This has nothing to do with anything PART 2

1. He's a man. They don't "test." He is doing this because he's upset and needs space. Men are very straight-forward. When they want you around, they call you. When they don't want you around, they don't call you. And feel blessed that he actually communicated to you that he needs some time and didn't just disappear. Leave him the hell alone.

2. WHAT DID HE ACCIDENTALLY DO TO YOU?????

THIS!


he is not testing you, he needs space!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! . It isn't a test or a game, he simply needs space FFS!

I doubt that you will listen though because if he goes a week without contacting you or more I can't see you not trying to contact him

Is that him in three of OP's profile pics? Is he okay with those being posted? Is he on MFP? What did he accidentally do?

(I'm going to go shoot a bunch of fireworks now...but when I come back inside, I hope to learn answers to all of these questions.)

After seeing her previous thread I'm guessing that your last question will go unanswered.

I don't think the "is he okay with those being on here?" One was answered either.

I am so excited that this rolled over into a new thread.

Why are you ignoring our requests to know what he accidentally did to you?

For clarification, it didn't roll. OP made new post to see if the advice would change.

ETA: Damn, boxingkitt beat me :P

Actually, in an amazing show of restraint, she posted TWO update threads with insanely needy bumps. :laugh:

http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1036774-this-has-nothing-to-do-with-anything-part2

I had this boyfriend once. I didn't think we were 'destined' or whatever, but I was head over heels obsessed with the dude.

He left me over an argument a whole lot dumber than this. I later realized he left me because I was getting too 'real' for him. It took even longer for me to come to terms with how much of a terrible human he was to me anyway. He used me for sex, a place to stay, money, etc...yeah. I'm better off.

When I got married, he expressed regret because I was the only girl that never cheated on him/actually cared about him. :laugh: Can't imagine why the other girls in his life would have dropped him after being such a bum. He still lives with his brother, never had a job and recently knocked up his ex best friend's wife/baby mama.

Good times.

Anyway. The reason I say all of this is because this situation is oddly reminiscent of that time. Me feeling like I did everything right yet he saw fault in me and I had to realize I *was* at fault in certain ways. Maybe the OP doesn't want to come to terms with underlying problems that led to this.

I'm telling y'all...there's more than meets the eye here. OP, take some time to really analyze the situation from all angles.

Is that him in three of OP's profile pics? Is he okay with those being posted? Is he on MFP? What did he accidentally do?

Yesssss! It's one of my favorite plot points to this little drama.

I think someone recommended last night she remove him from her profile pictures here, but she obviously hasn't. Therefore she's still not respecting his wishes.

ooh my god, he looks like a poor man's kevin federline.

I COULD NOT HAVE SAID THAT BETTER.

Truth!

I don't usually post much, but somehow feel the need to here.

.My Dear, I feel like I've traveled back in time when I read your posts! I definitely have been there! I've done things that could have resulted in my being arrested for stalking, seriously, not joking here at all. What I've taken away from my experiences is this:
1. I moved in with a guy within 2 weeks of meeting him.... at our first visit with his Mom, she was very concerned... her first words were "You don't even know him!" You may have deep feelings for someone, but it takes time to get to know them. If you're having trouble "figuring him out", it's time to put him aside til he comes around.
2. Another guy I was obsessing on asked me to give him some space (in his case, that really meant "Get out of my life" but I refused to see it) So I wrote him a 20 page letter telling how much I was going to leave him alone, then sent it to his parents address since I didn't have his! Even though you meant well when you left the candy, and when you texted him, I've found that no matter how sweet you want to be, it's probably not a good idea. Please, forget he even exists for now. Any further contact will drive him further away!
3. Find lots of things to do, so much that you're totally swamped with activity. Go to the gym (or workout at home), spend times with friends and family. Is there anyone that lives slightly out of town you could maybe spend time with some weekend? Read, if you have a craft you enjoy, work on it, if not, this is a great time to learn one... I've found crocheting in a simple stitch quite calming! You're aiming for very little time to think about him!
4. Try to use this as a chance to get comfortable in your own company...you shouldn't NEED a guy to be around. In fact, a lot of guys LIKE it if their girl has a life of her own... her own friends, activities,...it just makes you look confident instead of clingy. And I read somewhere that time apart with our own stuff makes the time spent with our love more meaningful. They can't miss you if you haven't been away from them!
5. I know it sounds like easier said than done, but you CAN do this... and however this story ends, you will have learned a lot!

You all effing suck. I trust you all to find out WHAT THE HELL HOMEBOY "ACCIDENTALLY" DID TO HER. 2 threads and 300 posts later, nothing.

Another sleepless night of wondering. Thanks. Thanks a lot.

I'm going to tell you this as nicely as possible. You're 19. The chance that this is a lifelong relationship are miniscule. There are basic parts about your personality that are driving him away. It doesn't matter how much "love" you feel for this person, if the essence of you is polarizing to the relationship it is.not.going.to.work. Back off. Learn who you are and learn to love yourself first. You need to be OK with being alone before you'll be a contributing member in a relationship.

i call troll