How to be confident? Deep topic I know..

sweetlyybroken
sweetlyybroken Posts: 209 Member
in Motivation and Support
So yeah it's a really deep topic. I want to become a confident, more outgoing person. Iiiii just don't know how! :)

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  • ladynocturne
    ladynocturne Posts: 865 Member
    I fake it till I make it. For some reason going through the motions actually makes in real after awhile. I often have to pretend I'm someone else when I speak in public.
  • jollyjoe321
    jollyjoe321 Posts: 529 Member
    I narrowed it down for me.

    I care about consequences, fear of rejection.
  • Bernadette60614
    Bernadette60614 Posts: 707 Member
    I recommend this book: The Power of Charm by Brian Tracy.

    It is a short book, and a little dorky, but it sets out very clearly how to become more confident.

    Tracy is the guru for sales skills and his books are very good.
  • JenSD6
    JenSD6 Posts: 454 Member
    Put your shoulders back, lift your chin, look people in the eye, and practice just being confident. As someone who's super shy and introverted, I know it's difficult sometimes to put ourselves out there. But you just do it, and eventually it becomes second nature to put on that face with others.
  • MyChocolateDiet
    MyChocolateDiet Posts: 22,281 Member
    I was shy until I became a cheerleader. I was then outgoing. Still neurotic and embarrassed most of the time, but way more outgoing. Debate team, cheer, pageants, public speaking, reading to toddlers at the library, anything that puts you in front of people will erase fear and give you confidence. It will work on the shy's. You'll never be perfect though we are all self conscious to some extent but it will make you able to walk into situations without tummy aches, or sweaty palms one day.
  • cwolfman13
    cwolfman13 Posts: 41,865 Member
    competition and lifting increasingly heavy things does it for me.
  • AJ_G
    AJ_G Posts: 4,158 Member
    Let me know when you find out, cause I have no clue
  • Schlackity
    Schlackity Posts: 268 Member
    I'm reading a book right now, called "You Are A Badass" by Jen Sincero. I'm about a third of the way through and it makes a lot of sense. I guess sometimes you just have to put yourself out there and not worry about what anyone else thinks.
  • katy_trail
    katy_trail Posts: 1,992 Member
    competition and lifting increasingly heavy things does it for me.

    Aww he said it first.
    No better feeling than breaking your PR and doing what you thought was impossible!

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