Just cannot do it!

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  • brower47
    brower47 Posts: 16,356 Member
    You do understand that even with the surgery, you'll have to change your habits, right? The surgery isn't an automatic success.

    ^^ This. My sister in law and her daughter both had the surgery. The mom gained it all back and then some and the daughter is currently gaining it back. The mom however, has now lost almost 50 lbs by tracking her intake vs her output. The band is not an option if you're not going to change the habits that got you here in the first place.
  • rosiecbolton
    rosiecbolton Posts: 85 Member
    Thank you for the lovely messages. I thought I would get a load of "just go on and eat then...or go back to drugs" type of messages so glad about that.
    I have referred myself to a counselling service and am waiting for an appointment for that.
    I am giving it another go so no more food tonight!
  • rosiecbolton
    rosiecbolton Posts: 85 Member
    I wish they had surgery where they could just cut out your stomach totally!
  • luulu1999
    luulu1999 Posts: 119
    You can def do it without surgery....I know several people who have had the lapband it they are just as fat now as they were when they got it.....and I know several people who have done gastric bypass that it has made horribly sick because they don't follow the diet.....there is no fast fix to being overweight that is going to be permanent except changing your lifestyle just about every diet pill says take with diet and exercise...well if you still have to diet and exercise you might as well just do that and not worry about side effects from procedures and meds....all you need is a little faith in yourself and you can get back on track
  • _chiaroscuro
    _chiaroscuro Posts: 1,340 Member
    Thank you for the lovely messages. I thought I would get a load of "just go on and eat then...or go back to drugs" type of messages so glad about that.
    I have referred myself to a counselling service and am waiting for an appointment for that.
    I am giving it another go so no more food tonight!

    So, you did decide to begin? Hot damn! Making that choice is victory number one right there!

    And if you apply yourself honestly to a program and it isn't effective (no I didn't say if it wasn't comfortable b/c it probably won't be, but effective), then keep trying things until you find something that makes that light come on, and go full tilt on your own behalf. :)
  • Hellbent_Heidi
    Hellbent_Heidi Posts: 3,669 Member
    Thank you for the lovely messages. I thought I would get a load of "just go on and eat then...or go back to drugs" type of messages so glad about that.
    I have referred myself to a counselling service and am waiting for an appointment for that.
    I am giving it another go so no more food tonight!
    :flowerforyou:
  • Alex_is_Hawks
    Alex_is_Hawks Posts: 3,499 Member
    I wish they had surgery where they could just cut out your stomach totally!

    they do...it's called an RNY

    then they make you a new stomach with your upper intestinal tract and you STILL have to learn to eat properly and you STILL have to learn to be responsible for what food you put in your mouth

    or else you gain it all back.
  • terrabit
    terrabit Posts: 33 Member
    Thats nothing... I was down from 320 to 220 in 1 year. I am back up to 290. Dont give a ****... started the program again last week and will follow through. This was a huge setback, but much like quitting smoking, it usually takes me a try or two for it to stick.
    Jogging is *really* hard now. I was doing 2 5k runs per week, a bike ride, and a 10+K every weekend, and now I am struggling to walk/run 3k.

    Its really sad but at the same time I am sooo mad at myself and thats a good motivator.
  • thisdamselflies
    thisdamselflies Posts: 92 Member
    I think the support system of OA could definitely be helpful, and the people there should be able to point you in the direction of a trusted therapist if you're interested in something like that. I would also suggest that if you're using food to essentially self-medicate, you can also start searching for healthier alternatives to replace food in that role. Exercise will provide an endorphin high that will improve your mood naturally. Getting outside, even just to walk around the block, can help boost your mood as well. Other than those two things, try to find other things that make you happier every time (and aren't food). I find that good music usually puts me in a better mood, anything with a beat that makes me want to dance. Dancing and hanging out with my friends and/or my dogs improves my mood. Hobbies that require me to use my hands like sewing, bookbinding, or writing, keep me from eating while doing them and are also satisfying.
  • rosiecbolton
    rosiecbolton Posts: 85 Member
    I have had a horrible experience with a despicable law firm which have made my life a misery. I run a micro contract cleaning firm and they have been a nightmare and will probably not cough up their last bill of £700 (just over 1000 usd). They have told me that if I go to the small claims court they will counter sue as once all the lawyers were having a meeting and I needed to get a note to one of them so I opened up an accountants notebook to tear out a page and write a note (foolish I know with hindsight). They are now saying I was deliberately trying to steal confidential information even though I have no accountancy qualifications and so would not have understood anything I read anyway. It has really got me down.
  • chunkydunk714
    chunkydunk714 Posts: 784 Member
    You do understand that even with the surgery, you'll have to change your habits, right? The surgery isn't an automatic success.

