I've Reached Failure Status.

smileyaddiction_x3
smileyaddiction_x3 Posts: 17
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~I'm basically just whining about my idiotic moves, so please, don't complain about it or attack me for it. I've gotten enough hate for doing it already ;-;~

I've gained a kilo and a half from all my binges. I'm nearing my absolute highest weight which was 97 kilos. I've been bingeing and I've lost all control over it. I've called my doctor and dietitian but like I've said everything we've tried has failed.

I've considered just giving up on this whole journey, I can't do it right.
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  • DaveyJ343
    DaveyJ343 Posts: 4 Member
    Don't give up. Just keep going at it or maybe change your approach, you might be trying to change too much too fast
  • KANGOOJUMPS
    KANGOOJUMPS Posts: 6,474 Member
    well pull yourself together and get some willpower and strength
    DO IT!
    NOW
  • smileyaddiction_x3
    smileyaddiction_x3 Posts: 17
    Unless losing half a kilo (or 1 pound) every one-two weeks is too fast, I'm just kinda done.
  • lilbearzmom
    lilbearzmom Posts: 600 Member
    The only failure would be not getting up and trying again.
  • vickyplum
    vickyplum Posts: 193 Member
    The only failure would be not getting up and trying again.

    ^this^
  • lauren3101
    lauren3101 Posts: 1,853 Member
    'Success consists of going from failure to failure without loss of enthusiasm' - Winston Churchill
  • Evilmuffin666
    Evilmuffin666 Posts: 132 Member
    Just start again with your journey. You can do it!
  • glin23
    glin23 Posts: 460 Member
    The way I look at it is this, now you have more information about yourself, what irritates you, what your pitfalls and temptations are. Now you can come back and be even more effective. Keep in mind this is a lifestyle change. There will be pitfalls.
  • GODfidence
    GODfidence Posts: 249 Member
    The hardest part of losing weight is patience,hands down.
    It sucks. Everyone here knows that. But if everyone gave up,there
    Wouldn't be success stories. Think about it this way,the past is over and there is NOTHING
    You can do to change the binges or the weight you've gained.
    Now think about this, one month from now will happen and time WILL,pass.
    Do you want to look back a month from now and say,"I gave up,I made no progress" and
    Not lose weight or potentially gain? Or a month from now say" I didn't give up,I got back up"
    And keep pressing forward and lose weight?
    Next month WILL come,and only you can dictate wether you're progressing or not.
  • jsiricos
    jsiricos Posts: 340 Member
    1 pound a week is great! You ARE doing it!
  • lilbearzmom
    lilbearzmom Posts: 600 Member
    'Success consists of going from failure to failure without loss of enthusiasm' - Winston Churchill

    Just so you know, I stole this for my profile. It sums up my life right now and I need to not forget to keep my enthusiasm. LOL
  • aakaakaak
    aakaakaak Posts: 1,240 Member
    Open up your diary. I'm going to wager a guess that you've set your numbers too low for what you're eating and you end up binging because of it. The binging sends you into a depression and you eat emotionally, which sends you into a sad food spiral.

    The answer would be to open up your diary and let people help you out by providing suggestions on how to improve your intake in a way that won't cause you to binge.

    Oh, and hit the gym. Diet is only half the equation.
  • Goddessmaker1
    Goddessmaker1 Posts: 114 Member
    Failure is a just another way to learn how to do something right~ Maion Wright Edelman

    I defintely can relate to your thoughts here. Don't allow the shame of binging get in the way of moving forward.
  • Korkor90
    Korkor90 Posts: 13 Member
    First of all you are not a failure. You just maybe need to first get your priorities and motivation in check. What is the reason why you want to lose weight? Why do you in essence sabotage yourself by binge eating? Are you stressing? What else is hindering you? What kind of food do you eat? DO you like veggies and fruits or are you more for processed and fried? Once you figure these questions out then you will be able to succeed better....

