"You weight what? Girl, I'd kill to be that weight!"
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ya id love to be 157 too so
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People have this funny way of making something you post about yourself about themselves instead.0
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if anyone posted something like that on facebook I would probably be like what an attention seeker, even though i weigh the same amount and am not happy with it I would never post that on facebook because...that's a weird thing to post...especially if you're uncomfortable with it why would you want to tell the world now everyone will probably see that extra 10 lbs cause you called attention to it when before they probably wouldn't notice.0
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If you're going to post on FB, focus more on the fact that you inadvertently gained 10 lbs.-- not what you currently weigh.
EVERYONE-- 100 lbs. or 300 lbs.--can relate to feeling bummed by a 10 lb. gain. A 250 pound person-- or even a 200 lb. person-- feels a lot less bummed when they hear gaining 10 lbs. got you to 157. See what I'm saying? If you want support, mention the gain (or loss)-- not your current weight. It's a lot more universal then "gee, I'm so sad I went from 120 to 130."
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My journey started in 2010, and starting in 2011 I got serious about the working out and watching really what goes in (joined MFP). My friends are used to my "annoying posts" of all the workouts, pictures of my meal prepping, and yes also the moments when I lose control and gain some back. I have had a few comments of backlash, but you know, I've come to a place in this thing called MY LIFE where I just don't give a damn if someone has negative to say about my journey! And those that follow me on social media have figured that out and for the most part support me no matter what. I am very proud to be aware of where I sit physically with weight, strength, endurance and self control, and you should too!!!
Good luck!!0 -
Don't post stuff like that on Facebook for the world to see if you don't want to hear the responses.
I completely agree!0 -
I have always been blessed with great skin. Small pores and hardly any breakouts even as a teenager. Getting the occasional pimple was frustrating as I really enjoy having 100% blemish-free skin... but I was conscious of other people's feelings and I wouldn't go stand next to a girl who suffered from acne and complain about how disgusting I looked due to a single pimple because I had EMPATHY and I could imagine how that might make her feel.
I weigh 250.. honestly there was a time where 250 was my GOAL WEIGHT because anything less than that seemed IMPOSSIBLE. When I was 360 I had a friend who was 150something and would complain all the time about how fat she was.. ... It was extremely irksome and yes, many times I just wanted to tell her to STFU... If she said something like she's focusing on her fitness goals fine.. but did a 360 pound woman really need to listen to her go on and on about how disgustingly huge a 150 pound woman felt??? Even at my current weight I try to remember that there are many people out there who would kill to be my weight.0 -
Kudos to you for being able to take a hint and back off. That's a rare skill, and a charming one.0
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I've been in this situation with 2 close friends who are also trying to lose weight. It's nothing short of uncomfortable, so I rarely publicize my actual weight. With one friend who is over 200 pounds and has been up and down for the past year while doing weight watchers, for some reason my weight just came out in a conversation we were having. I was 135 at the time and she said she couldn't even imagine being "that small." I had to remind her that I am MUCH shorter than her... while 135 would be in the bottom of her BMI, for me, it's still classified as over weight! I think she came by the comment honestly though and she knows why she is the weight that she is.
Another friend of mine who has been up and down with her weight for years commented when I refused to eat pancakes at breakfast and instead ordered an egg white omelette and side salad. She said I didn't "need" to do that because I am "tiny." I expressed to her that I still have a good 10 pounds to lose, and she responded by saying she would give "anything" to be "as small" as me. In that case, I just reminded her of how hard it actually is to lose weight... This particular friend makes a lot of comments about my weight and tends to be nicer to me when I'm heavier. I don't think there is a right way to respond in that case. I just try to be polite, but it kind of hurts since she was a very good friend.0 -
You annoyed them, they annoyed you. That's Facebook, alright.
I understand you because I am light but looking to get lighter. My tiny waist is what people notice before my hyoooge hips. So if I know I'm over, I have to keep that feeling to myself or people get pissy.
