judgement in the shopping line at walmart
operation_cute
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So me and my family stopped at walmart last night, I had some extra cals to kill, and we we're all in the mood for these heat and serve sandwiches that our walmart serves in the deli side of the store. We grabbed a few extras for lunches and i also found some frozen chinese food, and some bertollis. needless to say, our shopping cart (as a family of 6) had a good 20 or so processed meals, which id like to point out we've been avoiding buying, but i don't see the harm every once in a while.
Well we were in line, and this really fit girl turns looks at me, looks at our cart litterally rolls her eyes, whispers something to her equally as fit boyfriend he turns looks looks at her and they start laughing. i know exactly what they were thinking, she has no idea that the majority of the meals in my cart were 300-400 cals each, that they all packed enough protien to keep me full, that they were being fit into a calorie budgted meal plan and that I had saved a couple hundred calories to begin with from the day before that didn't get fully used up at a dinner party at a friends house. They were assuming that we're fat because we buy all this crap.
edit: I'd also like to point out, that I know I didn't KNOW EXACTLY what they were thinking, but I think by their actions it was still pretty apparant the over all judgement.
Then we see her outside in their truck and she lights up a cigarrette. now my question is, how come her assumption about our health is only important if it only effects the outside. Why is it only health matters and is warrant for judgement if it only effects your appearance? I don't smoke, drink, or anything else, and to be honest I have no weight related health problems, and because of my waist size am at a low risk as well. But yet people can look at me and my food and judge. This just urks me.
Before I get a whole lot of "I smoke don't judge me" I'm not. I could care less what someone else does to their bodies, my point was if I could care less about what goes in her body, why should she be able to judge me about what goes into mine?
Well we were in line, and this really fit girl turns looks at me, looks at our cart litterally rolls her eyes, whispers something to her equally as fit boyfriend he turns looks looks at her and they start laughing. i know exactly what they were thinking, she has no idea that the majority of the meals in my cart were 300-400 cals each, that they all packed enough protien to keep me full, that they were being fit into a calorie budgted meal plan and that I had saved a couple hundred calories to begin with from the day before that didn't get fully used up at a dinner party at a friends house. They were assuming that we're fat because we buy all this crap.
edit: I'd also like to point out, that I know I didn't KNOW EXACTLY what they were thinking, but I think by their actions it was still pretty apparant the over all judgement.
Then we see her outside in their truck and she lights up a cigarrette. now my question is, how come her assumption about our health is only important if it only effects the outside. Why is it only health matters and is warrant for judgement if it only effects your appearance? I don't smoke, drink, or anything else, and to be honest I have no weight related health problems, and because of my waist size am at a low risk as well. But yet people can look at me and my food and judge. This just urks me.
Before I get a whole lot of "I smoke don't judge me" I'm not. I could care less what someone else does to their bodies, my point was if I could care less about what goes in her body, why should she be able to judge me about what goes into mine?
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Don't let other people deter you from your goal. You know your plans as to when and how you would eat those meals. Simply just focus on you. People judge wrongly often times, and clearly she judged you wrongly.
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People judge you can't take offence. It sucks it happens.0
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Rawr to these cart trolls!
I hate when people judge on the food being consumed.
I'm opposite from you, well its almost completely different.
My work consist of over weight employees except three of us. I am always being made of for my al natural clean eating and told that's why I always have a cold.
Its quite irritating when people judge.0 -
Because people judge others all of the time and we have no control over their thoughts. Cool thing is....we can control our own.0
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I think you're getting a little too worked up about it. I would just forget her. If she was actually laughing at you for your shopping cart or size (which is just speculation, by the way), she is a) rude b) is in no position to comment on your health related issues considering she's a smoker.
She does seem to have you worked up about this though, and I bet that was her goal - to have some sort of effect on you.
Just ignore it and move on with your day, your goals and your way of life.
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People are going to judge you based on whatever criteria they want to. You can't do a thing about it. All you can control are your own actions and reactions. Don't waste your energy worrying about what complete strangers think of you.0
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So you have no idea what these two people were saying or thinking, but have lingering doubts about your meal choices and assumed other people were judging. Then you wanted to judge back because angry.
It's not a healthy approach to life. Do what you think is right and don't try to read minds.0 -
So you have no idea what these two people were saying or thinking, but have lingering doubts about your meal choices and assumed other people were judging. Then you wanted to judge back because angry.
It's not a healthy approach to life. Do what you think is right and don't try to read minds.
Please fully read the entire post before commenting. Thank you.
edit: I'd also like to point out, that I know I didn't KNOW EXACTLY what they were thinking, but I think by their actions it was still pretty apparant the over all judgement.
Before I get a whole lot of "I smoke don't judge me" I'm not. I could care less what someone else does to their bodies, my point was if I could care less about what goes in her body, why should she be able to judge me about what goes into mine?0 -
People judge. It happens. Even you do it sometimes.
If you know they don't know the full story... why not laugh at her holier-than-thou attitude and shrug it off? My family rolls their eyes and talks about my "diet" every time I decline fast food. Whatever. I'm not on a "diet" so Idgaf what they think.... They also seem to take pleasure in thinking I've failed in said "diet" when they hear about/ see me eating my poptart ice cream sandwiches. Whatever. I'm making progress and it will show and I'll take pleasure in watching them struggle to figure out how I'm doing it while constantly "failing". muahaha
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So you have no idea what these two people were saying or thinking, but have lingering doubts about your meal choices and assumed other people were judging. Then you wanted to judge back because angry.
