"You weight what? Girl, I'd kill to be that weight!"

Dunsirn *Likes* this.

(dammit, they should have some sort of affirmation generation system on here...)

I agree with the reply that said this "I need attention, please tell me I am skinny."

Mentioning your weight on fb is strange. You open yourself up to all kinds of comments plus no one really cares. You come across as a bragger to overweight people and thin people think you are fat.

If you really want support and suggestions on how to lose weight, get it here.

This.

I don't tell friends who are going through divorce how great my marriage is. You have to know your target audience's issues and have some empathy.

Everyone that has posted here has a good point. It really is your life and if you don't want people saying things like that, don't post it on a very public site. Even if you make it private, people will see it eventually. I currently weigh 239 and I am trying to lose weight to be about 155 and I'm 5'4". I was told at the nutrition consult for Bariatric surgery that I didn't look like I belonged in the meeting that I didn't look like I weigh as much as I do. I like to think that the reason for that is because I have a lot of muscle. The person who told me this weighs well over 300 lbs, but she is also quite a bit taller than me. My point being, everyone is jealous of someone or everyone always wants more (or less in weight terms). I do post numbers and such on Facebook. I am not shy about my weight because I know that it IS my fault that I let myself go and I am working to find myself again. It's not an easy journey, for anyone!

Keep your head up and carry on like it never happened. Good luck with your goals!

I personally would respond with something dramatic like, "Oh my soul aches over this and now I am going to go bludgeon myself with my high school cheerleading trophy."

I don't post my weight on Facebook, but sometimes I will post the fact that my weight went up, or my clothes size changed, etc. so I know exactly how you feel. It is insanely frustrating to be working very hard for a specific goal only to have some people bigger than you ridicule you when you by chance took a step backwards away from said goal.

Just remember that YOU are the one working hard for that goal, and not them. They are making crazy remarks like that because deep down, they honestly do wish that they had your motivation and dedication to get to a smaller goal. Perhaps they are jealous. Perhaps not...perhaps they are simply letting loose personal feelings of anger and disappointment in THEMSELVES because they are not where you are.

But whatever the reasons they make the comments, just remember that it is best to not respond to make the situation worse. I found that when it happened to me and I politely explained how my personal goal was to be 16% body fat and to wear size 2 clothes, they started body shaming ladies who were that size talking all bad about what they think of that look, how it will also look awful on me, etc. It's best to not respond and let the conversation die. And then from here on out, don't bother posting specifics on Facebook (unless you get to your goal and are happy about it! If you go backwards, don't let them know! it only feeds the fire).

As far as the other comments that suggested to only tell these things to your thin friends...I somewhat agree. I would simply change that to fit-minded friends. Meaning, have a group of friends (such as MFP'ers) who are trying to change their body for the better, whether losing fat, gaining muscle, or just training for a specific goal like a 5k. They can be any size, really. Fit-minded people will support you in your goals, even if they are not there yet! They will understand. If they don't, then they shouldn't be your friends anyway. IMHO.

This is why you ONLY friend real friends on Facebook. Ones you would talk about your weight, love life, friendships, work, etc.

I'm friends with my real friends on fb, but I would have boring friends if I talked about my weight with all my friends. We talk about different things with different people, in the context of different friendships.

Also, I like facebook. I have moved a lot and have a lot of friends that I would have lost touch with otherwise. I don't play games or do mindless stuff on fb or post excessive baby pics. I talk about important issues. I share funny anecdotes about my kids or other experiences. I see what my friends post (and enjoy seeing their kids). I share about my dance performances and find out about other dance projects and opportunities within the dance community. I just don't post on fb everyday, more like once a week or so (at most).

How I would respond would be, "Thanks, everybody. I know you're all right. I know logically it's not that big of a deal. But sometimes that stupid little voice inside your head still creeps up on you."

Because that's exactly what I tell myself when I get frustrated over minor setbacks. No one holds the market on insecurities and frustration. Everyone experiences them from time to time.

They're trying to make you feel better. Because they're your friends. Don't get all offended.

