Register for my wedding??
mariposa224
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I'm 40 years old, this is both of our second marriages, we've finally got the location secured and the date is now firmly set for September 14 (which has been our tentative date for 4 months). I had posted a status on Facebook with the date, time and location (we live in Ohio, are getting married on a beach in Florida, so we're not expecting a lot of people to be there). A friend of mine asked if we were registered anywhere.
The answer to that question is no. It never even really occurred to me to register. We live together, we have all the household items we need, it just didn't cross my mind.
Just wondering if other people registered for a second wedding, especially if they were all ready set up as far as traditional household type items which usually seem to come up on a registry. At this point, I'm going to say that it's not likely that I'll be registering anywhere, but I don't know... Maybe I should. Though I can't conceive of WHY I should at this point, so if people would enlighten me, share their opinions and whatnot, it would be appreciated. Thanks!
The answer to that question is no. It never even really occurred to me to register. We live together, we have all the household items we need, it just didn't cross my mind.
Just wondering if other people registered for a second wedding, especially if they were all ready set up as far as traditional household type items which usually seem to come up on a registry. At this point, I'm going to say that it's not likely that I'll be registering anywhere, but I don't know... Maybe I should. Though I can't conceive of WHY I should at this point, so if people would enlighten me, share their opinions and whatnot, it would be appreciated. Thanks!
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If you have everything you need I wouldn't.
Maybe ask for donations to a charity you both like.0 -
When I got married it was my first and my husbands second. Aside from the fact that no one knew we were getting married (we wanted to just do it and then surprise the family) when we had our reception later that summer I didn't register any where and I made a point of stating "NO GIFTS" on the invites because we didn't need anything.
In all honesty I find it rather silly that people who live together, regardless of whether or not it's their first or hundredth wedding, or those who don't live together but are on their own and are established and have their own things register and have showers. A shower was originally intended back when the brides and grooms did not co-habitate and lived at home until they were married so of course they were going to need the essentials and a shower was a great way to get them the majority of the items they needed.
I'm personally not a fan of showers of any kind.0 -
If people really push for a registry, you can choose unusual place or items. The things that you would like to have, just would never get for yourself.
I also agree with the charitable donation.0 -
That sounds like a good idea! Thanks!If you have everything you need I wouldn't.
Maybe ask for donations to a charity you both like.0 -
Yeah, see, that was kinda my line of thought as well. We don't need stuff, so why register? Thanks!When I got married it was my first and my husbands second. Aside from the fact that no one knew we were getting married (we wanted to just do it and then surprise the family) when we had our reception later that summer I didn't register any where and I made a point of stating "NO GIFTS" on the invites because we didn't need anything.
In all honesty I find it rather silly that people who live together, regardless of whether or not it's their first or hundredth wedding, or those who don't live together but are on their own and are established and have their own things register and have showers. A shower was originally intended back when the brides and grooms did not co-habitate and lived at home until they were married so of course they were going to need the essentials and a shower was a great way to get them the majority of the items they needed.
I'm personally not a fan of showers of any kind.
I just wasn't sure, due to my friend's comment, if it was something that was *expected.* lol Not a big deal, just wondered. Again, thanks. :flowerforyou: 0 -
That's an interesting idea as well. Pier One comes to mind, but I still doubt I'll do it. Hahaha Thank you!If people really push for a registry, you can choose unusual place or items. The things that you would like to have, just would never get for yourself.
I also agree with the charitable donation.0 -
Yeah, see, that was kinda my line of thought as well. We don't need stuff, so why register? Thanks!When I got married it was my first and my husbands second. Aside from the fact that no one knew we were getting married (we wanted to just do it and then surprise the family) when we had our reception later that summer I didn't register any where and I made a point of stating "NO GIFTS" on the invites because we didn't need anything.
In all honesty I find it rather silly that people who live together, regardless of whether or not it's their first or hundredth wedding, or those who don't live together but are on their own and are established and have their own things register and have showers. A shower was originally intended back when the brides and grooms did not co-habitate and lived at home until they were married so of course they were going to need the essentials and a shower was a great way to get them the majority of the items they needed.
