tired of diets looking for life changes

Good for you for looking for a lifestyle change rather than a "diet". In my opinion, whatever you do has to be sustainable.

I eat generally 5-6 times a day but that doesn't mean it's 5 MEALS. I've found that if I eat something every 4 hours or so, making sure there's some protein each time, then I'm not starving and looking to put something in my stomach fast which ends up being something calorie dense and not very good for me. I'm also working on eating cleaner. I don't eat "clean" by any means, but definitely cleaner than I used to.

Look at http://www.hsph.harvard.edu/nutritionsource/ for lots of good information.

It's all about eating the right foods and exercise if you eat processed and high carb food and do little exercise then you will be fat its quite simple really.

Humans were always hunter gatherers so we had to collect our food it was mostly made up of nuts,plants,grains and meat and fish if we could catch it.

There was no Bread and pasta and cereals as such, however our diets and lifestyle has changed we do less manual work now but eat lots of processed food and high carb food.

And see how old they lived at the time too!

Sarcasm aside, it's exactly what you want to steer away... Diet fads. Find a lifestyle you can stick to for the rest of your life, with foods you'll eat for the rest of your life... then eat less. Count calories. You'll find out that yes, highly processed foods are often too many calories for how much they actually fill you up, so you'll have to learn to eat 'whole' foods (I'm not saying unprocessed because really, most of what we eat is processed). But it doesn't mean you have to cut out carbs or a whole food group or anything.

It does not have to be processed although if you live in the states it would be difficult to eat fresh produce all the time. It is very difficult to not have any processed food.

I only very little processed food then I want to know how and what has been done to it.

I eat lots of veg and salad most of which we grow ourselves or source from the market. I buy meat and fish from the butcher or fish stall no processed meat in packets.

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You really hit the nail on the head with this one, so good job on that! You're exactly right, following a cookie cutter meal plan is ridiculous for so many reasons. It doesn't TEACH you anything about nutrition and weight loss, it doesn't fit your specific needs, and most of the time they're proven to be no more effective than simply eating less than the calories you burn.

If you're looking for a lifestyle change and not just another fad diet, I would recommend figuring out how many calories a day you need to maintain your weight, and undershooting that number each day. make sure to get at least 40% of your calories from protein, and then figure out what carb-fat ratio works best for you.

Weight loss is not dependent on the TYPES of food you eat; it is solely dependent on an energy imbalance (taking in less calories than you burn).. obviously for OPTIMAL weight loss, you want to get the right amount of protein, carbs, and fat, all while staying under maintenance calories.

Good luck!