    For example. I want to lose weight because Im not healthy and i want to set a better example for my children. I am really not stressing about much. I feel that if i stress over things i cant control it will overwhelm me. I love fresh things that i make at home, like fish and chicken, brocolli and greens and fruits! Then thats basically it. So that was the first step for me. Getting my mental state in check.
  • sarahkay2007
    sarahkay2007 Posts: 42 Member
    Don't give up! You can do it, not everyone gets it the first few times but you've got to keep trying until you do :-)
  • xthexlanternx
    xthexlanternx Posts: 1
    The important thing to remember is that there is no "end" to your lifestyle, so there really is no point of failure, only success. Failure is merely an extension of your trial, a trial placed in front of you to test the limits of your conviction.

    I have been there. I feel your pain. I only recently got over some of this. Here is what I do: when you get the urge to binge, ask yourself this simple question: will eating this food (for me it is pizza and soda) feel better than being skinny, sexy, and healthy? When I ask myself this question, the urge to binge doesn't disappear, but I do gain a little inner strength. As long as you want to be successful with this lifestyle change, you can. Give yourself a chance, and don't be so hard on yourself.
  • SpleenThief
    SpleenThief Posts: 293 Member


    I've considered just giving up on this whole journey, I can't do it right.

    You're only a failure if you quit. If you've had some setbacks, pick yourself up, dust yourself off and take another run at it. It's only over if you say it's over.
  • rockerbaby2003
    rockerbaby2003 Posts: 42 Member
    Its a lifelong journey. There will be ups and downs, both emotionally and physically. As long as you don't give up you can win. Focus on the every day victories, such as packing a healthier lunch, or taking a 20 min walk after dinner, or even drinking enough water for the day. If you have a slip up, don't call it quits on the whole day, keep going. Plan ahead, such as preparing for the next meal or making a healthier choice for a snack. There's an ap on my phone called mydietcoach that I have reminders set to drink water every 2 hours, or when I should stop at work to take a break and have a snack so I'm not ravished when I get out of work and hunt down the closest fast food. I also don't carry cash often, which makes the vending machine impossible to get junk food from in the break room. That ap also has a panic button, which you can click whenever that will show you reminders why you want to be healthier.
  • Michelleh118
    Michelleh118 Posts: 42 Member
    The only failure would be not getting up and trying again.

    You can do it.
  • navyrigger46
    navyrigger46 Posts: 1,301 Member
    Open up your diary. I'm going to wager a guess that you've set your numbers too low for what you're eating and you end up binging because of it. The binging sends you into a depression and you eat emotionally, which sends you into a sad food spiral.

    The answer would be to open up your diary and let people help you out by providing suggestions on how to improve your intake in a way that won't cause you to binge.

    Oh, and hit the gym. Diet is only half the equation.

    Absolutely agree with this.

    Rigger
  • jennfit40
    jennfit40 Posts: 3
    If the bingeing is more emotional than hunger then I highly recommend reading and utilizing The Beck Diet Solution. It is a book detailing cognitive behavior therapy...which means it helps you learn how to think about how/why/what/when you eat and make slow changes. It made a dramatic difference in my emotional reaction to and about food. I have struggled my entire life with my weight, I am incredibly well-informed about diet and nutrition and exercise but this book opened my eyes to the emotional pitfalls I had created for myself around food. The methods may seem a little silly but the approach works.
  • die2fat4love
    die2fat4love Posts: 149 Member
    Every path has its ups and downs. I have been on my path for years! Find your motivation and remind yourself everyday why you are doing this! If you fell off the wagon then pick yourself up and start over. I failed many times and would wallow in my own self loathing until I remember why I wanted to lose. Find your passion and know that you have a ton of support here!
  • MaritaD
    MaritaD Posts: 178 Member
    Unless losing half a kilo (or 1 pound) every one-two weeks is too fast, I'm just kinda done.