I'm personally not a fan of showers of any kind. I just wasn't sure, due to my friend's comment, if it was something that was *expected.* lol Not a big deal, just wondered. Again, thanks. :flowerforyou:
I forgot to add that even though I stated "no gifts" we DID get a LOT of wine. Which of course I didn't say no to:laugh:0 -
Hahaha That's awesome! Of course you didn't! I wouldn't either! :laugh:
Yeah, see, that was kinda my line of thought as well. We don't need stuff, so why register? Thanks!When I got married it was my first and my husbands second. Aside from the fact that no one knew we were getting married (we wanted to just do it and then surprise the family) when we had our reception later that summer I didn't register any where and I made a point of stating "NO GIFTS" on the invites because we didn't need anything.
In all honesty I find it rather silly that people who live together, regardless of whether or not it's their first or hundredth wedding, or those who don't live together but are on their own and are established and have their own things register and have showers. A shower was originally intended back when the brides and grooms did not co-habitate and lived at home until they were married so of course they were going to need the essentials and a shower was a great way to get them the majority of the items they needed.
I'm personally not a fan of showers of any kind. I just wasn't sure, due to my friend's comment, if it was something that was *expected.* lol Not a big deal, just wondered. Again, thanks. :flowerforyou:
I forgot to add that even though I stated "no gifts" we DID get a LOT of wine. Which of course I didn't say no to:laugh:0 -
When my coworker got remarried, we chipped in on a gift card from Home Depot because they were going to be doing some renovations to the house. I also knew a couple who lived together and had everything they needed, but they asked for Best Buy gift cards because they wanted to upgrade their electronics. If you can see a big expense of some kind in the not too distant future, maybe let people help out with that?
I third the charity idea though.0 -
One of my coworkers is getting married this fall but she's been living with the guy for 7 years. She's registered to places but we thought along the same lines so we all chipped in and got them a weekend at a nice hotel around here for a weekend for a "honeymoon" since they didn't have enought money for one. I think that's a great idea.0
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Another idea is to make a note on the invitations that says a donation will be made at the reception, which could fund a -local- romantic honeymoon, (if you aren't already planning on taking one, seeing as how your wedding is already out of state).... OR the donation could go towards your already planned honeymoon. :happy: Just a thought!0
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I remember a Dear Prudence article on this one. Prudence's feelings were that stating "no gifts" is a faux pas because it implies that you were expecting gifts in the first place.
What you could do, though, is register with a site that offers wedding vacation/honeymoon funds! Because who doesn't need a vacation?! You can break it up into small packages -- people can purchase 50$ toward your airfare, or 100$ for one night in a hotel, etc etc. It's generic and you can use the money any way you choose - it doesn't go to any travel agency or anything - but rather, it gives your guests an easy way to not stress over what to get you, helps them feel good about sending you on vacation, and gives them a print out they can include with a card to show who bought what! I think it might be a great idea for you!
Here's a good one: http://www.honeyfund.com/0 -
We eloped, but our families still wanted to give us gifts, so we registered at Target and everything was around $20 or under. Stuff like throw pillows, wall art, a pizza stone (still one of my favorite kitchen tools!), and my husband scanned some bags of M&Ms, too. :laugh:0
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we had a destination wedding, so since they had to get there and get hotel room and stuffs we didn't expect a whole lot....
we did registration because people would ask.....
but we also said that we are remodeling the house, so any gift card from home depot or lowes would makes us happy...
we only got 2 gifts from the register... we got a lot of gift cards from lowes and home depot
and we also got A LOT, like A LOT of cash for our honeymoon.....0 -
I wouldn't register since you both are already living together. However, if someone wants to send you a gift then that's ok, why not? this is a celebratory moment in your life!!!0
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I'm 40 years old, this is both of our second marriages, we've finally got the location secured and the date is now firmly set for September 14 (which has been our tentative date for 4 months). I had posted a status on Facebook with the date, time and location (we live in Ohio, are getting married on a beach in Florida, so we're not expecting a lot of people to be there). A friend of mine asked if we were registered anywhere.