Just try to take it in stride and remember a couple of things. First, when people respond like this, it really isn't a reflection on you. It's that a lot of other people out there have weight issues too and they are just as easily upset by reminders of their weight issues as you are. Some people feel like when a "skinny" person announces their weight to the world for any reason, it's just trying to rub "fat" people's faces in it. Since that wasn't your intention, there's no reason for you to be upset by other people's reactions. Second, if you are going to talk about a sensitive topic in public, you have to be prepared for a lot of different reactions. If you can't handle those reactions, it would probably be a good idea to save those kinds of discussions for friends and family members that you know can understand how you are feeling.

Don't post stuff like that on Facebook for the world to see if you don't want to hear the responses.

This. I cringe when people put personal crap on FB. Are you new to the internets? Of course a 250 friend is going to envy your weight. What on earth are you complaining about? If you're unhappy with your weight, do something about it other than complaining on FB and then complaining about the responses. All that energy could have gone into a great run.

People people... The girl did NOT post it on FB. She posted it HERE hoping to have some support and probably some ways to help her lose those 10 lbs... She did not ask to have rude responses. She thought she was among friends with the same issues.

And this post is to not aggravate things. She simply wants to know HOW to rephrase her question to not offend anyone and to get some positive responses.

My suggestion would be to post it on your wall rather on the forum. Your FL have mostly the same issues as yours. The forum has a wider variety of people.

People people... The girl did NOT post it on FB. She posted it HERE hoping to have some support and probably some ways to help her lose those 10 lbs... She did not ask to have rude responses. She thought she was among friends with the same issues.

No. This is exactly what she wrote in her first post.

I gained 10lbs and it REALLY upset me. I posted on my facebook "I'm up to 157. I don't know what happened." and here are some of the responses:

Thanks...you beat me to quoting the facebook comment!

People people... The girl did NOT post it on FB. She posted it HERE hoping to have some support and probably some ways to help her lose those 10 lbs... She did not ask to have rude responses. She thought she was among friends with the same issues.

No. This is exactly what she wrote in her first post.

I gained 10lbs and it REALLY upset me. I posted on my facebook "I'm up to 157. I don't know what happened." and here are some of the responses:

I still think she should post it on her MFP wall rather than out in public....

Is it really better just to shut up about weight issues?

Yes. It's your own business and posting it on FB won't make it better for you.

I gained three pounds this summer and that puts me at 135 lbs. NO ONE cares and I would never put it on FB. I'm dealing with it here.

This is why you ONLY friend real friends on Facebook. Ones you would talk about your weight, love life, friendships, work, etc.

I'm friends with my real friends on fb, but I would have boring friends if I talked about my weight with all my friends. We talk about different things with different people, in the context of different friendships.

Also, I like facebook. I have moved a lot and have a lot of friends that I would have lost touch with otherwise. I don't play games or do mindless stuff on fb or post excessive baby pics. I talk about important issues. I share funny anecdotes about my kids or other experiences. I see what my friends post (and enjoy seeing their kids). I share about my dance performances and find out about other dance projects and opportunities within the dance community. I just don't post on fb everyday, more like once a week or so (at most).

What I meant was it is better to only friend REAL friends on facebook. The type of friends you would talk about those things with. Not the neighbor of your best friend whom you only waved to once, or a parent of another kid that goes to your childs school with whom you have never had a conversation with. That type of thing. I have no idea why people friend people on Facebook when they are not friends (people they would hang out with, converse with) in real life. Talk about posting weight issues on FB being a ploy for attention? Well, that is EVERYTHING people put on FB- status updates, photos, videos, everything

I just think it's odd how everyone judges other strangers use of facebook based on their own experiences with it. I don't mean just you, I mean I see this a lot on here.

I'm only saying that in real life, I have real, close, important friends that weigh more than twice my weight. I would not talk about my weight with them (I might talk about strength training if they asked). Just because I don't talk about my weight with them, does not mean it is not a real and important friendship. I don't really tell anyone my weight. I am petite and my weight is low and people don't understand that.

Also, just want to clarify that I am not personally upset with you (I know tone can get lost on the internet).

then you are putting the thin girlfriend in an awkward position as well. oops forgot to quote, this was in the response of the person who said find a thin gf to complain to.