It's not a healthy approach to life. Do what you think is right and don't try to read minds.
Please fully read the entire post before commenting. Thank you.
edit: I'd also like to point out, that I know I didn't KNOW EXACTLY what they were thinking, but I think by their actions it was still pretty apparant the over all judgement.
Before I get a whole lot of "I smoke don't judge me" I'm not. I could care less what someone else does to their bodies, my point was if I could care less about what goes in her body, why should she be able to judge me about what goes into mine?
Sounds like you feel insecure about your purchases, how do you know she wasn't laughing at the clothes you were wearing or something else that had nothing to do with your cart?0 -
How do you know they weren't laughing because they bought some of those meals, cooked them and it spilled all over the kitchen floor? or how do you know they weren't laughing because they like the commercials of the foods?
Sound silly?
We cannot control other people, but we can control our own thoughts and behaviors. If it upset you that much, have a pity party for 15 minutes and move on. Life is too short to get upset about random people in public.0 -
So you have no idea what these two people were saying or thinking, but have lingering doubts about your meal choices and assumed other people were judging. Then you wanted to judge back because angry.
It's not a healthy approach to life. Do what you think is right and don't try to read minds.
Please fully read the entire post before commenting. Thank you.
edit: I'd also like to point out, that I know I didn't KNOW EXACTLY what they were thinking, but I think by their actions it was still pretty apparant the over all judgement.
Before I get a whole lot of "I smoke don't judge me" I'm not. I could care less what someone else does to their bodies, my point was if I could care less about what goes in her body, why should she be able to judge me about what goes into mine?
Sounds like you feel insecure about your purchases, how do you know she wasn't laughing at the clothes you were wearing or something else that had nothing to do with your cart?
Because she looked at my cart after looking at me, and then he did the same thing. To be honest I could care less what she thinks of me or my eating choices, and really didn't think anything of it till we got out in the parking lot and saw her lighting a cigarrette. My main question with this post (the rest being the part leading up to my question) is what makes health decisions only important if it just effects someones appearance. It shows me that people really don't care about health at all, its all aesthetics, which to me is sad, because there is so much more to people than what they look like on the outside.0 -
If people at Walmart accept you as one of their own only then should you be concerned!0
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If people at Walmart accept you as one of their own only then should you be concerned!
LOL yes I agree, thank goodness I wasn't in my jammies 0 -
How do you know they weren't laughing because they bought some of those meals, cooked them and it spilled all over the kitchen floor? or how do you know they weren't laughing because they like the commercials of the foods?
Sound silly?
We cannot control other people, but we can control our own thoughts and behaviors. If it upset you that much, have a pity party for 15 minutes and move on. Life is too short to get upset about random people in public.
This was my pity party :flowerforyou:0 -
before this thread makes page 2 I would just like to make sure you are properly belittled for shopping at Walmart...0
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Then we see her outside in their truck and she lights up a cigarrette
When you saw that you should have looked at her, looked at the cigarette and laughed.
In all honesty I'm a bit bolder and if someone did that to me I'd say "Excuse me but do you find something humorous about me?" You'd be surprised at how people back pedal and get flustered when you do that!!0 -
So you have no idea what these two people were saying or thinking, but have lingering doubts about your meal choices and assumed other people were judging. Then you wanted to judge back because angry.
It's not a healthy approach to life. Do what you think is right and don't try to read minds.
op is obviously very hurt by this or she wouldn't have posted trying to explain her processed meals lol0 -
How do you know they weren't laughing because they bought some of those meals, cooked them and it spilled all over the kitchen floor? or how do you know they weren't laughing because they like the commercials of the foods?
Sound silly?
We cannot control other people, but we can control our own thoughts and behaviors. If it upset you that much, have a pity party for 15 minutes and move on. Life is too short to get upset about random people in public.
This was my pity party :flowerforyou:
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Rawr to these cart trolls!
I hate when people judge on the food being consumed.
I'm opposite from you, well its almost completely different.
My work consist of over weight employees except three of us. I am always being made of for my al natural clean eating and told that's why I always have a cold.
Its quite irritating when people judge.
I get those looks too the majority of the other times I shop lol those ussually end up being looks into my cart then into their own
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How dare you be upset about something that happened in your life? Shame! Shame!0
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How dare you be upset about something that happened in your life? Shame! Shame!
I know right? :flowerforyou:0 -
Everyone judges no matter what they say. You judged her for smoking, whether you care what she does or not. She likely judged you for what you had in your cart and I'm sure she doesn't actually care what you and your family consume. The difference is she made you feel badly, which sucks and was unnecessary. She probably would have done the same thing if you had a cart full of fruits and veggies.0
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stop letting silly things offend you. not only did it upset you that day but it has been on your mind since and you have even started a thread about it.
next time just let it wash over you.0 -
I understand where you are coming from and I personally would've deliberately walked past her car, looked in as she was lighting her cigarette and smiled and simply shook my head.0
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before this thread makes page 2 I would just like to make sure you are properly belittled for shopping at Walmart...
lol sorry I will try to fix that next time :laugh:0 -
I was shopping at Walmart and this lady pulled up behind me right after my girlfriend farted. The gf was a little embarrassed but it was hilarious.
That woman was so pissed she gave us the evil eye all the way out to the parking lot. Oh well!0 -
I'd judge you both equally. I won't shop at Walmart, I go to Target.0
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I'm judging you right now.0
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Try farting at them next time.0
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