    Thats exactly what I would tell my sister everytime she mentioned the lap band procedure. You still have to know how to eat because in the long run you WILL gain the weight back if you dont change your habits.
  • RosemaryEBrown
    RosemaryEBrown Posts: 12 Member
    Yes you can do it. Maybe right now you can't do the whole thing, but pick something you can do and DO IT. Maybe get out and take a walk every day. Maybe just log onto MFP and writing down everything you eat each day. Having to write down that I inhaled a bag of chocolate chip cookies might just be enough to stop me!! Success breeds success. Get one thing down and add the next step. You'll get back. I'm sure of it.
  • rosiecbolton
    rosiecbolton Posts: 85 Member
    Still on track today apart from 2 polo mints and 2 crisps (not bags of crisps, just 2 individual ones)
  • cindagrif
    cindagrif Posts: 60 Member
    Emotional eating is a hard habit to break, but don't give up. Try to eat some fruits you love, instead of the salty and chocolate things.
  • lilcassers
    lilcassers Posts: 163
    Don't give up!! Please!! You have so much potential and you can do anything you set your mind to. Be positive, work hard, and you WILL see results =)
  • bcattoes
    bcattoes Posts: 17,299 Member
    I have had a horrible experience with a despicable law firm which have made my life a misery. I run a micro contract cleaning firm and they have been a nightmare and will probably not cough up their last bill of £700 (just over 1000 usd). They have told me that if I go to the small claims court they will counter sue as once all the lawyers were having a meeting and I needed to get a note to one of them so I opened up an accountants notebook to tear out a page and write a note (foolish I know with hindsight). They are now saying I was deliberately trying to steal confidential information even though I have no accountancy qualifications and so would not have understood anything I read anyway. It has really got me down.

    I can understand being down about this. But surely you know that overeating will not solve or change that problem. It will just create another problem that you'll have to deal with. Maybe try an exercise routine like kickboxing and imagine the bag is one of those lawyers. Or that you are running away from those problems. Channel your frustration in a postiive manner.
  • brutalrage
    brutalrage Posts: 34 Member
    I totally understand about depression and trying to find comfort in eating the pain away. I have suffered from mild to severe depression for most of my life and gain considerable weight at my worse. I've always bounced back and forth with the gym and cleaning up my diet as well and at time it can seem over whelming.

    I have only recently return to the gym after month of being away and noticing the weight I gained while being away. For me I record what times I am eating, what I am doing at the time and how I am feeling at the time. Recording all that makes me aware if I am emotionally eating or eating out of boredom and has helped me get back on track. It may help you as well.

    Working out and other types of exercise is a great way of helping with depression and stress. I know it is helping me deal with working a temp job that I don't overly enjoy and only working since I need the money. Recording my feelings also made me realized the job itself was getting me depressed since I am simply bored at work. I've also started taking my gym bag with me to work and leaving it in my car. On the way home it helps me get to the gym on the hard days since I already have the bag with me so why not go to the gym for a few minutes which have turned out to be full workouts.

    Surgery is not always the right solutions. Changing your prospective on life can help a great deal as well.

    You realized there is a problem and figuring out there is problem is the first step in solving it. Remember your not the only one struggling and there are people here that will support you.

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