The answer to that question is no. It never even really occurred to me to register. We live together, we have all the household items we need, it just didn't cross my mind.
Just wondering if other people registered for a second wedding, especially if they were all ready set up as far as traditional household type items which usually seem to come up on a registry. At this point, I'm going to say that it's not likely that I'll be registering anywhere, but I don't know... Maybe I should. Though I can't conceive of WHY I should at this point, so if people would enlighten me, share their opinions and whatnot, it would be appreciated. Thanks!
You know what you should do instead?
Set up a 'Honeymoon Fund" at your wedding, and let people donate to your honeymoon festivities!! Congrats, btw! 0 -
Some people set up funds (like paypal) that goes towards their honeymoon fund. I think that's a nice idea! Everyone feels like they're contributing something but it's not just stuff off a boring registry. It's a happier present in my opinon!0
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For our wedding, we are registering but I believe the proper etiquette is to NOT put on invites but allow your wedding party to spread info word of mouth...
This is both our first so we are looking forward to having matching dishes, etc... :laugh:0 -
I think people ask for the registery because they want to get you something but don't know what you need/want/would go with what you already have.
If I were you, I'd do a dream kitchen list (with all the things in the kitchen that I lust after but can't always justify buying myself), a honey fund, and maybe a redecorating list if you had any things like that planned for the future... but mostly the honey fund.... subsidize the honey moon.0 -
I am 42 and getting married for the second time next July (2014). It's a second for both of us and we don't need a thing! We plan to have a big 'ol party to celebrate our new lives together and don't want or expect gifts other than folks to come and party with us. I am still looking at how to deal with the 'where are you registered' question and hope it doesn't come up. If it does, I'll suggest some of the ideas stated here. Good luck to you both!0
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Well, there are definitely some things we've been putting off buying that we could use gift cards toward. Note electronics, but a new sofa set and a couple other pieces of furniture. Hand-me-down bureau in the bedroom, and sofas that are as old as my son (who is almost 15), would be nice to get replacements. I'll give the gift card idea some thought. Thanks!When my coworker got remarried, we chipped in on a gift card from Home Depot because they were going to be doing some renovations to the house. I also knew a couple who lived together and had everything they needed, but they asked for Best Buy gift cards because they wanted to upgrade their electronics. If you can see a big expense of some kind in the not too distant future, maybe let people help out with that?
I third the charity idea though.
We do support a few charities, so I can definitely make that an option as well.
Yeah, we're actually leaving for a cruise the day after we get married, so we will be having a honeymoon, but we'll be saving from now until then to make sure we have enough to cover everything. What you did for your coworker was very nice!One of my coworkers is getting married this fall but she's been living with the guy for 7 years. She's registered to places but we thought along the same lines so we all chipped in and got them a weekend at a nice hotel around here for a weekend for a "honeymoon" since they didn't have enought money for one. I think that's a great idea.0 -
I never even thought about this before several of you mentioned it! lol Thanks! :flowerforyou:Another idea is to make a note on the invitations that says a donation will be made at the reception, which could fund a -local- romantic honeymoon, (if you aren't already planning on taking one, seeing as how your wedding is already out of state).... OR the donation could go towards your already planned honeymoon. :happy: Just a thought!
I'll be looking that up tonight. Thanks! :happy:I remember a Dear Prudence article on this one. Prudence's feelings were that stating "no gifts" is a faux pas because it implies that you were expecting gifts in the first place.
What you could do, though, is register with a site that offers wedding vacation/honeymoon funds! Because who doesn't need a vacation?! You can break it up into small packages -- people can purchase 50$ toward your airfare, or 100$ for one night in a hotel, etc etc. It's generic and you can use the money any way you choose - it doesn't go to any travel agency or anything - but rather, it gives your guests an easy way to not stress over what to get you, helps them feel good about sending you on vacation, and gives them a print out they can include with a card to show who bought what! I think it might be a great idea for you!
