Hate when my husband leaves town.

I love having the house to myself. I can choose what to watch on TV -- or not have it on at all. I go to bed when I want. I don't worry about being home when he gets out of work (not that he requires that. I just like to be.). It's like my own little bit of independence and quiet time.

He was supposed to deploy for a year starting in May and I had actually been looking forward to it.

Just enjoy being you for a while. It's not like it's even two full weeks and he is coming back.

I used to be so bitter every time he left... when I used to be a suspicious biotch. But now I'm more laid back and actually like when he's gone. It's girl time! Me and my two daughters kick it. It's a "ME" Party every-time he's gone, lol.

Try having in him Iraq for a year...10 days is nothing, sorry.

Yeah, we military wives are TRYING to have empathy, but it's pretty hard. Like many others have said, try to stay busy and get your own hobbies in life. No man likes a clingy, codependent, woman in his life anyway....it gives him all the power and, if and when he gets tired of it, you're EFFED.

Eight-time 6-9 month deployment survivor here.

Thank GOD he retires in October......

I too have the uptmost respect for military wives. No way I could do it. Before I met my husband, there was a guy I was intersted in... until I found out he was going to join the military! No thanks! You women are so much stronger than I will ever be!

My husband and I were long distance for four years, so I know how difficult it can be to maintain a relationship while long distance. However, it sounds like you're projecting some of those issues onto this short time apart - it's a natural thing to do, but you need to remember that there is a huge difference between the difficulty communicating that can happen when you are apart for months at a time and the loneliness you feel when apart for a week or so. Just keep reminding yourself that these vacations are NOT the same as those years apart - and you'll see each other much sooner!

My husband and I have become pretty independent from each other - our schedules rarely match up, he works nights and I work days (which means there are weeks when I barely see him at all), and we often end up traveling separately due to difficulty getting vacation time together. It can get a little lonely being in an empty house at night, but I think you have to just keep reminding yourself that you'll see him soon and keep yourself busy. You seem a little panicked that he's going away, which is probably why people are reacting so strongly to your post, but you need to just take a deep breath and remind yourself that it's only 10 days, and it will be gone before you even know it.

Like others have said: indulge yourself in things he'd never enjoy, like tv shows he hates, foods he doesn't like, pedicures, whatever. Find a project to work on - in times when I've been home alone I've worked on learning to bake gluten free bread (I'm intolerant), reorganizing my closet, cleaning out my basement, building a shed to keep the raccoons out of my garbage cans, training my dog... whatever.

Honestly, in the end, I find that time apart to be peaceful and recharging and makes me enjoy his company even more when he gets back. I think it's healthy for couples to be apart every once in a while, just to remind yourselves how valuable your time together really is.

What do you fear? When we have this type of emotional pain, it is usually because of some kind of fear, so recognize what this fear is and confront it.

I have never been a co dependent so when my husband leaves town, I make plans with the gals to do things he would never, like eat sushi see a play or a drag show.

If you want it and work hard enough, you actually can find out some good stuff about you during this time an heal what ever pain you have that lives inside you that is causing you to feel this way. As someone else has pointed out, there could be abandonment issues (did your parents divorce, die or leave when you were young) or jealousy that he is able to have a good time with out you or has someone cheated on you in the past? These are all things to think about.

Good luck and I hope you feel better about yourself to be able to actually enjoy YOUR mini vacation. That is the way I look at it when mine is out of town, but then again, I am a house wife so I AM on vacation when he is out of town.

I make sure I have a phone number where he's going, so I can contact him if there is trouble. I try to make sure that the things I can't handle alone are handled before he leaves ( this is mostly heavy lifting stuff), then i smooch him goodbye, sit back to enjoy the peace and quiet of the farm until he gets back, do what I need to do as well as what I want to do,when I want to do it, without needing to check in with him or ask if he needs anything from town( which usually means him sending me on additional errands to places like Tractor Supply and Harbor Freight), then I welcome him back with another hug and smooch. I don't have any problem being alone for a while. He usually doesn't call home if it's not longer than a week, nor do I if I'm the one gone.

I need and love alone time so stuff like that never bothered me.