    You have to want to do it. You can do it, everyone can do it. But your desire to succeed needs to be stronger than your desire to binge.
  • farmer50340
    farmer50340 Posts: 28 Member
    From June of last year to Thanksgiving of last year, I lost 50 pounds. By May of this year, I had gained 20 of it back, and chalked it up to "It's just a pound, I'll fix it next week." I realized that I worked hard to get to where I had been, and there was no sense in ruining it. It was like starting all over again, but I did it and am back on track. It may feel like starting all over is too much, but if it's something you want, you've got to do it.
  • RAEQ127
    RAEQ127 Posts: 106 Member
    You can give up, but here is the problem with that... if you quit trying completely in a year's time or 2,3,4,5 year's time you will be THAT much older and THAT much over weight and let me just say from experience, the bigger you are the harder it is. To the point it can be very difficult to turn around from it. It's not a rat race. If you could lose 5 pounds a year without losing your mind and spirit it would be worth it than to try losing 50 by damaging yourself emotionally.
  • kjoy_
    kjoy_ Posts: 316 Member
    every time i feel like having a binge or mindless snack i enter the time into a note i have running on my iphone and what i was feeling at the time/why i felt like i had to snack. i've learned a lot about myself this way. for instance this week i have wanted to binge/snack for the following reasons:

    -my boss dumped a huge project on my desk
    -i successfully completed a portion of the project
    -there was a phone call i was dreading making
    -i was bored

    i learned i rewarded myself for good job done with food and also used food as a comfort for myself being stressed out/anxious. now that i can recognize those feelings i've done better controlling them
  • MaritaD
    MaritaD Posts: 178 Member
    Open up your diary. I'm going to wager a guess that you've set your numbers too low for what you're eating and you end up binging because of it. The binging sends you into a depression and you eat emotionally, which sends you into a sad food spiral.

    The answer would be to open up your diary and let people help you out by providing suggestions on how to improve your intake in a way that won't cause you to binge.

    Oh, and hit the gym. Diet is only half the equation.

    This could very very well be the reason too! I set mine at 1200 and was struggling. I realized an extra 100-150 calories a day (as long as I'm exercising) I'd still see results but I wouldn't be starving constantly! Snack a lot so you don't get to the point of wanting to binge! You can do it!! Find what works for you! You won't be happy binge eating all the time either.
  • terrieleeb
    terrieleeb Posts: 13
    Forgive yourself and keep moving. The only one that loses is the one that never tried. Remember why you want to do this in the first place. My personal reasons are: I want to be able to hike and bike and love life into old age. The more I move now the more I will be able to keep moving in the future. I am slowly learning to love myself and shut the ego up. You have to be willing to see what emotional issues keep tracking you down and don't smother them listen, pay attention. When you binge you are smothering the reason you feel the need to eat. We are all in the same boat here! Each day someone needs a lifeline. Thank you for having the courage to post!
  • LaDonnaF
    LaDonnaF Posts: 53 Member
    I agree with everyone stating that this isn't something that you can start and then finish - it is for life. Your profile states that you've been trying to lose since 14 and are now 18 with some rough spots during this four-year span. There's nothing wrong with setbacks and most people have them.

    A large part of this is mental. You should really try and figure out what is driving your problem with food (bingeing). Is it emotional? (mine often is). Are you constantly hungry? Take a look at WHAT you're eating.

    You state that you have a dietician... do you go to therapy? Do you have people supporting you? Are you surrounded by people who eat whatever they want? Do they belittle your quest to lose weight and be more healthy?

    If you can't do it on your own ask for help. Try and surround yourself with people who are supportive of what you are trying to do and/or who are on the same journey/want the same things.

    When you find yourself looking for a binge... get out of the house... go somewhere away from temptations.

    I've requested to add you as my friend on here and hope others have too - most on this site are on the same journey and have many of the same troubles. You are not alone. Keep going!
  • CharleneG_Barnes
    CharleneG_Barnes Posts: 25 Member
    So many positive and helpful words........I have found that the biggest part of the journey is a mental awareness of deciding what you want then setting mini goals to get you where you want to be.....that way its been easier for me than I expected (most of the time) but of course there area easier and harder days or sometimes weeks.
    If you are ready to commit to yourself, set the smaller goals, and then keep trying till you acheive what you want.
    Its not always easy but you will be able to do it. We believe you can---now you just have to believe you can.
    Good luck

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