Here's a good one: http://www.honeyfund.com/0 -
I've broken the 3 Pampered Chef stones I've owned over my lifetime. I miss them!We eloped, but our families still wanted to give us gifts, so we registered at Target and everything was around $20 or under. Stuff like throw pillows, wall art, a pizza stone (still one of my favorite kitchen tools!), and my husband scanned some bags of M&Ms, too. :laugh:
Yeah, with the whole destination thing, only a handful of people are coming... And I honestly don't expect a gift from any of them, or anyone else for that matter... But since at least one person has asked, I'm guessing more asking will ensue. I'm seriously considering the gift cards to help us get new furniture. Anything people contribute would certainly help. We've been planning on new living room furniture for a year and it still hasn't happened. lol Thanks! :drinker:we had a destination wedding, so since they had to get there and get hotel room and stuffs we didn't expect a whole lot....
we did registration because people would ask.....
but we also said that we are remodeling the house, so any gift card from home depot or lowes would makes us happy...
we only got 2 gifts from the register... we got a lot of gift cards from lowes and home depot
and we also got A LOT, like A LOT of cash for our honeymoon.....0 -
Thanks! :happy:I wouldn't register since you both are already living together. However, if someone wants to send you a gift then that's ok, why not? this is a celebratory moment in your life!!!
I may take the earlier recommendation and do something similar, through a site, since there won't be many people that actually come. Thank you!You know what you should do instead?
Set up a 'Honeymoon Fund" at your wedding, and let people donate to your honeymoon festivities!! Congrats, btw!0 -
Yes, I think that sounds like a possible plan... And, also agree with the comment below, though we really aren't having actual invites anyway. It's basically word of mouth as far as invites, so if people ask about us being registered, that will also be info given similarly.Some people set up funds (like paypal) that goes towards their honeymoon fund. I think that's a nice idea! Everyone feels like they're contributing something but it's not just stuff off a boring registry. It's a happier present in my opinon!
And yes, I get that. I remember buying my first set of "nice" dishes. It's a great feeling to have nice things!For our wedding, we are registering but I believe the proper etiquette is to NOT put on invites but allow your wedding party to spread info word of mouth...
This is both our first so we are looking forward to having matching dishes, etc... :laugh:0 -
I read this recently and thought it was cool.. what if you have people bring you their favorite bottle of wine, have labels for them to fill out so you know who brought what, and when you open it you can have a mini-celebration every time! It would be neat I think.. but how you go about asking for that rather than traditional gifts.. I guess on the invite.0
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Having help with the cost of the honeymoon would be awesome, for sure! I can't even think of any kitchen items that I want. Probably because I don't really enjoy cooking. lol :laugh: Thanks!I think people ask for the registery because they want to get you something but don't know what you need/want/would go with what you already have.
If I were you, I'd do a dream kitchen list (with all the things in the kitchen that I lust after but can't always justify buying myself), a honey fund, and maybe a redecorating list if you had any things like that planned for the future... but mostly the honey fund.... subsidize the honey moon.
That's awesome. Congrats to you! And thank you! :flowerforyou:I am 42 and getting married for the second time next July (2014). It's a second for both of us and we don't need a thing! We plan to have a big 'ol party to celebrate our new lives together and don't want or expect gifts other than folks to come and party with us. I am still looking at how to deal with the 'where are you registered' question and hope it doesn't come up. If it does, I'll suggest some of the ideas stated here. Good luck to you both!0 -
That does sound really cool!I read this recently and thought it was cool.. what if you have people bring you their favorite bottle of wine, have labels for them to fill out so you know who brought what, and when you open it you can have a mini-celebration every time! It would be neat I think.. but how you go about asking for that rather than traditional gifts.. I guess on the invite.0 -
Thanks, everyone, for the input.
I'm going to check into the honeyfunds site, figure out a charity, and where we want to get furniture from. That will give anyone who wants to contribute one way or another options as far as giving.
Actually, I think the charity will be the American Cancer Society, as my step dad passed from lung cancer last November. Great ideas, folks. Thank you so much! :flowerforyou:0 -
I remember that one of my friends had registered with a honeymoon registry of ourwishingwell.com as both the boy and girl are living together from last 5 years and they have all the necessary things. They got so many things for their honeymoon even fund from the registry. I have seen that people register for gift cards and honeymoon funds when they have all the necessary things in the house.0
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