Hanging out with my husband at...a strip club?

I've been to a strip club several times with DH and a few of his friends. The rule is I tip the girls when they walk by the table. It's funny because the strippers all know how much guys like girls on girl..so they will flirt with YOU before they'll flirt with your husband.

As for the lap dance...my husband was going to pay a girl to do that for me, but they wouldn't allow him in the room, so we didn't do it. I was okay with it if we had. Mainly because it would turn my husband on, and it turns me on to know he's turned on. LOL

I have a good time. But I can understand why someone might be more nervous. My husband and I have a very, very secure relationship and totally trust each other. He doesn't even want to go to a strip club without me. And we only go because he has one friend who, until he got a girlfriend, really wouldn't go out unless we joined him there.

It's not as bad as it seems.

I've been to the local one a few times with the ex husband and then again with a boyfriend.

I felt totally out of place, but no more so than I did at Hooters, initially. Once in...piece of cake. What was FUN was when the ex hubs got a little ticked that I was getting more attention than the guys, bwahaha. That, and like Hooters, women are treated really well in there. Or at least that's been my experience.

I agree with the poster that said go, but don't jump right into the lap dances. Let YOUR comfort level be your guide.

I think it's cool that you are open to this. Your hubs is a lucky guy!

strip clubs are AWESOME for women. everyone there is happy to see you, especially the dancers. look but don't touch, UNLESS you are explicitely directed to do so (and you probably will--dancers seem to like hamming it up with girl patrons: it's a good show). if you're not comfortable leave, or find another place to sit. DON'T make yourself stay there if you are not comfortable. you may get a lot of looks and smiles from the other patrons, and from the dancers too. i think dancers like M-F couples because 1) the male is very UNLIKELY to be a (grabby, inappropriate, mouthy, etc.) problem and 2) the female is a potential source of a good girl-on-girl display, which is highly popular (in addition to the fact that a F is ALSO highly unlikely to be a problem).

+ your man gets to look at gorgeous naked women
+ your man gets to SHOW OFF HIS OWN gorgeous, STEADY woman (to the jealousy of the other male patrons: ego boost for him)
+ you get to see other men completely enraptured by other women
+ you get to see your man get excited
+ you get to BE the entertainment for a few minutes, maybe, if you (and the dancers) want to
+ you get to be admired by other men just for showing up
+ you both get the chance to stoke the fires, so to speak, for yourselves for later

if any one of the above gives you a sick feeling, DON'T DO IT. if any of the above gives you a nervous feeling, go about it with an open mind and don't feel obligated to stick with it if you get creeped out. it's not for everyone.

i like strip clubs. but then again i'm a girl, so they're not intended for me and it's a completely different experience.

OK, so say I say "honey, let's do this. But let's skip out on the lap dances for the first time so that I can get a feel for the place."

I think he'll be OK with that. I think. That is, until some chick with giant chesticles (I sound like I'm 5, but I'm trying to keep this PG... lol) is all like "hey, baby, you like these?" Then he's going to look at me like "please, mommy? can i pleaseeeee have the candy?" Haha....

OK, let's say that doesn't happen. How do you tip? I thought you put money in their underwear or something? And how do you tip? Is it like... here's a dollar? Here's a five. Here's a ten. Like... is there a percentage or something? LOL... What's considered to be an average tip for a non-lap dance? What about for a lap dance? How much is a lap dance?

If I WERE to get a lap dance, am I supposed to like... stare at the chick? Look at my husband? Am I supposed to be all looking at him like, "look, honey, a threesome! imagine yourself with us!" Or am I supposed to be like, "Well golly gee, ma'am, you sure do have some pretty long acrylic nails. And those clear shoes are just gorg--where did you get them?"

I'm realizing right now at this very moment that I sound like I've been quarantined in a church bell tower for the last 29 years of my life.

You're wayyyyy over thinking this.

Go, have fun...if you don't have fun, don't go again.

Just go....have a couple drinks and feel it out (heh). you may find that you have a great time. hope your husband is prepared for YOU to get more attention than himself. strippers love when chicks come in...men tend to be creepy and the ladies just wanna party and have fun (so says a stripper i know lol).

You tip them whatever you want. But, if you go to a high end club with really high end girls you usually don't tip in dollar bills - you look at least $5+ and you only tip the ones you want to, you don't have to tip them all. Just relax, really! If you get a lap dance just go with it, look at her, look at your hubby, just have fun - there is no rule book (just dont touch the girl lol).

I took my ex girlfriend to a strip club and she was more amazed at some of the actual dancing and music. I haven't been to one in awhile (2010), but when I go, it's definitely for the music.

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