Even on here. It's like a competition to be the fattest to lose the most. *shrug* Everyone's personal journey.0 -
It sounds to me like they were just trying to make you feel better and comfort you. It's already been said but if hearing specific responses to sensitive issues for you will bring you down then just keep it between you and a few close friends that will give you the support and words you need to hear.
as she says...and im not sure how tall you are, im 5'6 and that is "fat" for my height....however I don't put stuff out there on FB..i know in the past I made comments about how I feel fat in my size 8's and I hoping to get in 4's or 6's ASAP and people that are 5'11 or so...that is really small for them....easy to offend people both ways.....0 -
I used to say things like that to people mindlessly before I understood some things.
1.) Just because someone is thinner than me, doesn't mean they are at a healthy weight.
2.) even though skinny people are not "over weight" some have body issues as well.
So, how did I come to these realizations? I had to be told, and then to see it first hand made it really hit home.
No. You can't make everyone see it, and you can't make everyone realize it. Find you a good friend that you can tell anything to.
Write a diary, or a blog about it.
I wouldn't post it on Facebook, because not everyone is going to understand what your going through, and what your dealing with.
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to be honest people forget that 157lbs looks very different on everybody if you were 5ft thats quite big for a little person but when anyone gains weight they get upset, my friend posted she was 139 the other day and I was like umm thats my goal weight... she's 2inches smaller than me so that could look different on her. I hold my weight well fortunately but thats because i'm heavier than I look which means my goal weight is higher... maybe i'm big boned and very muscly I dunno... but yeh don't talk to people about it because they will winge about their weight too.0
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I would just say something along the lines of "thank you for your comments, but it is really important for me to be within my ideal BMI" or some crap like that. I hate the "well, I am fatter" comments. If you know you are fatter, do something about it, don't just say you'd kill to be my weight. I am done making people feel okay about being fat, when I am killing myself not to be.0
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If I gained 10 pounds I would not post my weight on facebook or complain about my weight. I would post articles and talk about fitness in general. I am slim, slender, very fit. I would feel bad if I gained some weight. But, I would consider it to be rude towards my friends to talk about it, and especially knowing that they would not understand where I was coming from. A ten pound gain is really more of a personal issue, not a public one. Our weight number is our own for so many factors (I don't share that on fb, unless I am talking about something that brings it up for some reason). If I talk about weight it would be one on one with another dancer/fitness friend that is my same size.0
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I might be in the minority here but I hate when people post things like "I WEIGH 135 I AM SO GROSS I CANT BELIEVE HOW GROSS I AM I NEED TO WEIGH 110 AGAIN" Well if you think you're gross at 135 I guess you think I am just downright disgusting at over 200? Nobody really wants to be a part of your self deprecation, if you don't want responses, simply don't post it. Or post it on MFP where people have similar goals as you. Of course there is a difference between posting a goal and self deprecating, but still, facebook is probably not the place.0
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I have in the past. I joined Weight Watchers in my 20s when I weighed about 147. I wanted to weigh 128; for some reason, that was my "magic number".
We had a meeting basically focused on me and why I was there because some of the obese members had expressed resentment to the group leader about how I was there rubbing my thinness in their faces.
I'd claw out Sean Hannity's eyeballs to be 147 again. Actually, I'd probably claw them out anyway.0 -
fat black chick? FAT BLACK CHICK? WHAAAAAT!
Anyway maybe you can just vent to those close around u.0 -
Friends don't give advice, they tell you what they think you want to hear.0
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If you post about your weight/health/fitness on Facebook your gonna have a bad time0
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Here are some good replies, not yelling... just caps to set them off as answers. Seriously don't yell at people, that would be mean, just say the following in the most quiet and sweet restrained intellectual tone.
"157 lbs??? Girl, I am 250 lbs. I am fat. You are not."
THAT'S TRUE.
"I'd sell my soul to the devil to be 157 pounds."
WHAT WOULD YOU SELL ME? CAUSE I CAN GET YOU THERE. *giggity*
"Seriously. I'd love to be at that weight too, but everyone is right."
