New and need motivation!

GRPrentiss
GRPrentiss Posts: 17
in Introduce Yourself
I have been married for a year and a half and ever since receiving our wedding photos, I had tried ever fad diet and detox pill. I still can not look at my wedding album without feeling awful about myself. I am hoping this will finally work out for me. I had totally been in denial. I weigh 185 and I am only 5'4. I always say to myself that I really want this, but for some reason when the time comes to make a food choice or I have time to work out I don't. I real need some motivation to get my feet off the ground.

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  • seliinac
    seliinac Posts: 336 Member
    I was about the same weight when I got married 4 years ago. Now I weigh about 210. Start working on it before you end up like me, having to lose even more!
    However, you look beautiful in your wedding dress! Don't hate your pictures. Look for the beauty in them. Look for the happiness in your eyes and in your smile. :)
  • nmpetri
    nmpetri Posts: 11
    I'm in the same postition with the when i have time to work out, I don't part.
    I really never eat as much as i should, they say to eat like 6xs a day to keep your metabolism going..


    Need i say, I HAVE no motivation, but I want it more than anything!
  • MJDuley
    MJDuley Posts: 47 Member
    I feel the same. I want to lose weight and get healthier, but can't seem to motivate myself.

    By the way, I think your picture is beautiful!
  • JuiceBars
    JuiceBars Posts: 78 Member
    Here's a few things to think about:

    Nothing changes if nothing changes.

    The desire to change MUST be greater than the desire to stay the same.

    That motivates me. You have got to want it and own it. Try your best, it will pay off with more than just seeing the scale move in the right direction. Trust me.
  • JessicaZen
    JessicaZen Posts: 149 Member
    just take it slow and steady take one step at a time set up small achievable goals until you get to that big goal. My wedding photos I was 260 but I still love them cuz I am happy and that was the day I married my best friend and solemate. he carries a picture of me in his wallet and every time I ask him how he thinks I am doing he pulls it out and says what do you think. once you get yourself on a system try hard to stick to it. I don't deny myself anything so that helps. The key to the food is moderation. eat the healthy stuff like it is going out of style and treat yourself once in awhile so you don't crave and binge. as far as working out... just move do anything to keep busy and stay moving if you can find a gym or workout at home . me I prefer at home..fit excersise into your new lifestyle. trust me you will start to actually enjoy it and want to work out. proud of you for taking the first step and signing up to MFP you can add me if you like we are all in this together and we need all the encouragement we can get. Good luck.
  • 780ck
    780ck Posts: 40 Member
    I have been here for just over a year & I started close to where you are. I am not yet at my goal weight. I log daily and try to encourage all MFP friends. Feel free to add me if you need some encouragement :) Good luck to all of you.
  • Kash4Life
    Kash4Life Posts: 48
    Take it one day at time. When I first started I felt the same way . Two months into changing my lifestyle and working out , I feel so much better . MFP is a great way to stay motivated . Good luck on your journey and feel free to add me :-)
  • bikinireadyforlife
    bikinireadyforlife Posts: 11
    Many have said this and I agree, take it slow. A lot of people give up because they change everything and quit their favorite foods cold turkey. You do not have to change everything right away. Just make small goals for yourself every week.
    Some examples:
    Week 1: Eat breakfast every morning. Do 10 minute workout
    Week 2: Eat a small salad before lunch. Do 15 minute workout
    Week 3: Have a fruit or veggie as snacks. Walk for 25 minutes

    and so on. Little goals will make a big difference. Remind yourself that you are beautiful and you are worth making yourself healthy and happy.
    <3<3
  • GRPrentiss
    GRPrentiss Posts: 17
    Thank you all so much for your encouraging words. With your help, I hope to be successful! :)
  • mebepiglet123
    mebepiglet123 Posts: 327 Member
    I too think you wedding Pic is beautiful.....

    One day at a time ...

    We can do it
  • KardioKim
    KardioKim Posts: 160 Member

    Nothing changes if nothing changes.

    The desire to change MUST be greater than the desire to stay the same.

    That motivates me. You have got to want it and own it. Try your best, it will pay off with more than just seeing the scale move in the right direction. Trust me.

    This.

    One hour, one day, one week at a time. Once you start seeing results, the inspiration/motivation will increase.
  • KiwiJewels
    KiwiJewels Posts: 36 Member
    Yeah, fad diets just don't work long term - totally agree with those who are saying take it slow, don't try and eat the elephant all in one bite (so to speak LOL) and don't ban anything - moderation is the key. I know that the minute I think that I can never have something ever again, then that's all I crave! Better to eat a row of that chocolate bar once a week, then to keep telling yourself you can never eat chocolate again, and end up eating the whole bar haha

    And if you do fail - don't give up completely or decide you might as well do the thing properly and really blow out. Just stop at that one mistake, don't beat yourself up over it, and move on. And get an exercise buddy!!

    Plus you should check out my new mantra - 101 things to do besides eat - I'm telling everyone who will listen *grin*

    Cut and paste this link and check it out - I'm definitely going to try and do one of these things, the next time I want to eat when I know I'm not really hungry, just bored/tired/stressed, whatever :-)

    http://amihungry.com/pdf/101_things_to_do_besides_eat.pdf

    P.S. you look beautiful in your wedding photos to us - just not to yourself - so ignore you, and listen to us :-) You can only look better and better from here!

    Hang in there!

    Jewels
  • SueQuarles
    SueQuarles Posts: 7 Member
    Hi! I'm in a similar boat to you. I'm 5'2" and weigh 186 lbs. I want to be healthy and lose weight, but it seems like when I have to make the choice between taking time to work out or spending time with my family, spending time with my family always wins out. I make horrible food choices, but I am working hard to eat healthier.

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