tell them, until they notice, anyway.
10. Don't give up. When it seems hard, don't give up. When the weightloss is slow, don't give up. When people tell you not to bother, don't give up. This is for you, and you deserve it... Do not give up. You can do this.

2Trips, ignore the negativity from others. Learn to encourage and motivate yourself. You've taken the first couple of steps ... joining MFP and asking for help. Lots of posts and good advice given by many MFP folks. Add some as friends, join the 100+ group, provide encouraging feedback to others ... this will help you in turn.

Take full advantage of MFP. Fill out the profile completely. Change settings to make your diary viewable and update your diet profile. Honestly log every bite you put in mouth and water you drink. Read Success Stories to help encourage yourself.

There are several ways you can encourage yourself (in addition to all the good ideas suggested by others) --

1) Look in mirror each day - Smile - and say "I'm proud of myself because ..... a) followed plan; or b) drank all my water; or c) took kid for walk in park. Find something each day for which you can be proud and look at yourself and say it.

2) Talk positive to yourself ... eliminate the negativity that's holding you back. If you find yourself say "it's too hard" ... tell yourself "I know it's hard but by taking baby steps I CAN do this"!!

3) Find something to laugh about each day. If you need to go to You Tube and watch funny videos. I like Redneck Comedy Tour and Bill Engvall is a favorite. Jeanne Robertson is a big favorite as well.

4) Get outside every day. Go for a walk. Take your kid to the park and play! Walk to the corner store instead of driving, Just get outside. It helps to keep depression at bay.

5) Check your wall on the MY Home tab. Look for posts from your friends and post encouraging comments to them to help support them in their efforts. Be a regular poster in your 100+ group.

6) Eat fresh food. Eliminate prepackaged, frozen, etc. It's healthier for you and your family. You can control the salt, etc.

7) Play fun music ---- and Dance! Sing and dance with your kid ... they'll love it!

Most importantly, do not beat yourself up over yesterday. Today is a new day ... each and every day. And we can start over each day and make it a good one.

Best of Luck! :flowerforyou: