OT- very upset

Mireille
Mireille Posts: 5,134 Member
edited September 19 in Health and Weight Loss
I'm so upset and I need to vent.
Last night was a planned girls night out and I was very nervous leaving my dh with the girls because I got their ears pierced 3 weeks ago. I explained how careful he had to be with their ear because if the earrings come out, they will close over. I purposely braided their hair before I went out and told him not to wash their hair in order to avoid their hair getting caught in them.

This morning when my 3 year old woke up she came running in the room crying that daddy took out her earring!!! When he put on her pj's, he pulled out an earring. Instead of calling me and telling me it happened, he put her to bed and now the hole is already closed.
If he would have called me, I could have called my girlfriend down the street to come over and put it back in.
Now I have to wait a week or two and hope that it heals properly. If there is scare tissue, they will not be able to re-pierce in the same area.

I should be able to go out and not have to worry about my children at home. This is the first time in 6 months that I've gone out in the evening. I am pissed off that I can't trust him enough to make sure things are done properly.

To top it off, he left because because I'm upset with him. I'm supposed to run 6 miles this morning and now I can't because he left me with the kids.
We are expecting 20 people today for a bbq and I obviously can't go running when they are here.

What a wonderful way to start the day. :explode:

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  • Mireille
    Mireille Posts: 5,134 Member
    I'm so upset and I need to vent.
    Last night was a planned girls night out and I was very nervous leaving my dh with the girls because I got their ears pierced 3 weeks ago. I explained how careful he had to be with their ear because if the earrings come out, they will close over. I purposely braided their hair before I went out and told him not to wash their hair in order to avoid their hair getting caught in them.

    This morning when my 3 year old woke up she came running in the room crying that daddy took out her earring!!! When he put on her pj's, he pulled out an earring. Instead of calling me and telling me it happened, he put her to bed and now the hole is already closed.
    If he would have called me, I could have called my girlfriend down the street to come over and put it back in.
    Now I have to wait a week or two and hope that it heals properly. If there is scare tissue, they will not be able to re-pierce in the same area.

    I should be able to go out and not have to worry about my children at home. This is the first time in 6 months that I've gone out in the evening. I am pissed off that I can't trust him enough to make sure things are done properly.

    To top it off, he left because because I'm upset with him. I'm supposed to run 6 miles this morning and now I can't because he left me with the kids.
    We are expecting 20 people today for a bbq and I obviously can't go running when they are here.

    What a wonderful way to start the day. :explode:
  • LokiFae
    LokiFae Posts: 774 Member
    Oh, that sucks so hard. I'm so sorry that happened to you. I know how frustrating it is when you just want to go out and relax a little bit, and then everything bites you in the a**. My husband does that too.
    Is there any way you and the girls could go on at least a walk? You would probably be able to get some interval running in and make it a chase game. Then you could at least get something in. And I'm sure your daughter's ear will be alright. If not, she can hold it over your husband's head for the rest of her life. :bigsmile: :bigsmile: :bigsmile: (j/k...sort of)
  • Shannon023
    Shannon023 Posts: 14,529 Member
    Oh Mireille, {{{{{hug}}}}}

    That REALLY stinks!! I don't blame you for being upset. :heart:

    Hunt his butt down so you can at least get your run in!

    I'm sure your daughter's ear will be fine. Those little ones heal so much better then us relics! :tongue:

    Enjoy your BBQ & no-no to putting ex-lax in dh's burger. :bigsmile:
  • sgtinvincible
    sgtinvincible Posts: 2,559
    Boys are pretty stupid sometimes. :frown:

    Sorry to hear that your day is starting off rough Mir, I hope it gets better for you. :smile:
  • nmonkey
    nmonkey Posts: 66
    It was nice of him to watch the girls for you.

    Have fun at the BBQ!
  • sheristeele
    sheristeele Posts: 39
    I am sorry that you had a horrible morning. I know you are frustrated.. but remember: No ONE watches your kids as well as you do. Your man probably did not call you because he realized that you would be upset and the rest of your night would be ruined. He probably knew you really needed the night out and didn't want to disturb you.

    Even if the ear scars, she will still be able to get them re-peirced: it will just be a little more time for the ear to heal than you probably would like.

    Try to enjoy the barbeque. Sounds like you all need a good day.

    GLAD You vented!!! Venting helps.
  • PrincessLaundry
    PrincessLaundry Posts: 2,758 Member
    Guys can be so goosey sometimes!

    I am so sorry about your girls night out. I think girls need to have a "girls night out" and then the next day are required to gather one more time to see whose hubby was the biggest goof-ball. LOL That should be a book!

    Men! :tongue:
  • Healthier_Me
    Healthier_Me Posts: 5,600 Member
    Aw Mireille, I know how frustrating hubbz can be but just have fun at the BBQ. You can have a great run tonight. Your little girl will be just fine.

    ~Joanna:flowerforyou:
  • Mireille
    Mireille Posts: 5,134 Member
    Oh, that sucks so hard. I'm so sorry that happened to you. I know how frustrating it is when you just want to go out and relax a little bit, and then everything bites you in the a**. My husband does that too.
    Is there any way you and the girls could go on at least a walk? You would probably be able to get some interval running in and make it a chase game. Then you could at least get something in. And I'm sure your daughter's ear will be alright. If not, she can hold it over your husband's head for the rest of her life. :bigsmile: :bigsmile: :bigsmile: (j/k...sort of)

    You are so right! It always comes back to bite me. Why is it when they go out everything runs smoothly???
    I am so busy today trying to get everything organized and make food that I won't be able to get out at all.
    I will just have to be out of the house at 5am tomorrow before I start work. :grumble:
    :flowerforyou:
  • Mireille
    Mireille Posts: 5,134 Member
    Oh Mireille, {{{{{hug}}}}}

    That REALLY stinks!! I don't blame you for being upset. :heart:

    Hunt his butt down so you can at least get your run in!

    I'm sure your daughter's ear will be fine. Those little ones heal so much better then us relics! :tongue:

    Enjoy your BBQ & no-no to putting ex-lax in dh's burger. :bigsmile:

    Hmmm....ex-lax...hmmmmm...here's your chocolate pudding, honey!
    Thanks for the great idea! :laugh:
  • Mireille
    Mireille Posts: 5,134 Member
    Boys are pretty stupid sometimes. :frown:

    Sorry to hear that your day is starting off rough Mir, I hope it gets better for you. :smile:

    Thanks sarge!
    I like it when men admit they can a bonehead at times. :flowerforyou:
  • Mireille
    Mireille Posts: 5,134 Member
    It was nice of him to watch the girls for you.

    Have fun at the BBQ!

    Not too sure how to take this post.
    If you are being sarcastic, then it's funny!! :laugh:


    :flowerforyou:
  • Mireille
    Mireille Posts: 5,134 Member
    I am sorry that you had a horrible morning. I know you are frustrated.. but remember: No ONE watches your kids as well as you do. Your man probably did not call you because he realized that you would be upset and the rest of your night would be ruined. He probably knew you really needed the night out and didn't want to disturb you.

    Even if the ear scars, she will still be able to get them re-peirced: it will just be a little more time for the ear to heal than you probably would like.

    Try to enjoy the barbeque. Sounds like you all need a good day.

    GLAD You vented!!! Venting helps.

    You said it! You are so right about moms just knowing what to do, at all times. It's funny cuz I'm starting to blame myself by thinking I should have grabbed a wider neck pj for him to put on her. I thought I covered all bases but I guess I didn't.

    :flowerforyou:
  • Mireille
    Mireille Posts: 5,134 Member
    Guys can be so goosey sometimes!

    I am so sorry about your girls night out. I think girls need to have a "girls night out" and then the next day are required to gather one more time to see whose hubby was the biggest goof-ball. LOL That should be a book!

    Men! :tongue:

    OMG, this is how I'm gonna be rich!!! That's the best idea ever, we should start a thread on it. lol
  • Mireille
    Mireille Posts: 5,134 Member
    Aw Mireille, I know how frustrating hubbz can be but just have fun at the BBQ. You can have a great run tonight. Your little girl will be just fine.

    ~Joanna:flowerforyou:

    Thanks Joanna!
    Unfortunately my morning is filled with cooking and the rest of the day I will have people over. I won't get a run at all today. :cry:

    Tomorrow will be better!

    :flowerforyou:
  • kimber607
    kimber607 Posts: 7,128 Member
    Hey

    That happened to my dd, but she pulled her own earring
    I can understand your frustration and think it would have been the right thing to do, for DH to admit he messed up and move on....it wasn't intentional....

    Hope things tuen around...and you get you're work out time in today

    Kim
  • sgtinvincible
    sgtinvincible Posts: 2,559
    Hey

    That happened to my dd, but she pulled her own earring
    I can understand your frustration and think it would have been the right thing to do, for DH to admit he messed up and move on....it wasn't intentional....

    Hope things tuen around...and you get you're work out time in today

    Kim


    Kimmy....you rule. :smile:
  • Mireille
    Mireille Posts: 5,134 Member
    Hey

    That happened to my dd, but she pulled her own earring
    I can understand your frustration and think it would have been the right thing to do, for DH to admit he messed up and move on....it wasn't intentional....

    Hope things tuen around...and you get you're work out time in today

    Kim

    Exactly, I know he wouldn't purposely do it but he walked away making me feel like it was my fault.
    :flowerforyou:
  • sgtinvincible
    sgtinvincible Posts: 2,559
    Hey

    That happened to my dd, but she pulled her own earring
    I can understand your frustration and think it would have been the right thing to do, for DH to admit he messed up and move on....it wasn't intentional....

    Hope things tuen around...and you get you're work out time in today

    Kim

    Exactly, I know he wouldn't purposely do it but he walked away making me feel like it was my fault.
    :flowerforyou:


    And that was his mistake I think...

    God knows when I screw up big, I wanna flee too, it's hard to step up and be like 'Honey...I might have messed up...' At least it is for me...I hate letting people down more than anything. I absolutely hate to fail the people I love...might be he's the same way...*shrug* :frown:
  • Mireille
    Mireille Posts: 5,134 Member
    Hey

    That happened to my dd, but she pulled her own earring
    I can understand your frustration and think it would have been the right thing to do, for DH to admit he messed up and move on....it wasn't intentional....

    Hope things tuen around...and you get you're work out time in today

    Kim

    Exactly, I know he wouldn't purposely do it but he walked away making me feel like it was my fault.
    :flowerforyou:

    I hate to say this but I don't think he really cares that much. I've been trying to talk to him and make things "normal" but he ain't responding. Oh well!
    I'm gonna have a glass of wine today. :flowerforyou:

    And that was his mistake I think...

    God knows when I screw up big, I wanna flee too, it's hard to step up and be like 'Honey...I might have messed up...' At least it is for me...I hate letting people down more than anything. I absolutely hate to fail the people I love...might be he's the same way...*shrug* :frown:
  • Mireille
    Mireille Posts: 5,134 Member


    And that was his mistake I think...

    God knows when I screw up big, I wanna flee too, it's hard to step up and be like 'Honey...I might have messed up...' At least it is for me...I hate letting people down more than anything. I absolutely hate to fail the people I love...might be he's the same way...*shrug* :frown:
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    I hate to admit this but I don't think he cares. I've been trying to talk to him and make things "normal" again but he's not responding. Oh well! I'm not going to sweat it.

    I'm gonna have my first glass of wine in 6 months today! :flowerforyou:
  • sgtinvincible
    sgtinvincible Posts: 2,559
    Hugs to you Mireille. :frown:
  • iluvsparkles
    iluvsparkles Posts: 1,730 Member
    huuuug! i know that what he did was not intentional, and that he was helping by watching the girls this ONE nite...but he really should have called in my opinion, especially since you explained to him that it had to be address right away if the earring came out!!

    plus, just in my opinion, you should be getting more than just the one night out in six months. especially if hubby is around...the more practice he gets, the more he will know how to handle those situations. A friend of mine is a single mom and NEVER gets a night out, so ive started offering to take the baby every now and again since she doesn't have someone 'built in' to take care of her...

    anyway, hang in there....
  • flachix
    flachix Posts: 256 Member
    Sounds like a rough morning. He might be doing a little passive/aggressive thing with the earring. maybe he didn't want to watch the kids, maybe he didn't want you to go out, maybe he didn't want you to pierce the girls ears. maybe he just goofed. but you need to talk about it. he went out? while you were yelling at him? laugh. Is he coming back in time to help out with the cooking and prep for 20 people? I would be more angry about that than the earring. try to put it all aside and enjoy the day anyway. (Tell him you would be happy to fetch him a beer or drink and rub the top of the bottle or glass on your hiney or armpit, then serve. it will make you smile at least once watching him drink it !! :wink: )
    as far as the earring... if you got it pierced at one of those quickie places at the mall with a gun that jammed the earring through the ear, there will be a small amount of scar tissue. If you want the earring in the same spot, then when it is healed, take her to an actual piercer and have them re-pierce it in the same spot. a piercer uses a needle that actually cuts a small part of the flesh away. it will effectively remove the small amount of scar tissue and place the jewelry right where you need it. if you don't want to do it that way, take out the other earring, let them both heal and then take her back to have them re-punched. (please note, using an earring 'gun' to pierce is very tramatic to the ear. (like the ones at the mall) they are impossible to sterilize, microsplatter from others and a host of bacteria causes major problems.) if you decide to go that route, please please find a place that uses single use sterile in the package piercing guns. its still tramatic to the ear, but a lot safer.
  • jdtrainer
    jdtrainer Posts: 160
    Mireille

    Sorry your day is not going as planned, and sorry that you are missing your run. Moms are pretty incredible. It is hard to live up to "mom" standards. Men can be/are intimidated by how easy moms make it look. Sometimes we act like little boys in response.

    I am not making excuses for his behavior (unexcusable), but maybe he feels out of his element in dealing with "girly" stuff. He could be acting mad at you to hide his own feelings of incompetence at handling household matters while you were out.

    Or I could be full of crap! Either way, I hope it all works out and that the rest of your day is much better. Enjoy your wine and friends and I will look forward to hearing about your great run tomorrow.

    JD
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