NOT REALLY, ONLY ME, CAUSE I'M THE ONLY ONE WHO'S 157.
"Omg that's not fat."
OMG, THAT'S NOT THE POINT.
"hey while your busy feeling fat just remember that out there is a fat black chic that would kill to only weigh that much."
HEY WHILE YOUR BUSY BEING RACIST JUST REMEMBER THAT YOU'RE FAT TOO.
"If I cut off one of my legs, I might weigh 157. Probably not though"
THEN CUT OFF BOTH. GO BIG OR GO HOME, THAT'S WHAT MY TRAINER ALWAYS SAYS.
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I HATE when people say this to me or "You look good, you don't need to lose weight", "Please, you are next to me and I am XXX pounds" or "I hate when skinny girls say they need to lose weight"
First off, these people do not know my BMI, my BAI and they do not know where my starting weight point was. If they were only 5-15lbs from their goal weight, I wouldn't tell them to give up! I hate when people assume that because they may have X amount to lose, anyone who has less weight to lose really doesn't need to lose weight.0 -
I think if you would have left your actual weight out of the post then you wouldn't have gotten the responses you did...0
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I only tell my twin sister my weight. She is the only person that needs to know. Reporting it on facebook is just saying
"I need attention, please tell me I am skinny."0 -
I have been on both sides of this fence......5'8" and 127 pounds 30+ yrs ago.....and 5'6" (yes you do shrink when you get old) lol
and 304LBS last year!
When I was rail thin....I still hated it when I saw 130 on the scale...and complained to my "thin friends"....
Then when I ht 300+ I found MFP, and voiced my concerns to my new found "NOT SO THIN" friends....:)
In both situations, thin, and NOT, I have found empathy...encouragement, and support....but I "stuck to my own kind", so to speak.....I never would have complained at 130 pounds, about my weight to my best friend, who was easily 250 pounds.....
"Birds of a feather" you know...:) And of course there was no "social media", 30 years ago....
I agree with others here, putting numbers out there for anyone to read is just asking for all kinds of responses, some good, from people in the same shoes, more than likely, and some not so good.
Kinda like complaining about wearing glasses to a blind man:)
But having been where you are, I say get on it now girl!!! Before it's 100 pounds, and you get where I am/was, and good luck to you:)0 -
I keep it to myself, or talk about it on here only.0
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Here are some good replies, not yelling... just caps to set them off as answers. Seriously don't yell at people, that would be mean, just say the following in the most quiet and sweet restrained intellectual tone.
"157 lbs??? Girl, I am 250 lbs. I am fat. You are not."
THAT'S TRUE.
"I'd sell my soul to the devil to be 157 pounds."
WHAT WOULD YOU SELL ME? CAUSE I CAN GET YOU THERE. *giggity*
"Seriously. I'd love to be at that weight too, but everyone is right."
NOT REALLY, ONLY ME, CAUSE I'M THE ONLY ONE WHO'S 157.
"Omg that's not fat."
OMG, THAT'S NOT THE POINT.
"hey while your busy feeling fat just remember that out there is a fat black chic that would kill to only weigh that much."
HEY WHILE YOUR BUSY BEING RACIST JUST REMEMBER THAT YOU'RE FAT TOO.
"If I cut off one of my legs, I might weigh 157. Probably not though"
THEN CUT OFF BOTH. GO BIG OR GO HOME, THAT'S WHAT MY TRAINER ALWAYS SAYS.
LOL.... LOVE!!0 -
It's not about weight, it's about lean body mass compared to body fat.0
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That's what THIS place is for. Post that stuff here and you'll find support and understanding. Facebook is the wrong place to post specific numbers. Or just "I gained ten pounds and I'm really disappointed in myself. ". And leave it at that
This.
On the flip side, which would you rather? People saying, "You're being ridiculous. You're not fat." Or "You DO look pretty nasty these days. I wasn't going to say anything, but... Yeah. Get working on that."0
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